Why post online a photo of your ill child when you check in to the local hospital??

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Just why??? If you need help, your phone obviously works, text someone FGS

I don't understand it, my (older, preteen) DC would be mortified.

AIBU to think it is all about mummy getting attention, not the ill child.

Flame away

Yeah it's attention seeking!

I'm the opposite... I actually wouldn't like people to know if my baby is unwell (she never actually has been unwell).

I like people to think she's as healthy as a horse!

Many of those commenting clearly have no experience of being in hospital frequently or for long periods of time with a young and seriously ill child. There is a saying about walking a mile in another mans shoes before judging. I strongly suggest you keep that in mind'

If your baby has never been unwell then you can't know how you would react when they are.

YANBU OP, and I say that as one who usually defends people's right to use Facebook as they see fit. But vaguebooking is the work of the devil and posting photos of your child the minute you've checked in to A&E is a bit OTT and attention seeking.

This, though, always makes me chuckle: Always strikes me as a good way to advertise an empty house to anyone who might be looking to burgle you.

You do know YOU control who sees your posts, don't you, by choosing who you accept as friends and through your settings? Are you friends with many burglars? Do you make a habit of regularly posting your full address in your status updates?

Well my daughter was a very frequent visitor to A&E with serve bronchiulitis everytime she had a cold it would turn to that and often would require bluelighted straight to hospital..a few times she was actually in the resus part as they were so worried. Never did it occur to me that this was a good photo op, nor any of her time spent recovering on the ward..I was just kinda glad she could breathe again. Hopefully my child has been sick enough for me to be allowed to judge others who put up photos of themselves smiling away next to an ill child hooked up to all kinds of machines.

serve = severe. Always a typo...

My baby has been unwell..I still wouldn't post their pics on Facebook because mostly it's no one else's business apart from family and I can phone them or group message etc
I think it just comes down to personal preference and how comfortable you are with people knowing your business..in obviously a little more private than a lot of my Facebook 'friends'

Why would you judge someone who responds to a scary situation differently to you though? They aren't doing anyone any harm so why judge?

As I said before them taking photos and documenting what they are going through could be how they cope.

You do know YOU control who sees your posts, don't you, by choosing who you accept as friends and through your settings
I see what you are saying but do you know how many people have no idea about their privacy settings and think that they are secure but are actually not?

I can only speak of the ones I have removed for doing so, but the people I 'judge' are those who spend their lives taking selfies. Then their child happens to need hospital (hell even at doctors appointment these photos are taken sometimes) and they happen to have perfect hair and makeup, and sit BEAMING while duck facing and you can see their child looking utterly miserable beside them. Yes I definitely will judge that as its just horrible and self-centred tbh. Tend to be accompanied by a 'no makeup in the hospital, I look a right mess. I am glad the stress is over for me' and not one mention of the poor child

When my ds was 2 he was in hospital with pneumonia which led to him having empyema in his lungs which needed a chest drain..he was in hospital for 5 weeks having antibiotics daily and ended up needing a blood transfusion..I was scared as shit and barely left his side ..I had to be forced to shower! Not at any time did I think 'Facebook needs to see this'
Yes I took photos for me to have when he started to recovered but I kept them to myself

But with a temperature in A&E no
And to even being in A & E with just a temperature.

The number of people who "pop down" to A & E nowadays just for something so minor that the next day they are right as rain annoys me.

When my son was younger he broke his ankle on a Saturday night in my parent's garden and they put him to bed to see if it still hurt in the morning. Obviously it did and they took him on Sunday morning but they were so worried that if it was only a sprain they would be wasting A & E's time.

It is beyond my comprehension why anyone would 'check in' at a hospital or take a photo of a poorly child and post it on FB. There is really no plausible explanation other than attention seeking.

If people wish to share every last detail of their own medical history on FB then that is their prerogative but broadcasting such information about your child smacks of a complete disregard for your child's right to privacy

I do wonder if in a few years we will see multiple cases of children suing their own parents for breaching their human rights etc by posting so many photos & other OTT detail about them on FB!

For the people who claim that they post for support, there is an element of this which people seem to either not realise or overlook.

Many years ago one of the school mums was pregnant and posted pretty much every update about her pregnancy "oh, just had a coffee and the bump is bouncing up and down/oh bump loves cold orange juice that mummy is drinking/oh the bump is active today," . So frequent were her updates that the majority of her friends actually hid her status updates. So when her baby was born seriously ill and nearly died and she was posting about it from SCBU, nobody knew.

So when people think that other people want to know, generally, they really don't.

Well according to previous posters I am a wanker Thanks for that. I post pics of my son (now 13) on my Facebook page. He's now been admitted to hospital more than 70 times and 10 of those in the last 12 months including major surgery. He likes people to know he's there and see him and so do I and fortunately my friends are nice and pleasant people who actually give a fuck about him and the rest of our family rather than sitting there judging us. But perhaps I should think more carefully in future for fear of irritating them with our life What a miserable and crappy thread full of deeply unpleasant people. Why are you even friends with theses people if you think so meanly when they post? I'm feeling really sad and disheartened and bloody pissed off now.

Why is the thread 'full of deeply unpleasant people', because they've been honest about how they feel?

If they were deeply unpleasant, they'd be telling all this to the parents posting the photos - instead of letting off steam on an anonymous forum.

But perhaps I should think more carefully in future for fear of irritating them with our life

If they were/are irritated, it wouldn't be because of your life. It would be because of your hospital photos.

And if that's the case, they can either scroll past or click 'hide from newsfeed'.

That's their choice and it doesn't make them deeply unpleasant by exercising it.

Yep. They can scroll past not refer to people as wankers. Whatever.

But Probably are you posting that you're at hospital with ds and saying what's going on or are you posting 'At A and E with ds really worried and then ignoring all questions and never updating till the next time?

I see Facebook as being like an online diary and I have friends that have to attend hospitals regularly and it's a way of updating their friends and that's fine, I've done it myself. It's the vaguebooking which gets on my tits and is defintely attention seeking, why else would they not update or selectively private message people.

Hope your ds is doing okay

And people post pics of their kids at the beach, park, zoo etc....hospital is what I spend most of my time doing with my son, why should it be taboo?

I agree fancy. That is a key difference.

There's a massive difference between someone who genuinely wants support and the wanky parents who continually post pics of their sick children and vague status's in a desperate bid they illicit sympathy and attention from people on Facebook
Massive difference
I have a fb friend who's Child has a condition that means she regularly needs hospital treatment..she updates fb maybe once a month about it without pics of her child ..I don't need to see her sick child to feel sympathetic and have an interest in her wellbeing

I haven't done this myself but if my friends did it, I'd be glad to know so I could wish them well. My cousin's little one is sometimes in hospital with allergies. I wouldn't expect a text every time but I like to know.

It is attention seeking but most Facebook posting is, really, and it can be a welcome distraction from the waiting and the worry.

Dd was in hospital recently. If I'd had any signal there I'd have been face booking (about other stuff) and probably mumsnet ting for a bit of comfort but photos NO!

It's the WORST!! Or perhaps the worst is, checking in at hospital, a hundred "are you ok", "call me ASAP babe I'm so worried" type queries.... Followed by " thanks everyone, just a routine appointment". I literally am hovering at my keyboard wanting to write "FUCK YOUUUU" under their twatty, attention seeking post. Phew! Getting riled up just thinking about it

I am actually just back from a & e. We were in and out super fast but while I was there I saw two different patients in the waiting area taking selfies of their injuries.