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Away from home and partner gone missing, help

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Discopanda · 14/08/2016 04:25

Posting here for traffic. We're in Brighton for the weekend and last night got a babysitter so we could go out for a few drinks. When we got in just before 12, DP went with babysitter to get cash to pay her, hasn't come back since. I guessed he'd gone on for a couple more drinks but everywhere will be closed now. His phone is off (it was low on battery when we were out), I don't have a working mobile just my laptop, he's got the only door key and I can't drive, so I am literally stuck here with our 2 DDs (1 and 4), check out is at 4 and I've got all our things and have no idea how I'm even going to be able to take the girls downstairs for breakfast without the key card to get back in after. I was considering calling the local A&E to see if he's got hurt or injured but don't want to wake them up. What do I do?!?!

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Finola1step · 14/08/2016 11:21

Oh and is he going to be below the drink drive limit this afternoon?

scorpionadmin123 · 14/08/2016 11:21

DH had coitus with the babysitter.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 14/08/2016 11:21

Is the casino still there by the station.

StealthPolarBear · 14/08/2016 11:22

Dh and I stayed in a travel lodge and then a premier inn a xpuple of weeks ago. At one we got one key card, at the other we got two.
At these sorts of places you can often pay am extra 10 for a late check out.
That said, why wouldn't he send you a quick text to say he was going our for a drink? Even if he hadnt been arrested surely the op would have worried

PointlessUsername · 14/08/2016 11:23

Oh wow that story has so many flaws in it.

Skittlesss · 14/08/2016 11:24

I've known people to be locked up for d&d and be released at 6am... or for prevent breach of peace.

LewisAndClark · 14/08/2016 11:24

My ex husband told me he'd been arrested. I phoned the police station and they said that although he was well known to them (which was news to me) he hadn't been arrested for ages, and certainly not that night.

After a bit of digging I found out he'd been out all night at a rave and had been seen with a blonde in the back of his van.

It took me another year to leave, but this kind of shit was constant. I had a toddler and a baby.

happypoobum · 14/08/2016 11:25

Bump That thought did cross my mind early on but I was being delicate waiting for someone else to suggest it

OP are you at the Jurys Inn ( used to be the Thistle?) as it is a few doors down from the big casino. I wonder if the "thieves" will have used his card at the casino? If so, the police will be able to obtain the sign in records.........

Catsize · 14/08/2016 11:25

What offence was he arrested for? Sounds nonsense.

CatThiefKeith · 14/08/2016 11:25

I'm with Finola and Bumpngrind. Sorry OP. I'd be getting an std test ASAP in your shoes. Flowers

practy · 14/08/2016 11:26

I have looked online and there is at least one Brighton hotel where you can pay extra to check out at 4pm. I have booked in to hotels with DP and only been given one key card. If you ask for another, they give you two, but not everywhere does it automatically.

Ops DPs story though is bullshit.

JinkxMonsoon · 14/08/2016 11:28

Are people seriously suggesting that, because it was Brighton, the wayward DH might have had sex with a man?

Oysterbabe · 14/08/2016 11:28

You have to wonder what the true story is if pretending you were arrested is preferable.

TendonQueen · 14/08/2016 11:30

He must think you're a fucking idiot
OP to spin that yarn.

And no one assuming the babysitter slept with him has a) a good opinion of other women's professionalism or b) a sound grasp of reality. Why would you try that when clubs will be full of other women who won't know you have a partner and children waiting?

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RomeoIsBleeding · 14/08/2016 11:31

LionHeart It's a possibility that all threads on here are fictitious, but I actually think it's the husband's story that sounds fanciful.

Because the version of events the OP has presented are incredibly unlikely to have happened as reported.

What kind of person comes back from a night out with their spouse, goes out with babysitter to a cashpoint to get money to pay them, and then just decides to go out for a few more drinks and then gets themselves arrested for 'creating a scene'? And at no point considers that the spouse might be worried? Especially in light of the fact they have no way of contacting each other? Especially when there are young children involved.

I think it's far more likely that he wound up taking the babysitter for a drink to break a note and get some change or something and then 'one thing led to another'...

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 14/08/2016 11:31

jink. Yep. Because it's the only town in the UK with resident homosexuals, so it must be that....

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 14/08/2016 11:32

That sounds a little far fetched too. Especially as it was an agency babysitter.

Ringadingdingdong · 14/08/2016 11:32

His story sounds like the biggest pile of bullshit.

I reckon the babysitter mentioned she was off to meet friends at a club and he decided to tag along. In his inebriated state he thought his story sounded plausible. I expect it was still really busy when he went to get the cash and he wanted to stay out and play.

Ringadingdingdong · 14/08/2016 11:34

I don't think there's any need to jump to the conclusion that he's sagged anyone. Some Clubs in Brighton stay open until daybreak.

OnionKnight · 14/08/2016 11:35

Why are people suggesting that the DH had gay sex?

Ringadingdingdong · 14/08/2016 11:35

*shagged

SouthWindsWesterly · 14/08/2016 11:35

I thought you could be arrested at the scene and then de-arrested once they sorted what happened, but usually not going back to a police cell.

That's by the by - it was shit of him to leave and to go out for more drinks. So how is he going to prove payment for the room if the card is cancelled.

NickiFury · 14/08/2016 11:37

There's nothing "odd" about this thread. Unfortunately selfish men disappearing on benders is only too common as we can see from others who have posted.

My ex used to wait till I had gone to bed and leave the house. He always had at least one night on any holiday that he disappeared on and as I said earlier in the thread he disappeared half way through a holiday in Thailand and never came back at all, I was there a week alone and then had to get myself and my children on internal flights and back to the UK.

So this is not an outlandish event but having heard similar tales from ex to excuse his absence and then finding out later exactly where he actually was, I think the husbands story is utter bullshit.

NickiFury · 14/08/2016 11:39

And if the thread does turn out not to be true it doesn't really matter to me because this behaviour was certainly true in my life and seemingly many others on this thread.

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