Just got kicked off a Facebook group....was I unreasonable?

[mrgrouper]

I was on a teacher training group (the one where I posted an AIBU about the trainee who could not add a quarter and a half).
Most of the posts are, IMO, a bit vacuous. Fashion advice for trainees etc
Anyway one woman posted a photo of her new £34 planner last night with the caption "look at my £34 planner...cannot wait until September soooo excited!" and I posted "can people just stop bragging off". I was then dogpiled by a load of women who are soooo excited to start their training, so I blocked them and then got booted.
I think the main issue is I am not "soooo excited" about September. It looks like bloody hard work. I am looking forward to it, but not exactly doing cartwheels over all the hard graft I am going to have to put in.
Perhaps it is because I am older than the other trainees at 40. I dunno. Perhaps I am just a miserable grump.

Look. You were rude and you should know better. You asked for opinions and got told. You clearly are struggling. Nobody expects you to be perfect. You aren't expected not to make mistakes. You're expected to own the mistakes when they're pointed out to you and apologise, not double down.

I hope you are getting effective treatment (genuinely). But this "fuck off to anyone who doesn't follow my feelings exactly" approach, followed with "I'm depressed so you have to accept that", is going to push away more or less everyone. You need to get a handle on that, whatever that means - better self-care, therapy, meds, taking up boxing, whatever. And I would honestly advise that you think about whether teacher training is the right thing for you currently, because the stress ain't going to get much less from what I know of teaching. Maybe it's worth withdrawing or postponing until your mental health is on a more even keel.

Honestly, reading some of these posts, you'd think the OP was the first person ever to be rude on social media! I've only been on MN a few months, but I'm fairly sure she has been far outdone on here! She's stressed, she's anxious and she made a silly remark in the heat of the moment because she is probably frustrated that no-one seems to share her concerns. She didn't swear, it wasn't the worst post in the world; she just wanted to hear someone say they were feeling terrified too.

Sorry OP. I am part of Facebook groups. Lots of them. If a post annoys you You Dont Post
Walk away, Make a cuppa, Leave the group if you must.
I would have given you a chance to change your post. but If you kept that shite up.
Boom Gonesville

Depression is no excuse for being rude.

OP, this would have irritated me but I would not have the guts to say it. I rather admire you. Detest bragging.

God the biscuit thing is so pathetic, can't anyone just say what they mean rather than just handing out biscuits? It's such an outdated thing!

YANBU. £34 is a ridiculous amount to pay for a planner, and mentioning the price makes it obnoxiously braggy in a way that just posting a picture of it wouldn't be.

But then I don't use Facebook.

I really want a link to the planner ?
I fucking love stationery

Why is it bragging to be really excited about something. FFS why can't people just be pleased for each other, and a little bit more pleasant?

think you are more realistic about teacher training. bloody hard work. lots of paper work. and who the fuck pays £34 for a planner.

OP. I have and still am suffering Depression. Attacking others will not ease your pain.

((((((((Hugs)))))))))))) I hope you find a way to cope that doesn't hurt others

Queen. Agree. It's actually put me off of Jammy Dodgers in real life!

just name change into oblivion....

See, OP? You have support on here!

Navy

I wasn't allowed to join a horse grooming group that l hadnt even requested to join.
Facebook is akin to another planet sometimes.

I got banned from a dachshund forum for saying shit once

How can anyone be on a dog forum without the word "shit" coming up? Since we got our pup, I think my DH and I talk about dog shit every day

Miss, we might be getting a dog.
Miss, my nan brought me this pen from Wales.
Miss, I might be going to see Littlemix.
Miss, I'm going to my dads on Sunday.
Miss, my tooth fell out while I was on the toilet.

Best get practising your 'Wow, how exciting' face, OP. You'll def need it. Even if inwardly you're thinking 'and what?'

Do you think you have made a mistake?
I'm refering to the job, I fear the stationary may go NC

just wondering was this a specific uni group or a general teacher training group?

I wouldn't mind joining a group myself if you could let me know what it was or if there are any other teacher training groups you know of because I can only find specific uni groups.

God the biscuit thing is so pathetic

OMG I am so offended I will throw all my toys out of the prams and ask for my comment and profile to be deleted foreverandever you are so mean you awful people.

Here are a couple for you

and some on top.

Anyway, I can't be bothered to repeat what I already wrote to the OP.

I'm sorry you have depression but I don't think it can excuse you being so unpleasant. I think if you are depressed you need to try and protect yourself by not doing things that are going to make you feel worse. If you are feeling sensitive and worried about next year then it was a bit silly to go on on a FB group full of enthusiastic people. The same goes for posting an AIBU on MN - that's really not a good idea if you are feeling vulnerable.

You have to be a bit more logical and look after yourself.

Taking it out on other people isn't nice and won't help you.

:)

Maybe start a new post, OP. Say 'Look, I suffer from depression, I've worked my arse off trying to turn my life around and my new career starts in September. I'm terrified I've taken on too much, and that I won't be up to the workload'. No need to mention (ridiculously) over-priced planner thingy. You just need to get Day One out of the way; people assume 'confidence' is some inherent thing - it isn't, it comes from doing the same thing over and over until it becomes natural to you.