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To have asked my hairdresser on a date?

290 replies

auldspinster · 01/08/2016 20:37

Had my hair done on Saturday - we were talking sex; relationships and children and we were bemoaning how difficult it is to meet people at our age (we're both 41) and what we missed as single people.

I've always found him attractive and we always have masses to talk about (my frightwig takes about an hour to cut and dry) and I thought afterwards, fuck it, life's too short.

He has a website for a semi professional thing he does on the side so I emailed through it, suggesting we meet for a coffee. That was at lunchtime, am I insane?

OP posts:
Oakley02 · 09/08/2016 07:29

Any news yet? Great thread, I am hooked! 😃

QueenArseClangers · 09/08/2016 09:25

Fuck off with your 'girls don't ask out boys' shite dran.

It's 2016 FFs. The bloke I asked out is now my husband of many eyes with 5 kids together. Think he was interested Hmm

MiniLop · 09/08/2016 11:07

Queen your husband of many eyes?! ShockGrin

auldfuckingspinster · 09/08/2016 12:26

I didn't even know i was interested until late last Saturday. Yes i admit i've been more than a bit infatuated and its probably doomed but it'll keep bugging me on the off chance he didn't get it.

SpecialAgentFreyPie · 09/08/2016 12:30

I have really enjoyed following this thread, and I'm sorry it didn't work out but I think you need to let it go. You're getting into stalker territory.

icelollycraving · 09/08/2016 12:45

👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀 queen

SaucyJack · 09/08/2016 12:48

Are you married to Aragog?

JellyBeansHaveNoAgeLimit · 09/08/2016 13:46

I don't get why people are saying the op is being stalkerish, she's only sent one message which might not have been received? Everything else she's written about him have just been musings, she's not actually done anything else yet!

I think you should leave your number at the salon OP, that way you know he's received it for definite

Piddletastic · 09/08/2016 13:57

If things were the other way round and a man was pursuing a woman like this then people would be swooning and the romance! There's nothing stalkerish about this at all. It's not like OP is dropping off her number with a few of her leg hairs and a photoshopped pic of their wedding day and future children.

Also Grin at queen being married to a spider.

QueenArseClangers · 09/08/2016 14:01

Ha ha! Yes, my DH Incy Wincy.
He had no choice but to accept my proposition as I was looming over him with a plastic Ikea cup and a postcard in a threatening way 😄

Queenbean · 09/08/2016 14:04

"Husband of many eyes" really made me laugh

SquidgyRedBall · 09/08/2016 14:06

Been following this hoping for some update.

Just thought I would come out of lurking to express my amusement at 'husband of many eyes' Grin

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 09/08/2016 14:09

The rule my Grandma gave me is one I've always gone by. She said if a guy is interested in you, you will know about it, you will never need to ask him out. If you do, he was never that interested in the first place and he will just think you are desperate'. It's so true.

What a load of old shite.

Stillunexpected · 09/08/2016 14:22

Grandma dated in a different century. The world has moved on (thankfully).

ofshoes · 09/08/2016 14:36

If things were the other way round and a man was pursuing a woman like this then people would be swooning and the romance

What if this hypothetical woman was to learn that he was being a wee bit obsessive about it and discussing every detail of their non-existent romance with a bunch of random blokes on some forum?

Queenbean · 09/08/2016 14:42

If things were the other way round and a man was pursuing a woman like this then people would be swooning and the romance

Actually I think that if it were a man people would be thinking it was far creepier. It's pretty obvious who this guy is from the clues, I'd hate to be discussed over an Internet forum like this!

Piddletastic · 09/08/2016 15:42

OP hasn't been at all obsessive toward the chap. Posters have asked lots of questions but her actions thus far have only been sending a message via a Facebook account. That's not obsessive at all. OP has then obsessed over the reasons why he hasn't responded, as anyone would. The fact that's it's been done on here I don't see as off putting as it's not 100% identifying. (Apart from the photo bit, obv, but that was removed).

I think if a woman come here and said she met a guy through work, he messaged her then dropped off his number and now they're dating - the response would be 😍 'how romantic!' If she wasn't interested and he left it at that she would still be flattered.

auldfuckingspinster · 09/08/2016 15:51

I'm gonna ask for this thread to be deleted shortly.

SheHasAWildHeart · 09/08/2016 15:52

Why?

Piddletastic · 09/08/2016 15:56

Knew this would happen.

Because people are negative nellies. Any thread on here has the potential to be derailed by posters saying it's too identifying, creepy, sad, boring, wrong, etc.

Fuck em

ofshoes · 09/08/2016 15:58

OP hasn't been at all obsessive toward the chap

It was more the 10 pages of discussion and the "No update yet" messages when it fell off the front page that I thought were a wee bit obsessive. Again, if the hypothetical woman found out that a whole bunch of strangers were discussing the prospects of her getting with this man then she might be a bit creeped out. I know would be anyway.

Also, the thread is fairly identifying, if you knew the city at all you'd be able to narrow down the suspects without too much difficulty, picture or not.

Anonymouses · 09/08/2016 16:03

Good luck OP

auldfuckingspinster · 09/08/2016 17:12

Been very sweetly knocked back.

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 09/08/2016 17:14

Sorry to hear that. Nothing ventured, nothing gained etc. And at least you got a response. Even if it took him a while.

bobbinpop · 09/08/2016 17:20

Just thought I'd say that I'm impressed you asked him out. I look back at how much of a wimp I've been about these things in the past, and wish i'd been a bit braver.

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