Away from home and partner gone missing, help

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Posting here for traffic. We're in Brighton for the weekend and last night got a babysitter so we could go out for a few drinks. When we got in just before 12, DP went with babysitter to get cash to pay her, hasn't come back since. I guessed he'd gone on for a couple more drinks but everywhere will be closed now. His phone is off (it was low on battery when we were out), I don't have a working mobile just my laptop, he's got the only door key and I can't drive, so I am literally stuck here with our 2 DDs (1 and 4), check out is at 4 and I've got all our things and have no idea how I'm even going to be able to take the girls downstairs for breakfast without the key card to get back in after. I was considering calling the local A&E to see if he's got hurt or injured but don't want to wake them up. What do I do?!?!

I wouldn't be able to tolerate this level of selfishness.

Course he did...

Dodgy.

I don't believe that story

Not sure if I believe that story..but it's not up to me. main thing is he's safe op. Hope your are ok.

*you

Still marking my place

I'm sorry he was mugged but does he generally fuck off after a night out?

So he
Got mugged (so now no debit cards)
Got arrested for making a scene (fair enough, he was a bit pissed) then continued to drink? With what money? The last of his cash?
and he didn't come home to you even though he likely knew you'd be worried sick?
He's lying and I'd hit the fucking roof

Or so he says........

I'd be angry too.
Glad he's not hurt but I'd be really hacked off with that behaviour, especially being carted off to the police station to sober up. Hope he realises what an utter twat he's been.

Surely he'd be tied up at the police station a bit longer if he'd been arrested. There's paperwork. It takes ages. Even if there's no charge.

What a twat for buggering off and leaving you with the kids just because he fancied a couple more.
What a twat for causing a scene.
What a twat for not calling you from the police station.

I think I'd need more than a pinch of salt to believe him.

I don't believe a word of it.

I'd put money on him being with someone else. Sorry to be blunt but I think you need to really dig into this story.

Both times I've been arrested (both very minor charges. Well. I say charges. I never actually GOT charged) I was in for 12 and 25 hours respectively. I wouldn't believe the time scale either. Especially if he came in a bit pissed at the middle of the night he'd be kept in to sober up

If he left to get money for the babysitter at midnight, then went to get a couple drinks, then had his bank card stolen, then caused a "scene" then was arrested and held in the cells "overnight" that's a lot of stuff to happen in just over four hours (as that was when you last posted) I'd be trying to work out where he really was if I was you OP.

You don't get arrested and let go within a few hours OP.

So he went out at midnight for a few more drinks? Then got into an altercation (so say 1am) and was then arrested and let go by 5am.

I absolutely think not.

He is lying or you are.

Exactly. Arrested is bullshit. There's not enough time for all that to have happened.

He is totally lying to you about the police/ bank card. a call to the police station will confirm when he was there, he's totally shagged the babysitter or/and has a drink problem ! who the fuck leaves his partner in a hotel room with two small kids worrying like that ! Why would he be arrested if he's been mugged??

Lean to drive
Get a phone
And get the fuck away from thus loser

The police wouldn't let him contact you/or contact you themselves to say he was in a cell ?
I just don't believe that they would allow that to happen.

You go away with your 2 girls for a week end, nota... special family holiday he behaves like an arsehole.
What kind of adult is he?
Personally I would not tolerate the lack of respect.

How did they release him so quickly? Surely he would've called you from station.

Weird.

Uh yeah I'm about 90% this whole mugging/arrest didn't happen. Sounds like a story tailor made to cover up charges on the card ('It wasn't me!') and a 'sympathetic' excuse for not coming home or calling. So the police let him go at 5 am did they? Crime number and custody paperwork or it didn't happen.

Am also frankly mystified at the idea that you simply 'give him a bollocking' and take rural holidays from now on. In what universe is this tolerable within a marriage?

His story sounds suss to me.... Sorry but bit of a coincidence that he walked the babysitter back to get cash, got his card stolen and then went for more drinks on his own....with what cash? What's the likelihood of his debit card being stolen and him being so disruptive that HE got arrested?