To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

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I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Pay no attention to them. A 1st is an amazing achievement and no one can take that away from you. Ever. Something to take you through life and be proud of.

I don't know if you can count those people as friends - why can't people be pleased for others?! Onwards and upwards op, you an hold your head high. So many congratulations!

Have you explained to your partner that only the top 10% (I think, but a small number) get a first?

I'm assuming your partner doesn't have a degree so sounds like some sour grapes there as well.

Going from no GCSEs to getting a first years later takes real determination - that's even more impressive than the grade tbh. Well done.

Nobody 'scrapes' a first, it's bloody hard work (I didn't get one), so be proud and don't downplay your achievement yourself!!

Huge congratulations. Ignore your "friends".

What is the subject and which university?

Congratulations!! You've done extremely well :):)

One way to explain it to your DH is to say that only 5% (or whatever it is) of people get a first in your course so you are part of those ones and right at the top ability wise.

As for the FB friends, they are jealous and yes women aren't allowed to talk about their achievements (I'm sure you wouldn't have got that sort of reactions if you were a man).
It's like they are looking down on you for doing well!

situated your experience seems to point out to a wider problem then doesn't it? Like it's not ok (for women?) to say how well they have done academically. It's not OK to work hard on a degree (on anything?).
Is it really like in the British society that one should never emphasize any well done work in academia? Or it's onlly some part of the society?

I'd be unfriending anyone who said things like that.

Well done OP!

They are jealous. So jealous. I got a first and had similar reactions from people who got 2:1s, even friends. They're now gloating because a year later, they've done their teaching degrees and are "doing better than the people with 1sts" (even though the four of us who got firsts are working to fund our Masters degrees), so prepare yourself for the jealousy to continue unfortunately :(

Massive, massive congratulations on your 1st. It's a huge achievement and a great feeling :)

Congratulations, that's bloody brilliant! You obviously worked really hard and deserve that First. They are not given out to just anyone and you should be really proud of yourself. Well done!

Many congratulations!
You should be proud and rightly so!

That is amazing. Well done!

Defriend anyone who was deliberately mean about it (but don't defriend someone if they were joshing in a friendly way if they might have just misjudged how you would take it)

Getting a first is a huge achievement and it is right to celebrate it. Well done!

What toss-bags!

Well done, amazing achievement!

Congratulations OP that's a brilliant acheivement

Not sure what area your degree is in but you can tell your DP from me if it's in any humanities or social science area that no-one ever gets 100%. I've seen literally thousands of degree results in this area and not one student whose result I've seen has ever graduated with an overall score of more than 80, and the ones who have graduated with an average of over 75 represent a tiny proportion of 1sts (less than 10%). It's incredibly hard to get a 1st overall. Saying "you still got 30% wrong" is like saying to Usain Bolt "Taking over 9 seconds is crap, you could have run that 100m 5 seconds faster".

Ignore the twats on FB - they're probably just jealous.

I got a first in my dissertation so I know how amazing it feels to achieve something, especially when you weren't sure you could do it. Also a massive 'screw you' to my mentor who told me to scrap it and start again. So 'screw you' to all those negative commenters !!

Well done op!! A first is a TREMENDOUS achievement. Your so-called friends are unkind, jealous and/or downright nasty. Move on with dignity.
(Ps. When I did my first 10k, after much training and hard work, I was really amazed & upset by the number of people I thought were friends who couldn't wait to tell me that "it wasn't that far really" or my finish time "wasn't that impressive". Total & utter bitches the lot of them. Oh, and they couldn't run for a bloody bus

Congratulations that's brilliant.

Perhaps you need more supportive friends on Facebook.
Well done you.BTW.
Don't let horrible people bring you down. Honestly some idiots are not happy unless they're upsetting someone.
Enjoy your achievement.
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Congratulations, that's a fantastic result! I am well jealous, I only got a 2:2, no-one on my course got a first ( many years ago now).
I don't even know you but I am happy for you. The people who wrote such mean thing on fb are not your friends - if they can't be happy for you when you have done so well, what space do you have for them in your life? They are negative and will drag you down. Defriend and move on.

God, what a lot of miserable oul shites you know... I'd be really upset at my partner trying to take the good out of it for me, how bloody disloyal and unsupportive is that??
Well done; you've got a fabulous result and no one can take it away from you. 🏆🍾

OP, bloody well done. A first is a real achievement, and your friends, and even your partner fgs, seem to want to bring you down. I would be wondering why.

Btw, nobody in my graduation year got a first - nobody at all got 70+ - so congratulations

Bloody well done. Now go have a flourishing career and get PhD one day just to make the fuckers call you Doctor

I wouldn't worry about them. I probably wouldn't have posted it on Facebook, or anything else for that matter (I really don't like Facebook and don't have an account) as I am sure many of those people commenting are more aquaintances than actual friends.
I got a first a few yrs ago, I didn't really tell anyone outside of family and close friends as I knew that they would be pleased for me and had travelled the journey with me as I agonised over assignments! It was their well wishes that were important, no one else's.

Is the university in the Russell Group?

An amazing achievement which shows all the work you put into gaining your degree.

Congratulations, well done!

Congrats!

And, does it matter what subject or uni? It's a first. Ridiculous this habit of saying well a first from here is better than a first from there and of course, it's a first, but it was from a crappy uni so doesn't count?!