Why post online a photo of your ill child when you check in to the local hospital??

[MilnersGold]

Just why??? If you need help, your phone obviously works, text someone FGS

I don't understand it, my (older, preteen) DC would be mortified.

AIBU to think it is all about mummy getting attention, not the ill child.

Flame away

On the one hand I agree completely, it's totally attention seeking.

BUT... I grew up with a very accident prone brother and pulling out the camera and taking photos while we waited on medical attention for his latest disaster was a good way of a) distracting/entertaining him and b) keeping him from freaking out because if everyone is calm and taking photos of his wound then it can't be that bad right.

It is possible these parents are just trying to keep their kids entertained/calm by saying "what an impressive injury, lets post on facebook".

Probably I hope you are doing better this morning and haven't let some of the comments on this thread get to you too much. I sometimes wonder whether people would express their opinions so "honestly" face to face as they do hiding behind a keyboard. Whether you like it or not there is no excuse at all for calling people "twatty" or "wankers". You can not like it and scroll past or even say you don't like it, but I really think people go too far especially on a subject which could be sensitive to many. I have never posted a photo but I don't have a problem with those who do. Having spent long lonely hours on the Childrens ward I'm empathetic and if it helps people cope then fine. I have checked in saying here again with a sad face. Most people on my FB network know about my daughters condition so I don't feel the need to provide more info at that point. I will always report later when I have some news but why I should need to defend my actions I really don't know. A little off topic, but I also wanted to add that if it hadn't been for FB I wouldn't know any other parents whose children have the same condition as my daughter as it is so rare. FB has helped me connect with a few people across the world and helped me access support I wouldn't have had.

I clearly put them into two categories..I make the distinction between the two
When you put anything on Facebook or any social media you are putting yourself out there for scrutiny
It's not my job to be worrying if that person feels offended or not by my opinion

My MIL is very ill in hospital and I did tell my DP he was missing out on checking in at the hospital with no information. Then coming back to people by saying I'll PM you or not at all.

Glitter you are entitled to your opinion, but I take issue with your posts on the following fronts:

1. Is it really justified to call people wanky? People go too far with their insults online, would you say this to someone's face
2. The black & white judgement. We are all different, we parent differently and we have different needs and circumstances. There should be more allowance of this before casting sweeping judgements
3. Its about your friend not you in her situation. You may not need to see photos of her sick child to feel sympathetic but it isn't about you, its about her. If she wanted to post them and that helped her cope then why wouldn't that be ok?

I am entitled to my opinion yes and I gave it
Firstly I never called anyone on this thread wanky
As far as I'm concerned it is wanky behaviour and in fairness, judging from other comments on the thread I'm not the only person who thinks so
People are free to post what they want on Facebook and I'm free to think what I like about those posts

Also I never insulted any one on Facebook ..I simply remove the attention seeking person from my friend list and move on
I like others on this thread expressed an opinion I didn't ask anyone to agree with it

So true. Hate this. Its attention seeking thats all

Not touchy at all I'm simply responding to what the previous person said to me

I've posted on Facebook when ds was still sleeping after an op to let people know it had gone as planned and then took a photo of him bouncing around the ward. He is severely autistic and my family wanted to know that he had coped with being there.

I only have family and actual friends on Facebook though.

There's someone I know who does this all the time. Before she had children she was always in hospital herself, now she has them every few weeks one is in and she's taking photos of them lied on trolleys in a&E, making sure she gets heart monitors etc in the photo. Their poor faces upsets me, there's full albums of 'her baybbiesss' at all different angles. I feel like telling her to get off her phone and concentrate on her children if they're so ill.

Very very different though when a child is chronically ill, much of the time the only photos they do get to be in are of them in hospital because they can't go out.

Glitter you are splitting hairs. No you didn't call anyone personally on this thread wanky but you generically talked about Wanky parents and yes wanky behaviour. This is insulting in itself and it clearly upset some people on this thread

It's certainly a very different scenario when a child is very ill and people are keeping family updated ..no one has said they have an issue with that..personally I don't post pictures of my children when ill..even seriously ill
The main offenders are the ones who post every time little Jonny has a scraped knee or whatever and has been posed for a photo while he's sat in a&e very likely in pain and frightened just so mum can get sympathy on Facebook

You're entitled to your opinion of course..as I'm I

My DPs exw does this. Several times that's how we found out his kids were poorly :( and that his daughter had been for her tonsils out - DSD did tell us but then exw said she'd got the dates mixed up and it was the following week because she'd asked her dad to come to the hospital with her

yes it is a very different scenario and this is why I think it is prudent to choose ones language carefully. You weren't necessarily the worst offender looking back I can see people being described as assholes which I think is out of order however much you dislike the behaviour.

I don't get why people do it just as I don't understand why people post selfies of themselves at funerals and then post on Facebook.

I also don't understand it when people say "I wanted to let family know" Well group text or call them privately?

mrsdevere as I used that comment you quoted I feel I need to reply here. The woman I'm on about isn't doing it to let family members know what's going on, she doesn't need 30 photos per admission to do that. She spends all the time whilst they're there replying to every single message, sharing extremely detailed and personal accounts of what her child is going through whilst she's typing to people she barely knows. It's attention seeking pure and simple and I feel for the poor children who are being used in her ploy.

Photos of them naked. Photos of them having bloods taken (instead of y'know, comforting them), photos of them having a cannula cited, photos of them being sick, photos of their wrist band, photos of their obs machine, photos of their charts, photos of them sleeping, photos of them crying in pain. It's horrendous.

I think people simply Facebook whatever feels like a big deal to them.