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Why post online a photo of your ill child when you check in to the local hospital??

169 replies

MilnersGold · 22/08/2016 23:28

Just why??? If you need help, your phone obviously works, text someone FGS

I don't understand it, my (older, preteen) DC would be mortified.

AIBU to think it is all about mummy getting attention, not the ill child.

Flame away

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MrsRyanGosling15 · 23/08/2016 00:02

And....they should maybe pay more attention to their 'sick' child.

mumofthemonsters808 · 23/08/2016 00:03

It's just typical attention seeking behaviour, the posts I've seen also highlights how a and e departments are being used for minor illnesses.I suppose sometimes it's a case of letting family members know what's happening, but in the cases I've seen most are discharged, so surely the news could wait. My friend did this recently and her reason was so that work colleagues could see how poorly her son was and not to expect him in work the next day.A bit extreme, I'd just make a phome call.

Queenie3 · 23/08/2016 00:07

I can never understand this, I'm 28 and would never even think of going on Facebook of one of my dc were in hospital I'd be to worried about what is up with them. I know someone who always does this, even when at 28 weeks pregnant her waters broke she uploaded a picture of her smiling pretending to suck on the gas and air they gave her. I was pregnant at the time and just couldn't stop thinking what a state of worry I'd be in if that was me not smiling and uploading pictures. Luckily they were able to hold the baby off from coming for a good few more weeks but he was prem, then them pics come up when she said he was fighting for he's life. I just think my phone would be the last thing I'd be thinking of going on I'd be by my babies side. Luckily he made it and looks to be a gorgeous baby. She has 3 dc and one is always in the hospital or sick I sometimes wonder are they or is it for more attention as you get the status's like dc2 is so ill feel so sorry for him, or up a+e with dc1 just hope they are ok. Yet when people ask what's up she never answers or you get the "ill inbox you babe" same as she does status's like - was feeling sad or - was feeling devastated this may be me being a bit of nosey Nora here but if your gonna announce to all your Facebook friends that your dc is in hospital or your feeling devastated surely you can tell us if they are ok or what's wrong lol!

usernameinfinito · 23/08/2016 00:12

Attention seekers.

MotherOfROC · 23/08/2016 00:12

The effects of baron Münchausen syndrome in this digital era ....

muddypuddled · 23/08/2016 00:18

I hate it when people do that. If I had to take a dc or anyone to a&e if ring my mum and dh to let them know and that is it. There's no reason to let the world know. Nobody seems to keep anything private anymore. A distant relative of mine recently passed away and most of our family found out about it through Facebook less than an hour after they passed away along with regular updates before and after of the situation. Purely attention seeking and a very selfish way to behave! I can understand one post after maybe detailing funeral arrangements as an easy way to contact people but not every ten minutes saying how sad they feel!

WorraLiberty · 23/08/2016 00:22

I'd like to know how all this is going to affect today's children when they're grown up.

I really struggle to understand how parents who post endless photos of their children online, can then tell them "Your looks don't define you. It's all about your brains and personality".

Errr yeah ok then. That's why for 18 years of my life, you've filled your Facebook account with 1000s of photos of me, so everyone can click 'like' and say "Gawjus hun xxx" Confused

Also, I wonder if it will affect their self esteem to know there are 100s of photos of them online that they actually hate (because we all have certain photos we hate).

In the same way a lot of overweight adults blame being made to clear their plates, back when they were children.

Certain things can have a lifelong effect.

FrameyMcFrame · 23/08/2016 00:26

I hate this too, especially the dramatic drip feed of information. But I think lots of people are genuinely lonely and Facebook fills a void.

glitterwhip · 23/08/2016 00:34

People seem to feel the need to share everything, like if it's not on Facebook it's not happening. And people seem to expect it as well ..I recently got married and I'm an extremely private and I didnt post any pics because I feel that's really personal ..people were actually commenting 'congrats where are the pics? ..I find it really strange or perhaps I'm the strange one lol

TheNaze73 · 23/08/2016 01:28

Attention seeking pricks

Chihuahualala · 23/08/2016 01:32

I don't know, a friend announced her child was going in for brain tumour removal surgery complete with picture of her child smiling pre surgery.

For the next ten months everything was social media (the daughter was 12) she sadly died so ....

But with a temperature in A&E no!

Chihuahualala · 23/08/2016 01:36

So what I am saying what my friend did was not a shocking but "omg" thing that drove everyone's attention to the cause. And believe me, the social media and attention around this little girl's last year kept a very very broken hearted family strong.

I had no issues with it whatsoever.

