Why post online a photo of your ill child when you check in to the local hospital??

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Just why??? If you need help, your phone obviously works, text someone FGS

I don't understand it, my (older, preteen) DC would be mortified.

AIBU to think it is all about mummy getting attention, not the ill child.

Flame away

I'm sorry if my fb posts offend people but they can always unfriend me! DS1 was run over by a lorry before Christmas and lost 5cm of bone from his leg and the hospital have amazingly been able to regrow it. I still post from some of our hospital visits e.g. the day he learnt to walk again. I'll post the day that they decide they can remove the frame from his leg. Because I had messages from literally hundreds of people to see how he is doing I'm not going to message them individually I needed to be spending time with him. If I tagged him into the messages his friends from school, who I am not friends with, before he was well enough to use a computer to update his statuses could also see how he was doing.

Yep definitely wanky behaviour. Attention seeking ++. Funnily enough one of my friends (blocked now) put a post on tagging herself at a maternity hospital with the tag feeling anxious. Then proceeded to flame everyone on her friends list the next day as not one person commented and obviously nobody cared according to her! She obviously was right or perhaps everyone had acknowledged her wanky behavior and chose to ignore it like normal people! Seriously. Grow up and get a life!!

The only thing I hate more than vague booking and hospital check ins are those couples who tag eachother in sappy shite and remind us daily how much they love their little squidgypoos so much and couldn't live without them, while they're sitting together on the sofa ..ugh

Tiggles fair enough but did you actually tell people on your status what happened? And keep them updated with info? Not that you're obliged to if course lol
I think the worst offenders are the ones who check in, leave a vague comment like 'here we go again (sad face) and then disappear..personally I hate that kind of thing.

Someone I know messaged me a pic of her 2 year old in hospital once. There were tubes coming in and out of her (urine infection) and I just remember thinking "wtf?"

Then there's another distant family member who checks into the hospital every time her child has a routine appointment. I used to comment then realised it was happening every 2 mins...I can't keep up now and she definitely doesn't deserve sympathy over it every 2 mins.

In comparison my ds has had 2 major incidents which have resulted in us taking him to a&e and we have a few appointments coming up for dd2's allergies and I wouldn't dream of putting it on fb or messaging someone. Patient privacy starts from the moment you're born, I would never share my kid's health problems, even though I post pics of them online.

glitterwhip ha no I wouldn't leave a vague status! Those drive me up the wall! No we live in a village and people saw us by the road with the police and ambulances so I had messages flying in before I even got to the hospital.

worra, thank you. I thought it was just me who thought like this - a lone voice in the social media frenzy that surrounds us!

I do not intend to have any photos of my children online until they are old enough to consent to this. No doubt some have slipped through the net already, but not from me.

My son is about to start primary school, so things may change. I will explain the basics of the internet to him, and he will probably be fine with stuff going on his primary school's website/Twitter etc. If not, I will respect his decision. Is he old enough to make that decision? Probably not.

The hospital photos are the worst variety of this phenomenon. So disrespectful to the child.

I think there's a massive difference between posting

What a day! Been to A and E with X and he/she has X

Which isn't attention seeking and gives information.

Fucking vaguebooking on the other hand, with the checking in and fucking sad faces then ignoring all comments is attention seeking and should result in removal of all social media for 30 days.

Thank god everyone agrees how pathetic and desperate this is. I despise it!! I also hate it when people tell me they're ill or their children are ill. I.e - "my poorly little man" with a photo of the poor little buggar and a mother who would rather be taking photos to post on social media than giving them a cuddle and looking after them! Also when you get one of the typical "feeling ill" status' so a barrage of people comment "get well soon Hun" makes my skin crawl!
Let's hope some offenders are reading this thread and take note!!

Attention for the parent.

I hate this trend for checking in on facebook everywhere. Anyone who checks in at hospital is a bit of an attention seeking twat in my opinion.

I can't stand the "omg what's up"

"Inbox you Hun" Posts.

