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To have asked my hairdresser on a date?

290 replies

auldspinster · 01/08/2016 20:37

Had my hair done on Saturday - we were talking sex; relationships and children and we were bemoaning how difficult it is to meet people at our age (we're both 41) and what we missed as single people.

I've always found him attractive and we always have masses to talk about (my frightwig takes about an hour to cut and dry) and I thought afterwards, fuck it, life's too short.

He has a website for a semi professional thing he does on the side so I emailed through it, suggesting we meet for a coffee. That was at lunchtime, am I insane?

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SweatyBettyHelp · 07/08/2016 19:23

Marking place and hoping you get a reply soon op

auldfuckingspinster · 07/08/2016 19:23

If we hadn't had such a rapport from the beginning I wouldn't be pursuing it I'm sitting in the chair telling him he'd have no problem picking up women while the bloody obvious was staring me in ther face, arggh. Shock

auldfuckingspinster · 07/08/2016 19:24

Blow dries on tap!

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 07/08/2016 19:34

Shamlessly place-marking. This is distracting me from the Olympics!

Cheesymonster · 07/08/2016 19:38

I read that too quick auld and thought it said blow jobs on tap.

DownstairsMixUp · 07/08/2016 19:42

Ooh shameless place mark! Gutted I missed the picture, I'm sure you do look fabulous though!

GrumpyOldBag · 07/08/2016 19:46

I'm afraid it seems as if he's just not into you.

Sorry OP.

AndNowItsSeven · 07/08/2016 19:51

Isn't that a movie?

imjessie · 07/08/2016 19:55

Ooh ! I hope it works Out for you !

icelollycraving · 07/08/2016 19:59

Can you see if he's read your message on fb? I personally wouldn't pursue it. Next time you're booked in,see if he mentions anything.

SheHasAWildHeart · 07/08/2016 20:01

If he doesn't reply don't leave him a message at the salon. Just book as you normally would and if he mentions just laugh it off as though you'd forgotten about it.

Newnew35 · 07/08/2016 20:19

I wouldn't pursue it. Although I'm sure you did have a very good rapport with him the last time you saw him, you don't know how many other customers he engages with in that way. If you do continue to use the salon, you'll know sooner or later whether he's interested.

icelollycraving · 07/08/2016 20:23

I used to really fancy my hairdresser. He was bloody lovely & always had a good chat. I used to tell him all about my bf of the time who was an arse. I think as much as I fancied him, it was his job to make me feel good & he was a genuinely nice guy. I was gutted when he moved.

auldfuckingspinster · 07/08/2016 20:44

His Facebook looked pretty inactive and we don't have any connections so I figured a facebook message would get swallowed up into the spam folder, hence the contract form on the website but there's a good chance that's also in a spam folder. I only go every 6 months cos its so dear and about every 6 weeks for a fringe trim from whoever is available when I pop in.

auldfuckingspinster · 07/08/2016 20:46

If he's not into it that's fine, just want to make absolutely sure before I abandon the idea.

helenatroy · 07/08/2016 20:54

I'd say don't abandon the thought. I would however book a blow dry with him in a week or so. Go in looking the DB's and wait for him to bring it up.

StraightOuttaKemptown · 07/08/2016 22:21

If that was the type of conversation, he'd have asked you out if he was interested, as telling him he'd have no trouble meeting women sounds obviously flirtatious and indicates your interest.

Unfortunately in customer service roles, politeness is often misconstrued as flirting.

auldfuckingspinster · 07/08/2016 23:13

I work in customer service. Asking a client out in my role would be akin to sexual harassment and a case for at least misconduct. It would have been extremely inappropriate for him to ask me out while I was still in the chair.

StraightOuttaKemptown · 07/08/2016 23:15

He could have looked you up in the same way you looked him up. I think you're over-invested in this..

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auldfuckingspinster · 08/08/2016 08:59

Ta, will put it to sleep if he doesn't bite.

dranaksjd · 09/08/2016 00:33

I'm going to have to be really honest here as I think it's the kindest thing to do.

I can understand asking your hairdresser on a date if you felt there was a connection and mutual interest but your updates, if I'm honest,are a little creepy.

There's a difference between finding your hairdresser attractive and being obsessed with him and you seem over invested and preoccupied with him.

I would definetly not ask him out at the salon, that's stalkerish. I'm sure he has received your message and just isn't interested.

There is nothing in your post that suggests he is interested and it seems he was just being friendly.

The rule my Grandma gave me is one I've always gone by. She said if a guy is interested in you, you will know about it, you will never need to ask him out. If you do, he was never that interested in the first place and he will just think you are desperate'. It's so true. Guys really don't look favourably on girls that ask guys out.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/08/2016 00:39

dran your comment was quite sensible until that drivel about not asking men out because they 'don't look favourably on girls that ask guys out.' What utter shite. Sexist bollocks.

PuppyMonkeyBaby · 09/08/2016 05:22

LOL! I've been to married for years to the guy I asked out. As he proposed I assume he looked quite favourably on me.