to think it is ok to turn up to a church service half an hour late?

[NoahVale]

i have to take both dds at the same time in different directions.
one is a church service, to do with the NCS she has just done.

church service will surely be all accepting?

of course it's fine

oh I just saw its a one off service to do with an organisation. Hmm. Prob not fine in that case

The other daughter will just have to be early for work

No, not fine, very rude, especially as it's to do with an event/organisation

In that case I'd say the organisers will be pretty miffed. If it's been specifically organised for them then thirty minute late is seriously rude.

If it's unavoidable now, just quietly slip in at the back. There could be any reason why you're late.
Expect lots of tutting from the regulars though and a steely look from the vicar.

Not fine at all and will also stress out the NCS people. Is your DD "doing" something in the service? If she is it's even worse to turn up just for that!

Why are your DDs not ready? Surely they knew about this before?

IF both dds would like a lift from you then you get to decide so worker arrives half early and the. Other can arrive on time politely showing respect t to the organisation that is being honoured at the service
I think you know that it would be rude and disrespectful really
Good luck

Seems rude to me if it's for a particular event.

Presumably there's no friend going who she could cadge a lift with & you collect both?

Whatever works best for you in terms of who has to be earlier for them both to both be on time iyswim.

Tell them when you are leaving & stick to it!

I would say DD has to be early for work or make her own way there.

I have not been to church in years but I'd not turn up half hour after it begins , personally .

I dont think God would mind. Im sure being late for church is ok, forgiveness is a big teaching

I attend church regularly. At our church, anyone is welcome for any part of the service. If you arrive or leave part-way through the service, it's considerate to do so quietly. DH has been twenty minutes late. No one (apart from me) noticed. I have left half an hour before the end (to take DD to a flute exam). No one minded.

I don't think I would want to be part of a congregation that made people feel self-conscious, judged or unwelcome for arriving late.

God doesn't mind. No one else should.

Rude, rude. Can't DD who works get herself to work?

Very rude! Other DD needs to be early for work if she wants a lift

Do you feel it is ok for DD to be 30 mins late for work?! Nope! Think if the DDs want the mum taxi then they have to be ready early or find another way...bus, taxi, bike, friend?

30 mins late is rude and will smack of just showing your face because of event, not wanting to be there for any religious reason but if it's a one off then sneak in quietly during the singing or prepare for turning heads and tutting 🙄

If the DDs are going to be late because one of them has been fannying about instead of getting ready I would take the one whose been the most organised to get there on time and the other one can suffer the consequences of not getting themselves ready. If they've both been as bad as each other though this doesn't really work.

If it's for an event, it's considered really rude. If it's regular mass, not so much.

This is from my experience growing up with zealots strict Catholics.

Is she 'doing' something in the service?

Is she supposed to be there for the readings, or indeed the prayers?

Is she supposed to sit with her group or can she stand at the back?

Does her attendance 'count' for some kind or award or something?

Personally I hold no truck with 'do what the fuck you like, God won't mind' like God is some sort of Uncle in an old peoples home grateful for scraps of attention and rudeness to people doesn't count.

Now I'm late, and my kid is supposed to be on the alter

I just wouldn't go that morning. I think it's rude to be half an hour late.

You won't get a black mark for attendance.

if your dd doesn't normally go to church, is she only going to tick a box for the NCS scheme (don't know how they work) or is she going to start going every week?

if its just a tick box then its disrespectful and also not taking the NCS scheme seriously.

If it was a normal church service then it would be OK but it isn't. It's for the NCS. It's quite poor if she can't get there on time and depending on the church you might not be able to sneak in the back. DM's Church had a door at the front beside the altar. Everyone would notice you coming in late.