To think going to the loo in front of your dh is disgusting!?

[Piniatapearl]

This just came up in conversation with my sister. She thinks it's perfectly normal that her and her dh will have a shit in front of each other whilst the other is showering or brushing their teeth or whatever.

I just think it's really unnecessary! I do have poo issues so is it me being weird or her?

I'm definitely not the poo troll by the way

The seeing you give birth thing doesn't make a difference for me, that's essential, shitting in front of each other isn't.

Yeah do some times, it's just the smell that gets me!

I wouldn't go out of my way to use the loo in front of DH, but sometimes I have a wee while he brushes his teeth and vice versa.

But really, if avoidable, it's just not sexy, is it? After my DH has been in the loo it smells like a fucking nuclear fall out I imagine. This is not conducive to sex IME.

Amber

A pee I can just about cope with. For a poo I need the taps running, nobody upstairs and preferably an empty house. I also can't poo away from home

Well that's just plain silly.

If I'm only having a wee, I'll do it in front of them but pooing is quite a private thing to do (I will never have a poo in a public toilet, it has to be a private toilet.)

Managed 16 years without weeing or pooing in each others presence, here's to 16 more!

pick it may be silly but I just can't physically do it.

I like long, long baths, so DP often comes in for a wee, and I've been known to do a quick wee while he's in the shower. I have IBS, and have been known to bang on the door and say hurry up. We only have one bathroom - I didn't realise that was unusual.

missgraeme 'yucky lady garden and associated mess'? Oh grow up.

It's completely gross and I wouldn't dream of it, neither would Dh.

If your OH has seen you give birth (and I mean actually seen you give birth, not stand at the "non-messy" end) and still finds you attractive and wants to have sex with you, seeing you on the toilet probably won't kill his libido.

Personally thought I wouldn't use the toilet in front of anyone. Some things are just private.

We wee in front of each other most days, never a poo though. Plenty of farting from both of us.

It's not silly piniata

I used to go to great covert lengths to make sure I used the loo on a deserted part of our office. I'd even take a diverted route to get there so it wasn't obvious where I was going.

Well yes, and after the aforementioned scissors incident I was pregnant again in a matter of months, so it obviously hasn't dampened his ardour.

That said, my DH took a dump with the door open on our first night together, while chatting to me, so the bar was set low from the word go (even I was a bit ).

I often pee in front of him if we are getting ready for bed at the same time.

I have changed tampons in the bathroom while he was in the bath (the toilet is in the bathroom) but poo? Never.

We do only have one bathroom and I've often longed for a second bathroom or even the tiddliest little en-suite just because one or the other of us ALWAYS seems to suddenly desperately need a wee when the other has started a long bath or shower. It must be a panic thing That said though it doesn't actually bother either of us in the slightest, doesn't make us find each other unattractive or weird etc.

As long as you and your partner understand each other's comfort levels, it's all good whatever you do.

Rule in this house is that bathroom door is shut but not locked if someone is taking a bath or shower. If anyone other than DD3 (7) needs a wee desperately they can come in and I'll draw the curtain across the bath if I'm using it; obviously if I'm showering it's drawn anyway. No taking a dump unless it's DD3 who gets a free pass for now.

Similarly if I need a wee desperately I'll do so while e.g. DH closes curtain across if he's bathing/showering - I also run the tap. And yes, I know he's seen it all, but I still like to maintain as much privacy as possible.

Never done anything in front of each other... In 13 years together, almost 10 married and two children. (C sections! Lol)

Until last week

I had such terrible food poisoning. I was throwing up all night with horrible cramps.... He came in the bathroom to see if I was okay as I threw up for the 10th time around 5am.... Just as it happened the other end too 😳😳😳😳😳

Even in all the pain and discomfort and not eating for a week after, that was the worst bit, and I am still mortified!!!!!

Haha Amber, that reminds me that in our first week of dating we'd been out for a few drinks and when we got back to my place it suddenly caught up with my DP and he ended up vomiting up a Subway sandwich while I sat with him and fetched him a glass of water. He was mortified and thought I'd be put off him forever but 5 years later he still hasn't grossed me out enough for me to leave

Pee- loads. When we drink alcohol together; we sync up. We're watching the same show, drinking at the same rate, so we wee at an ever increasing rate together through the night. It saves time.

Poo- no. Never. ( well- excluding a night neither of us have spoken of and both pretend didn't happen. FYI - Never eat and drink with gay abandon in Mumbai)

unless you have never swapped saliva and have found a way to contain your bodily fluids from each other during sex then yabu.