Just got kicked off a Facebook group....was I unreasonable?

[mrgrouper]

I was on a teacher training group (the one where I posted an AIBU about the trainee who could not add a quarter and a half).
Most of the posts are, IMO, a bit vacuous. Fashion advice for trainees etc
Anyway one woman posted a photo of her new £34 planner last night with the caption "look at my £34 planner...cannot wait until September soooo excited!" and I posted "can people just stop bragging off". I was then dogpiled by a load of women who are soooo excited to start their training, so I blocked them and then got booted.
I think the main issue is I am not "soooo excited" about September. It looks like bloody hard work. I am looking forward to it, but not exactly doing cartwheels over all the hard graft I am going to have to put in.
Perhaps it is because I am older than the other trainees at 40. I dunno. Perhaps I am just a miserable grump.

That group was obviously not the type of group you should be in as they are younger than you and annoying you so much. You were a bit rude to be honest. I would have told you to F off if you commented on one of my posts being a miserable old grump

You sound miserable, are you really a teacher?

You don't know many teachers most teachers love stationary and find I very exciting.

Yeah, you're a miserable grump :)

Let's face it, we all are sometimes! I usually manage to just think my reply and click Like through gritted teeth in these situations.

Teaching is a hell of a lot of work. Don't do it if it scares you. Grumpy people do not make good teachers.

Poor cow was all excited about her hideously overpriced stationery which she was going to coo over every time she used it, and you just deflated it all like a balloon.

Bad form!

Acasualobserver, that's what I thought too!

OP, sometimes you need to keep those kind of thoughts in your head or phrase them better. Remember, you are going to have to get on with your colleagues and they are not all going to think exactly like you. And that's without even considering the feelings of the pupils you are going to teach!

You were rude, and I'd have been seriously fucked off if someone had pissed on my chips like that.

It's ok to THINK things like that, you just don't SAY them. Not if you want to get on with people you don't.

Op YANBU, you were being honest. I've no time for that type of shite either. Social media has turned mundane crap into something other people pretend to be interested in. You were not rude just real

But mainly you were rude about stationery

A capital offence Sorry op but yabu.

YABU, why not just ignore it? I don't get why people feel the need to put unwanted, nasty comments on Facebook. What's the point?

YABU, even if you're stressed, you don't have the right to regulate what other people want to talk about in the group.

YWBU. You're 40?

I love new stationery!
You were being miserable and grumpy.

So what do you are stressed, that's entirely your problem to deal with. Rude of you to take that out on other people.

What if

YABU. I don't know how anyone doesn't get excited about stationery but I'm a massive saddo. You're a massive grump though, let someone else have their excitement, it's a little silly to get involved in this kind of stuff and tbh, if you're going to be a teacher, you need to be able to deal with pettiness between pupils etc in a bit of a more grown up way.

Rude and unnecessary. I wouldn't bother with training as a teacher if you get pissed off enough to come onto MN and write a post over such an innocuous comment!

Come on, you know YABU. You were unnecessarily rude. Why shouldn't other people be excited, just because you're not? Your comment, and your subsequent explanations, make it sound like you don't want anyone else to be happy because it's a lot of work and you're not happy.

If you're not feeling the excitement, you had the option to either scroll past the posts, or hide/leave the group. Leave the excited people to be excited and to share the happiness. There's no need to bring them down too. Just as in real life, where your options are to either join in and say how someone's car/holiday/job/whatever are lovely, or change the conversation - you wouldn't tell them their new job sucked or their new car would be nicer in blue. You'd have no friends.

Nobody likes a killjoy. You might find September is mentally a bit easier if you start excited, too - then when the hard work hits, you'll be in a better place to deal with it than if you're already very stressed and miserable.

YWBU - you didn't have to say anything at all, and I also wonder why you were in the group if you disliked it so much

I think forget about the group, they are not the right one for you.

You do sound stressed and actually rightly so, teacher training is fucking hard and full of stress but then it's over and you can look forward to the career and the kids and the bit all the work is going towards!

Just get your head down, get through, try to have as much fun along the way and then it'll be done and you will be a teacher!

I just want to know what this wonderous stationery was

You were very rude - and you are giving off a bit of a "I'm so much more mature than you" attitude - which you may well be but you're the one stressing about September and they're the ones looking forward to it.

Honestly, that comment does not scream (not even hint of) maturity. It's a very petty comment.

YABU

It's not nice to piss on other people's chips, just because you don't feel as excited as them.

I suspect teaching will be a massive culture shock for you.