To think going to the loo in front of your dh is disgusting!?

[Piniatapearl]

This just came up in conversation with my sister. She thinks it's perfectly normal that her and her dh will have a shit in front of each other whilst the other is showering or brushing their teeth or whatever.

I just think it's really unnecessary! I do have poo issues so is it me being weird or her?

I'm definitely not the poo troll by the way

[MrsFionaCharming]

DP and I would never use the loo in front of one another. We're both healthy adults, capable of waiting a couple of minutes for the bathroom to be free.

I have a friend who claims you can't live with a partner you're not willing to poo in front of. She has a long string of failed relationships, and I really feel there might be a link...

[Piniatapearl]

It's different if one of you has health issues and can't hold it but for healthy adults it won't hurt them to hold it for 5. It just seems so unnecessary.

The post c section constipation was 3 days of hell. Dh offered to give me a hand I think I would have had to ltb.

[brasty]

I really couldn't care less what others do either way. DP has stinky poss, so no I do not want to be in the bathroom when he poos. Couldn't care less about a wee.

[Italiangreyhound]

No way!

My husband has seen me just after my belly was cut open and a baby lifted out of it. I got an infection and he had to help me shower when a drain was attached to my pelvis via my vagina. But that doesn't mean that those extreme situations would mean I was comfy having a poo in front of anyone!

[Lovehandles]

Not for me thank you! I like to poo in private

[OvariesForgotHerPassword]

If we're having a conversation and nature calls I don't see the point of breaking off the conversation to poo. May as well move the party to the toilet.

DP has seen me tear. I think that transcends poo somewhat.

[GiddyOnZackHunt]

I would absolutely prefer not to share defecation experiences. With anyone.
Bar one or two moments in nearly 2 decades we have avoided it. Given I have colitis that's very good.
Fortunately we have sufficient toilets for nobody to be causing a problem.

[ImperialBlether]

I can't think of a quicker way to end a relationship.

[RuggerHug]

Reading these, I have never been happier that we each have always had our own bathrooms

[Alisvolatpropiis]

There would have to be a severe d&v style bug going on before I knowingly shit in front of husband.

He was present for the birth of our child and I don't (will never know as per my request), know whether I pooed involuntarily.

[tidyfairy]

In over 25 years of marriage DH and myself have NEVER been in the bathroom at the same time as the other was pooing. And would not choose to be. Not an issue at home as we have a spare loo. A few occasions if we've been in a hotel (I have IBS - and sometimes the call is urgent) he will get out of the shower temporarily while I go in and use the loo. This just seems like unremarkable, normal behaviour to us.
I would sometimes nip in for a quick wee, but never a poo.
I don't think I would find it 'disgusting' exactly, just a bit unpleasant and unnecessary. I'd rather have a poo in peace.

[RepentAtLeisure]

DP will use the loo with the door open. I hate it. The last time we went away I used the tip someone here gave once - to use the loos in the hotel lobby for a shit, instead of the room bathroom. I've decided it's a bit daft now though. I put up with all his smells, he can put up with mine.

[SlinkyVagabond]

He's held my hair when I've puked, seen me delirious with fever, been there when I've had c sections, after 34 years life holds few mysteries. We won't go out of our way to do it, but good grief, it happens!

[SleepDeprivedAndCranky]

Marriage is for better or for worse, we've seen both sides no pun intended
ltb over a poo!!

[TheNaze73]

We've pretty much had anything in & up each other however, dropping the kids off at the pool should never be a spectator sport

[StillMedusa]

I've been with dh for 28 years and never felt the need to pee, let alone poo, in front of him..and never will if I can help it!
Child birth is different entirely (I have four kids) and out of your control to an extent, but I like my privacy..so does DH.
He once had to help shower me after I had poisoned myself (don't ask!) and was jet propelled from both ends with no control. We don't speak of it

But my bodily functions ARE private. And will remain so as long as I can possibly help it.

[Katedotness1963]

Married 31 years. Never used the toilet in front of each other.

[whywonthedgehogssharethehedge]

Only for wees. I have no desire to see anyone pooping. It's bad enough when you have potty training kids.

[AcrossthePond55]

Nope, not gonna happen. When I broke my ankle, DH had to help me on and off the toilet but I made him go back to the living room whilst I did my business. I'd call his cellphone when I was done to come help me back into the wheelchair.

When we're traveling in the caravan, I make him turn up the TV or music loud.

Pee-shy, that's me.

[avamiah]

I have given birth in front of him but as we all know that's totally different than walking into the bathroom when he is in the shower and having a poo.
I would tell him to get out the shower as I had a emergency and believe me he would.

[CautionWankingMonkeys]

DH took me to Center Parcs if you catch my drift. So in an emergency anything goes. Pee in front of each other daily though. That's just us being comfortable.

[BarbaraofSeville]

How is covering up shitting with running taps or loud music more discreet than just getting on with it? . People are weird.

I don't want to see anyone poo but farts and wees, fine. We all do it.

We only have one bathroom at home so often using it at same time anyway. And the previous occupants installed a door with a patterned frosted panel that is partially see through that we've never got round to changing so not total privacy anyway.

[BroomhildaVonShaft]

Posters saying you've given birth so why not poo in front of each other are so bizarre. They are completely different events. Pooing in front of someone else is gross and unnecessary and I also find it really disrespectful. Faeces is smelly and disgusting and I can't imagine why you would want to subject anyone else to witnessing you expelling it from your body and disposing of it. It's something that people should do quickly and cleanly as a necessary part of life but always in privacy imo. (Barring emergencies obviously, I'm taking about doing it by choice)

If you only have one bog and that's unusual now Is it? Maybe you should tell all the people who live in council and housing association houses, small flats and small terraced houses that they are unusual for only having one bathroom! Or maybe you could realise that your perspective might not be representative of the entire nation?

[Sierra259]

Wouldn't if we could possibly help it, but there have been 1-2 incidents with illness. Including one where I was so dizzy I thought I was going to pass out and had to yell for help. But as a day to day, casual thing? No way.