Just got kicked off a Facebook group....was I unreasonable?

[mrgrouper]

I was on a teacher training group (the one where I posted an AIBU about the trainee who could not add a quarter and a half).
Most of the posts are, IMO, a bit vacuous. Fashion advice for trainees etc
Anyway one woman posted a photo of her new £34 planner last night with the caption "look at my £34 planner...cannot wait until September soooo excited!" and I posted "can people just stop bragging off". I was then dogpiled by a load of women who are soooo excited to start their training, so I blocked them and then got booted.
I think the main issue is I am not "soooo excited" about September. It looks like bloody hard work. I am looking forward to it, but not exactly doing cartwheels over all the hard graft I am going to have to put in.
Perhaps it is because I am older than the other trainees at 40. I dunno. Perhaps I am just a miserable grump.

Are you a man by any chance OP?
I'm so sorry you have depression.
I don't think you've been acting like a grump i think you've been acting like an asshole.

Yes, OP!

Do start a new thread, please!

It will all take a different direction now you have explained a bit more of the background to this.

I hope it doesn't sound patronising of me to say that if you reach out for help, people will help, but we can't help if we don't know what's going on.

For what it's worth, I don't think I could cope with FB either. It's not for everyone.

If you like Creme Eggs, I'll get you one.

So, OP doesn't see a problem with being rude to someone on social media yet stomps off in a hissy fit because people on social media tell her she was rude.

OKaaaay....

Why would op be a man?
Is it because she wasn't enamoured by the fancy planner?

This thread is reminding me of the organised mum planners that people used to buy on here! £34 for a planner is ridiculous. For that price I'd want it to plan my lessons for me.

I hope you're okay op.

You're being a miserable grump.

I think the expression "If you haven't got anything nice to say..." is relevant here. If posts on the group are annoying you, just ignore them! It's very simple.

Well, their user name is MRgrouper. Although that doesn't necessarily mean anything.

Sounds like the group wasn't for you really, not only did the planner irritate but also the friendly posts re appropriate work wear etc.

It irritated you - and you upset others. Sounds like the outcome suits everyone all round.

Willow check out the OP's name.

What's vacuous about fashion advice for trainees? Appropriate workwear is important, yes?

I'm a bit worried about someone going into teaching when they're stressed and depressed already. If anything's guaranteed to make you depressed, it's your first year teaching - no amount of shiny stationery will make up for that.

Mr Grouper is a character name from bubble guppies.

My username is also a male character, I am a woman. An ops name means very little.

Not necessarily Imperial. Some people thrive on burning both ends of the candle.

My user name is also male! From Gilmore Girls. Because it really should have been. Not that rich twat. Might have to start a new thread on this.

An ops name means very little.

And yet sometimes it does.

CBA to rtwt but my first thought was that if it was annoying you so much that you werent bothered about being kicked off, why didnt you just leave?

ItShouldHaveBeenJess

I agree. I don't understand what Rory saw with Logan. No spark between them too.

Soup. So... the band or the cute little Clanger?

Cool. Off to start a new thread...

You're damned rude. I did my teacher training as a mature aged student, and I was ridiculously excited to get in to the classroom and get started. I loved every little item I bought that I could use in my own classroom. I couldn't wait to get teaching and get on with it.

Even now, I still love finding a new book that I can share with "my kids" or a new maths game to play. And the new school year is ridiculously exciting about how I'm going to set up my classroom.

Quite frankly, if you can't muster up the enthusiasm to get excited about these things now, then you'll never make it as a teacher. Teaching is hard work. There's lots of long hours, so much planning, work to be done. We get excited over classroom decorating, books and stationery because it is what we have that we can truly make our own.

YANBU to roll your eyes but YWBU to comment I think

Every time I see the Jammy dodger I want jammy dodgers. Now all I can think about are jammy dodgers and I'm cooking pasta

ItShouldHaveBeenJess
I'd have more respect for an NQT who admitted she was nervous, than one who was more excited about her new stationary.

One of the new teachers at my school is excited about everything, boxes, pencils, rules etc.

One of the things that makes her a good teacher is her enthusiasm.

boney. Yes, I do agree that enthusiasm for the job is an attractive quality, especially when looking after our DC! What I meant was that I would also appreciate a teacher who understood the huge responsibility that comes with the role, and was a bit nervous about what she was taking on. I think the OP in this case would have been better off recognizing her response was based on fear, and starting a thread about that ( which to be fair, she did do in later posts), than mentioning the whole FB thing.

Are we sure they are JDs and not these biscuits from the Family Circle biscuit collection? These have jam AND cream filling and are dusted with extra sugar. An old workplace used to have them and I always grabbed that one first.