If you didn't want people to know, you wouldn't have checked in to hospital.

Mind you I was very when a friend sent me a photo of her daughters nappy rash, legs akimbo and everything showing

There was a similar thread a couple of weeks ago and I just remember reading the comments thinking "why are there so many people defending people that do this, where are the people who think it's a twaty attention seeking thing to do?"...here you all are

I think it is ridiculous and TBH I find it strange that people are even thinking of FB in these kinds of situations.

Slightly off-topic now but I am expecting there to be some kind of legal issues in the future whereby kids sue their parents for over sharing their information when they were still children.

Photography isn't allowed in hospital but people break the rules every day.

I know someone like this who posts photos of her poor ill children every time they have a cold/flu/tummy bug/rash virus. I find it really odd. Poor children always look really miserable and must be thinking wtf mum, stop taking pics and look after me! Find it really weird.

It's really weird. And an intrusion of a child's privacy imo. Who wants people to see them upchucking or covered in spots or in hospital . Dd doesn'tt have any pics of dgd on Facebook and I think that's not a bad idea. If she is unwell or needs to be seen in a&e, she will phone or WhatsApp the people who she wants to know, not plaster pics of a woebegone baby on facebook for her friends to look at. I just can't get.my head round it.

I don't vaguebook but I have posted photos of my children in hospital. If you are there for a routine thing or once the emergency is over hospitals can be very boring. My 3 year old has been in hospital 12 times, including a month in neonatal and 2 major operations. I find sympathy is a lot less forthcoming the more operations he has. My heart breaks for him when the child in the bed opposite is having a minor op and has loads of visitors showering them with presents and attention and my little boy just has me. So sometimes I post a photo of him in hospital to remind people that this is our life and we are still going to the hospital every few months.

My 10 year old swallowed a coin recently and had to have it surgically removed. I wouldn't have posted for that because it's a fairly minor thing but he asked me to, and he wanted me to read all the comments to him. Meanwhile he was phoning everyone he could think of on the bedside phone. The Drs let him have a copy of the xray to take into school and show his friends too.

My daughter has a rare and life threatening condition. I do check in when I'm in hospital with her or post because hands up it is good to get the additional support from my virtual network, especially from other parents across the world whose children have the same condition. This is hardly gratuitous attention seeking! I haven't personally posted a photo but I don't have a problem with those in my network who do. Having a child with a serious medical condition is tough and lonely, why is it wrong to reach out for support!!!!!

I hate this so much. I have actually removed people for this, along with photos of poos in potties along with proud statuses..neldess photos of little scrapes accompanied by 'such a brave little soldier' posts from parents of 13 year olds fgs...and the worst, someone who posted a photo of their child mid puke. Just no.

Having said all of that though, nothing annoys me more than people who every mealtime without fail, post a photo of whatever they are eating. Be it a culinary masterpiece of a slice of toast?! Why...

I have posted photos of Ds on Facebook when he is in hospital before - but only from the ward when he is well on the road to recovery. Generally as a way to show concerned people he is getting better, as they say a picture paints a 1000 words.

His first smile was when he has just come off life support at 8 weeks, so the photo I have of that he still has nasal specs in for oxygen - I posted that one on Fb too, just like many parents post first smile photos.

I wouldn't dream of posting a photo in the a and e stages though, at that point the focus is normally on getting him stable so there isn't the sitting around time there is later on the ward.

It was also suggested by one of the nurses I took photos of Ds when he was really ill. I thought it was odd at the time but in hindsight it really did help me come to terms with things afterwards. I would never publicly share those pictures though. So please thing twice before rolling eyes at, or judging, parents taking photos of their children in that situation - it could well be part of a coping mechanism.

As I left the hospital after a clinic appointment I seen a woman position her child under the a&e sign with his arm in plaster and a sling, then she said "ok put on a sad face" and took some pictures which I can only assume we're for Facebook. Even if they were to send to family why?!