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Original poster

to think it is ok to turn up to a church service half an hour late?

138 replies

NoahVale · 21/08/2016 09:27

i have to take both dds at the same time in different directions.
one is a church service, to do with the NCS she has just done.

church service will surely be all accepting?

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SoupDragon · 21/08/2016 09:28

I think it's pretty rude to turn up anywhere half an hour late.

davos · 21/08/2016 09:29

Is it just a Sunday morning butch service?

I would say it's ok, but at the church I grew up going to, it would be over 15 minutes after I arrived so I wouldn't bother.

Amelie10 · 21/08/2016 09:29

No it's rude

DropYourSword · 21/08/2016 09:29

Why not turn up at the first place half an hour early and get to the church on time?

Amelie10 · 21/08/2016 09:29

No it's rude

almostthirty · 21/08/2016 09:29

Personally I don't think it's a ever good to turn up late unless it's pre arranged. Could you call in advance and let them know, that may make it slightly better.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 21/08/2016 09:29

I imagine the church will be fine with it but I wouldn't do it, it's disruptive to the service and the other people there. Surely you're going to miss most of the service anyway? At least 50%.

Where does the other DD need to be? Can she get there half an hour late instead? Otherwise I think I'd let them do alternate weeks so nobody is horrendously late or rude and try to arrange other transport.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/08/2016 09:30

Rude. Also, thirty minutes late and you've missed the Gospel, so it doesn't really count as attending.

ScallopedSkirt · 21/08/2016 09:30

No, it's rude.

almostthirty · 21/08/2016 09:30

Sorry just realised it's a church service, no its not good to be late. Either drop early or not at all.

Original poster
NoahVale · 21/08/2016 09:31

no, the other dd needs to be at work.
i did suggest she arrived at work early, ie, drop her first but neither are ready

rude it is

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acasualobserver · 21/08/2016 09:32

Yes, it's perfectly fine ... if you meant to be on time.

Lules · 21/08/2016 09:32

Loads of people turn up late to my church. No-one cares as long as you're quiet and sit somewhere unobtrusive. I wouldn't want to go somewhere that wasn't accepting. However my church is big so it wouldn't be noticed much. I guess it would be a bit different in a small parish church.

Egosumquisum · 21/08/2016 09:34

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/08/2016 09:35

It's not so much the disturbing others aspect though. It's the respect issue. You don't waltz into church when you're deliberately thirty minutes late. You go to another service that you can attend properly.

Leviticus · 21/08/2016 09:36

Of course it isn't rude!

You're not late because you couldn't be arsed.

NarcyCow · 21/08/2016 09:37

If it's a big church it's not likely to be that noticeable. Back when I used to go to mass, people were popping in and out all the time for various reasons but you only really noticed if you were sitting at the very back (which you would only have been doing if you had turned up late yourself or were planning to nip out before the end).

T0ddlerSlave · 21/08/2016 09:37

If you're late you just hover in the foyer til they break for a hymn or someone is walking up to the front or something. Just don't bang heavy doors during prayer or sermon and you're good.

LittleBearPad · 21/08/2016 09:38

is it just a Sunday morning butch service?

Awesome autocorrect

Original poster
NoahVale · 21/08/2016 09:39

it is only a one off, it is not a normal occurrence. dd doesnt normally go to church.

I thought God wouldnt mind

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Egosumquisum · 21/08/2016 09:39

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Slave2thecat · 21/08/2016 09:41

Depends on the church - they are all different. Some have longer services than others, some are generally louder. Some have cafe style spaces you can sit in others have very little space so it would be really obvious and more disruptive.

Generally you should be able to drop in and be accepted as you are tho.

ApocalypseSlough · 21/08/2016 09:43

God wouldn't mind but the NCS organisers might. Drop worker off early and get there ASAP

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/08/2016 09:43

Ah, so is it a church service to do with an event or something?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 21/08/2016 09:44

littlebear I was just coming to guffaw over that very typo, conjured up all sorts of inappropriate visions and rather dispelled the notion of an inclusive church Grin