Kidsrulethishouse · 23/08/2016 01:45

I took a picture of my daughter while in A&E and got a woman rolling her eyes at me. My daughter was having her hand xrayed to make sure her thumb wasnt broken after falling off her chair and while waiting made a miraculous recovery so we sent a photo of her doing a 'thumbs up' to her dad who was worried at home. I wouldnt be taking pictures if she were really unwell though, still I didnt want or need that womans judgement.

iamabitnosey · 23/08/2016 02:18

Urge! I have a family member that does this relentlessly with her supposedly ill self and niece. Whiney, needy and annoying

CautionWankingMonkeys · 23/08/2016 05:05

I have a family member who's terrible for this. Normally when someone else is getting some attention. Poor child practically lives at the ED. Luckily her father is attempting to get custody now and it looks like he might succeed.

I'll admit to having far too many photographs of DC but they're not published anywhere. They're saved on a thumb drive for later years and we had photobooks made of a select few. I don't want DC thinking life is all about attention.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/08/2016 05:21

I think doing this with pictures of a kid and then vaguebooking and then vanishing so theres a big thread of people going 'u ok hun xxx' etc and no responses..

Attention seeky wanker behaviour.

However, if I end up in hospital and I do, not every week but, its not uncommon, I am often there alone as OH comes with to see whats happening and then buggers off home again (by my request!!) once we know the score..

So I will post a funny photo of my fabulous view (local hossie has rooms that ONLY have a view of a brick wall, no matter what room or ward you are on, im sure its a plot to drive us all mad)... or one time, a notice board over a table instructing drs NOT to leave paperwork all over the table...

Table covered in paperwork.

(No private details were visible)...

And yes its 'attention seeking'.. in the same way as any other post anyone puts on FB is, 'hey im doing this' or 'ooh i thought that' or 'im going here/there/everywhere'...

I never vaguebook whats happening though and I don't leave people hanging, worried I might kark it at any second! Thats just twatty.

PJBanana · 23/08/2016 08:09

I think everything posted on Facebook is 'attention seeking' in one way or another, although posting photos of your sick child is especially low, imo.

DP's sister does this and it makes me cringe every time. (She's also one for the 'omg so pissed off' statuses, then won't tell anyone what's actually wrong).

She checked in to the local hospital with her son a few months ago, and the classic 'everything ok Hun?' messages followed. He'd only banged his head and got a tiny graze!

She did it again the other week, checked in to a hospital with a picture of her daughter who had broken her wrist. So far, we've had a picture pretty much every day of her in her cast along with what a 'brave girl' she is Hmm

miserablesod · 23/08/2016 08:17

I don't get it either. The times i have been in A&E with any if my kids i've been too worried to even think about taking pics, let alone updating my facebook status and uploading pics.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/08/2016 08:27

We have these threads every couple of weeks -they always have some poor parents of a sick child having to justify themselves because they do it to keep the family updated etc.

Tbh I can't get too judgy about it, I imagine there's a lot of waiting around in hospital so they can let everyone know without having to phone/text them

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/08/2016 08:28

People who vague book are cunts though Grin

ChuffMuffin · 23/08/2016 08:31

Ugh i unfriended someone last week for doing this. Their child was admitted for what I guess was an operation and a stay afterwards. Photos uploaded to the 'X in hospital' album every day. An avalanche of "omg hun what's wrong with x" "are u ok" comments on every bloody photo every day. Offender completely ignored all of them except for the only comment on the album by a family member about something else entirely, which they'd immediately replied to

Also people who check in at A&Es and hospitals with no comment as to what for.. why?

Only1scoop · 23/08/2016 08:37

Do people actually do this so glad I'm not on FB

I always cringe when I see in a tacky magazine that some celeb has a pic of themselves on a drip etc.

Can these folk actually survive without all the attention seeking.

Only1scoop · 23/08/2016 08:38

Do people actually do this so glad I'm not on FB

I always cringe when I see in a tacky magazine that some celeb has a pic of themselves on a drip etc.

Can these folk actually survive without all the attention seeking.

ButtMuncher · 23/08/2016 08:45

Not child related but I have a woman on my feed (parent of a friend) who regularly checks herself in at hospital for EVERY fucking minor thing. She has a sinus issue, so regularly has treatment up at the community hospital, but elects to tag herself in at the main hospital with 'Here again...' type comments which end up eliciting a tidal wave of concerned FB posts, left unanswered, until a day later when the woman will say 'all fine just had routine check up' Confused

Personally I wouldn't check myself or anyone else into hospital for any reason as anything serious would default to my fiancée making calls etc, but I see how some people may use it to inform others. But checking into a sodding ear examination, or a tooth polish (she's done that before) or posting a picture of your sick children is just grim.

user1471601594 · 23/08/2016 08:49

I can't stick attention seekers like this people who post pics of everything they do!
Facebook sucks sometimes!

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