To think that when you're using play equipment in the park it's rude for parents to stand next to you waiting for you to finish

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I'm wondering if I'm the only one who hates this or if I'm being unreasonable.

When I'm in the park with my Sons and we want to go on something we play on something else until it's free and then quickly go on it once it becomes available. We don't stand right next to the parent and child waiting for them to get off! If we know something is really popular we will only stay on 5 mins so that everyone gets a chance to play.

One thing I've noticed consistently, is that there are a small number of parents who will stand right next to you with their child, literally waiting for you to get off the equipment. In the process, making you feel rushed and uncomfortable. Especially if they make a big deal of the fact they are waiting by saying stuff like 'won't be long now and you can go on once this boy has got off'.

Today I was in a large, fairly busy park and I put my Son in the swing. I had only just put him in when a woman went right behind me and said to her daughter 'we will go on once this boy has finished' she then proceeded to stand still, right next to me, with a grumpy face until we took our Son out of the swing'.

It's something I would never ever do. I think it's rude and unnecessary. Standing nearby is different but right next to the person is rude.

If a park is so busy it's necessary to queue for things I suppose that's different, but i'm not talking about parks like that. Just normal parks.

I know I probably am being a bit unreasonable but it's happened a few times now, and it's really getting on my nerves.

I do believe that MNHQ have said that if posters are disablist and continue to be so and are not willing to engage and learn then action would be taken.

I believe that to keep asserting these views now is goading

If my DC has been waiting a while to get on a swing then it must be dispiriting to hear a loud adult voice say that it won't be long until she's had her turn. Puts a dampener on her enjoyment somewhat.
But I bet if you had been waiting a while to get on something like a swing, maybe there had been a queue of several people, as you move forward in the queue and get closer as each child in front starts their turn, you would be reassuring your child that it won't be long now.

I will continue to be polite and engage with people who are able to be civil
Which would be fine if your perception of civil wasn't so skewed, and your reaction to anyone you deem to disrespect you is to punish their child.

I hope MNHQ will be along soon.

I don't expect my opinion of what is rude to change just because my kids are the kids waiting.

Ah well, I can see it's difficult for you to back down but honestly I think it's a mistake to think you've got it all worked out.

And hope you don't find it patronising but I had a little after some of the earlier posts...

this is my child

Yabu my dds love a certain bit of play equipment and it's very popular so if you didn't wait by it they'd never get on it. I wait with them to keep an eye on them and make sure they don't start being rude with big sighs and moaning they want a turn but also so the other parents realise others are waiting. Obviously I could not get involved and allow dd to come and drag your child off the equipment when she deems it her turn but I've chosen to teach her manners.

I don't think the goading started just now, fanjo.

This is absolutely priceless. A poster without a toddler is admonishing those who do have them, and advising how she might behave in a mythical future (here's a handy tip: lots of experience with other people's children does not always count for anything at all when it comes to wrangling your own tantrumming toddler)

Allegedly a teacher, yet unable to admit that she would be able to distinguish a 12 year old with a severe developmental disability from one who is NT (as repeatedly said to me last night - apparently if I was unable to actually tell Pearlman that my dd has SN, then she would not be able to tell, despite the socially odd behaviours from us both).

It is almost unbelievable, tbh.

Well, you were deleted 3 tines. I will await MNHQ response. I would tread carefully if I were you , tbh

Pearlman I assume you teach older children?

I wouldnt bother negating with pearlman, who is obviously getting some kick from being dogged on this thread.

It's not great that HQ allow this sort of thing to run on.

You're right Fanjo. We're all perfect parents who know exactly what we'd do...until we have children.

fanjo I think it may be the some people have to have the last word.

I bet if you had been waiting a while to get on something like a swing, maybe there had been a queue of several people, as you move forward in the queue and get closer as each child in front starts their turn, you would be reassuring your child that it won't be long now.

I would. But not in a loud voice. I would speak to my DC and not be looking at the parent and the DC on the swing. That is passive aggressive and deserves to be ignored.

Hopefully they will be having their last word soon. .

Just finished reading the whole thread.

I do agree with Pearl that it is rude and unless someone tells me otherwise I would assume rude behaviour.

Its also not fair to not believe she is a teacher. Not all teachers behaviour and think the same way. My best friends is a teacher and a damn good one but when she is not at work she hates children and cant stand to be around them.

You cant stereotype a profession. Im a nursing auxiliary and I hate people, have no sympathy or empathy but I can fake it very well and my patients like me.

I would say 5 mins is about right for a turn but I also dont like social politeness and unwritten rules. I dont believe you have to give up your turn just because someone else wants one.

If someone stood by the swing whilst my boys where using it and made those comments I would take as long as my boys wanted.

You really should pull your socks up

I am not troll hunting.

I am calling you out on inconsistencies in your own posts.

Only you know whether what you are posting is true or not, and only you know whether it is designed to wi d up and/or offend other posters.

There's a lot of posters here with the opinion that you are doing both, and so you might want to have a think about how you come across in written communication, if you are actually doing neither.

In fairness, I was perfectly willing to leave it last night, but some people just couldn't let it go

If you want to stop posting on a thread, you just stop posting. You aren't obliged to keep replying to people. Otherwise it just tends to look as if you actually want to prolong the conversation, not end it