If you had this physical 'quirk' would you try and rectify it? AIBU and superficial?

[EarryMcCleery]

Firstly I am going to get these pictures deleted after a while as it's very embarrassing.

Ive always hated my ears. They are a weird shape. One is slightly better than the other as you can see from the pictures.

I debated for years before getting my ears pierced.

if you had these ears, would you seek correctional surgery?

Are they very unsightly?

I mostly wear my hair down.

Please be honest!

I wonder if this kind of surgery is even possible?

Thanks for reading.

I'm aware that there are more important things and that my hearing is perfect so I'm really lucky but...

I was born with ears that (to quote my mother) 'looked like a taxi with its doors wide open'

At age 10 she made me have them pinned back.

Now my left ear is fine, but the right one has a lump on it, where (I think) a stitch was, or something? From the surgery, anyway. I worried for a few years about that.

But I have been wearing my hair in a ponytail for thirty-odd years and no-one has ever noticed it, let alone commented on it. 99% of the time I forget it's even there.

Please stop fretting

There is nothing warped about the logic of feeling that someone who fixates on a pair of ears that work perfectly well, is being superficial, when there are lots more terrible things to worry about. The war in Syria is just one example. In her title, op actually asks if she is being superficial. And, I think yes, she really is. It's a bit like saying 'worse things happen at sea'. Hopefully she will realise she's obsessing over something trifling and move on. Don't give it oxygen.

Op until you described what you felt awkward about I really couldn't tell from your pictures. And even then I don't think there's anything there to fix. Seriously your ears are fine.

Midlife, you have no idea about other people's problems. Are you assuming that nothing in the OP's life is as painful as what you're going through ? I hope you don't treat people like that in real life.

Midlife it's clear you are struggling with what is happening with your child but you need to stop trying to make others feel bad. It's what bullies do. Seek positive support in a different manner it will be far less damaging for everyone involved.

What's wrong with your ears? They're just ears

Midlife There's a bloody war going on in Syria and you're "pissed off" about a MN poster's perception of her own ears? Multiple posts telling her there are bigger problems in the world - irony much? Get over yourself. Op is allowed to post on MN about her ears just as much as you are.

Midlife who pissed on your cornflakes this morning?

OP your ears are pretty and I like that the flatter one is different.

If you stare at anyone's ear for long enough it starts to look strange. You've probably just fixated on it after that child was mean to you.

I can notice it but that is only because you have taken a close up picture and explained what i should be looking at.

I don't think i'd notice if i met you in person tbh.

Most of MN is about trivia. I like my ears but can I point out that today I'm really annoyed by the fact a sandwich shop toasted my sandwich without even asking?

Why do so many sandwich shops do that? I hate hot sandwiches. I want to rant about this. If I do it in rl people will think I'm mad but there's bound to be another hot sandwich phone on here.

Phobe " hot sandwich phobe"

a) I hate these 'fishing for compliments' threads. No one is going to say anything other than nice things.

b) I took um-bridge at the stealth boast that she's really very lucky she can hear fine [my dc struggle profoundly with hearing].

I'm not pissed of about anything Dietcock just posting my answer to her AIBU - I think yes.

Anyway, , I shan't go on and on reiterating my point that OP asked if she was being shallow as she can hear fine (her words), which people tend to be missing, which is why I've posted several times!

OP please enjoy your healthy functioning ears and all the sounds they allow you to hear and stop worrying about their aesthetic qualities. Many people have perfect looking ears, but have problems hearing things. Life is not perfect, and unless you're an 'ear model' then who cares? Tata for now.

I took um-bridge at the stealth boast that she's really very lucky she can hear fine [my dc struggle profoundly with hearing]

I don't think that's a stealth boast ; it was surely meant to be an acknowledgement that she may not like the look of her ears but they function properly (I'd not aesthetically) as ears for which she is grateful.

They're fine.

Dh has one attached lobe, one free. I have a lumpy nose. All just natural variation.

Clearly it was OP saying she realises that there are worse ear troubles than the ones she has not rubbing it in anyone's face. It just seems you've let your own issues affect your feelings towards this post, which is understandable but in the end really the one BU here is you. Even if OP did post "fishing for compliments" they were clearly ones that were needed. Everyone needs a boost especially if they are feeling low, if OP happened to have body dysmorphia then this post's compliments could be invaluable at encouraging a healthy state of mind.

This 100% was not a "fishing for compliments" thread! Honestly, I definitely would not have chosen my ears to look for compliments on.

To the poster who is irritated with this thread, I'm sorry about that. There are definitely threads that annoy us, that just part of mumsnet. I'm sorry for your son and his hearing issue- that must be very hard.

I just want to reiterate to everyone who has taken the time to post that I appreciate it more than you know. I was about to lift the phone yesterday to make an appointment with a plastic surgeon for a consultation when I just thought I'd post about it on mumsnet.

I know everyone who posted are just 'strangers on the internet' but I feel you've been honest. What would you have to gain by saying you didn't see a problem if actually you did? Does that make sense?!

I'm going to keep reading my thread and I'm going to keep looking at it when I have an 'ear wobble' and I'm going to push myself to not focus on this tiny (as many of you said) imperfection.

Thanks again