To think going to the loo in front of your dh is disgusting!?

[Piniatapearl]

This just came up in conversation with my sister. She thinks it's perfectly normal that her and her dh will have a shit in front of each other whilst the other is showering or brushing their teeth or whatever.

I just think it's really unnecessary! I do have poo issues so is it me being weird or her?

I'm definitely not the poo troll by the way

[Houseconfusion]

I'm simply referring to the fact that the comment about hold it in for gods sake from someone or similar is not apt for a very wide range of people including many women who've been left with different shelters of urgency and continence. It was a comment from the same poster who assumed naively most houses don't have one single toilet anymore. Assuming everyone can hold bowel and urine on command is equally naive. I've got nothing else to add really.

My Bowles are just fine. And my wearing habits in case anyone is interested. DH needs privacy to poo. I don't. Weeing isn't even noticed. No big deal.

[Houseconfusion]

I'm simply referring to the fact that the comment about hold it in for gods sake from someone or similar is not apt for a very wide range of people including many women who've been left with different shelters of urgency and continence. It was a comment from the same poster who assumed naively most houses don't have one single toilet anymore. Assuming everyone can hold bowel and urine on command is equally naive. I've got nothing else to add really.

My Bowles are just fine. And my wearing habits in case anyone is interested. DH needs privacy to poo. I don't. Weeing isn't even noticed. No big deal.

[miserablesod]

I would be almighty pissed off if dp took a dump while i was brushing my teeth. A mouthful of poluted air, no shit breathe here thanks

So glad we have two toilets.

[PollyBanana]

I don't like being there when I have a poo.
No way would I inflict my toxic bowels on someone else

[Rollonbedtime7pm]

My DH delivered our last baby (quick unplanned home birth) and so not only saw all bits busy with baby delivering but also had to clean up the poo I did in labour!

Still shut the bathroom door though! Birthing poo was a needs must situation!! Can't believe anyone would just sit and chat during a poo?!

[liz70]

DH once asked to come in when I was bathing as he was desperate (for a wee or so I thought). Curtain duly drawn across and in he came. Turns out he he had the trots. the bastard Cue noxious fumes filling the bathroom, and me exiting it faster than Usain Bolt.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

I really don't understand the he's seen me given birth therefore he can see me poo thing. Dh has emptied commodes for me but there's no way we have an open door policy just at because he did that for a couple of months!

[littleladybird14]

NeedACleverNN

My dh has seen me give birth

I really could not care about having a shit infront of him

This made me lol, so true tho! I needed DH to help me a lot after birth taking me to and from toilet (and generally getting around) as I had a lot of blood loss and was very weak. He's seen everything so I wouldn't be embarrassed now, as another poster said - that ship has sailed! However since we have now have a downstairs toilet this doesn't happen as often given we always have another option so as not to disturb each other if in the shower.

[liz70]

"Can't believe anyone would just sit and chat during a poo?!"

That reminds me of when my mum overheard a conversation between two older women in neighbouring cubicles in a public toilets. Every now and then the chat was interspersed thus:

(Plop)

"Oh, excuse me!"

"No, no, that's quite all right!"

And so continued the conversation.

Mum thought it was hysterical.

[Sparklingbrook]

I agree that you can't compare your partner seeing you give birth and seeing you have a poo. Odd comparison.

[Chinks123]

I can do everything in front of DP but poo. Pp comparing it to childbirth, DP witnessed the whole thing and had to shower me with catheter attached so yes 'that ship has sailed' and I wasn't embarrassed by that at all, but it's still not the same for me as sitting having a shit infront of him. He doesn't care (he invites me in for a chat while he's on the toilet and there's nothing left he hasn't shared with me ) but for me that's the bit of privacy I hold onto.

Not really relevant but an ex was a big over sharer and lacked boundaries (I only realise this now) he would sit in the bathroom and watch me change tampons etc even if I asked him to leave and it made me feel really awkward. Now if DP happened to walk in I wouldn't be embarrassed but I like a bit of privacy.

[BarryTheKestrel]

I have no qualms over a wee, we generally share a bathroom for that daily. Pooing, not so much, neither of us are bothered but would rather not unless it was really needed. I will often give him a shout during his 25min shower and ask him to hurry up as I have ibs and holding is uncomfortable at best and impossible at worst. He'll usually exit the shower and wait outside but on occasion I haven't been able to wait and that's been fine too.

[thepenguinsrock]

My hubby has seen me have 2 babies, drugged and bloody after wisdom teeth removel and snotty and puffy from crying after a miscarriage but that's literally the grossest he will ever see.
We prefer to keep some mystery in our relationship as in we don't even f**t I'm front of each other 😂
I have a friend who will use the bathroom for wee or poo while her hubby is bath and vice versa and they torture each other with wind in bed. This horrifies me completely 😂

[KellyElly]

Me and dp wee and poo in front of each other, although poo less, only if one of us is desperate and the other is in the shower or something like that. Only one bathroom, so needs must.

[c3pu]

I'm a bloke, can't say it bothers me in the slightest.

I wouldn't go out of my way to watch it, but if it has to happen I have no qualms about it.

[tootyflooty]

I've been with my dh 20 years, and he has never seen me on the loo, unfortunately I have seen him!!, as he is quite happy to have a s**t while I am in the shower!!!

[celeste83]

Except for young toddlers who follow you everywhere, then no. I like to pee or poop in pravacy if possible. No need to see or ehar someone else on the loo.

[PamBagnallsGotACollage]

I honestly don't know how all you people who never fart in front of your partners don't spontaneously combust. Maybe one day you will. Beware.

We have just one toilet in our one bathroom for 2 adults and a preschool child. Sometimes we have to use the loo in front of each other. Unavoidable and I'm glad we have the sort of relationship that wouldn't be rocked by the sight (sound and smell ) of someone taking a dump.

Sometimes my son needs a poo while I'm on the loo and he has to use his old potty. My husband might come in a brush his teeth while this is going on. It has bit damaged us.

And back to the farting. Lord, I'm not sure we could get through an hour without at least one of us pumping.

Shit happens. Literally.

[PamBagnallsGotACollage]

*hasn't damaged us.

[Boogers]

Wee, poo and fart in front of H, and vice versa, no boundaries there. It's not that we sit and watch each other, it's more of a needs must if we're in the shower and the other needs the loo or to pass toilet roll in etc.

This will really gross some people out. We also have a downstairs toilet in the utility room and when that door is open and the living room door is open you can see the tv, and all four of us has utilised that facility, though only when it's just us in the house. I don't carry on a conversation with the in-laws in the living room whilst I'm on the netty downstairs. I do with H and the DCs though!

[Boogers]

I'm also reminded of when I first started online dating before I met H and one bloke seemed really nice and we got chatting and arranged to meet up for a date, during which he revealed his major turn on was to watch a woman pooing on the toilet. We never had a second date.

[honkinghaddock]

I don't think I have but I would if I had to. With ds, loads of times since he has to come in with me when we are out and will probably always have to.

[PamBagnallsGotACollage]

Boogers! Ew. See, I totally wouldn't do it if my husband found it arousing!

[user1471544305]

Its not something Im comfortable with myself, but I don't judge others on it. For me its liking to keep something private, just the same as passing wind, rather keep that to myself too.

[Boogers]

But, but... if you need to trump and your partner is around you, what do you do?