To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

[FruitCider]

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Three if my friends have had there degree results and put the results on FB. The responses have been very pleasent, congratulatory and supportive.

I think have have rotten friends tbh!

Congratulations OP,getting a first is fantastic. Your friends just sound nasty and jealous. Ive just found out my niece got a first and I'm really pleased for her .

Congratulations! Be proud. & pls unfriend your nasty FB friends now if you haven't done so already.,...

wordsaremything you are misinformed, or at best generalising too much. I can't speak for all subjects but I assure you that 70% was the grade boundary for a First at Cambridge in law and modern languages degrees 20 years ago.

OP you are a star, huge congratulations! Your "friends" are spiteful losers and I would block them all, unless you see them in real life, in which case I might actually be inclined to tell them to their faces that their comments were spiteful and nasty. Using your degree you could perhaps diagnose them with a mental health disorder or two...

As for your partner, he sounds like he might be jealous. Are you happy with him otherwise, because it sounds like you deserve much better.

Op. I have also just graduated with a first, attending full time uni with a 3 yr old and 8 yr old, and I received a faculty award, and I posted my grade on fb and got nothing but praise. But op, and I'm sorry to say this, I haven't yet found a job that this amazing achievement will help me walk into, and those with lower grades have. The old mum-discrimination is alive and well, and I can't go for any brilliant job but have to consider childcare and school plays and dance classes and stuff. So I don't feel that the stress I went through for my first was worth it yet but I keep trying to listen to those who say it will be... Well bloody done xx

Wow!!! Well done you, congratulations, you need to clear out the "Facebook friends" they aren't real life friends, anyone who tries to undermine such a massive achievement is no friend of yours! I am in the process of sorting out my first step/module with the OU to start in October. I dearly hope I do as well as you as I'm honestly terrified but I'm going to finally just do it. I'm actually nearly in tears at how horrible your "online friends" reaction has been. When any of my friends post something like this all their friends are straight in there congratulating them. So again....... You need to actually look at your friends list and if you can't unfriend a person, then restrict them or modify what they can see. And treat their achievements as they have treated you! I've found my few true friends by doing this, and my life is less complicated and has way less drama!

You are amazing you worked hard for your achievement, now take back control of YOUR Facebook! And your life, tell the naysayers on Facebook that you are extremely proud of the hard work you put in to achieve your goal and play with their heads a little by announcing, you will be continuing to work towards your dream.... (let them wonder and pester and it'll annoy the feck outta them 😂😂) Of course if they ask, tell them you'll post a status when you get there!! ((I hate jealous friends!!))

Well done OP, a first is a huge achievement!

I'm studying part time with the open university and I posted my results from the end of my first year on FB and have never had so many likes and comments, the only person who said anything negative was my stepdad (in person) saying my degree was a waste of time because I'll never be able to compete with people who "went to a real university" I didn't speak to him for a long time after that!

They sound more like acquaintances than friends. Time to have a rethink about people that really care about you. Well done, you should be very proud of yourself no matter what others think!

FruitCider: You ARE being unreasonable... to even care what those people say! If they can't cope with your success, that's their problem, not yours.

Getting a degree is a major achievement, and getting a first is amazing!

Congrats!

You deffo need to delete ALL those people off your FB friends list. You don't need that shit.

I posted an achievement on my wall last Friday and so far have 170 positive comments and congrats. Proves that it doesn't HAVE to be like that!

Also, you do realise that they are only putting you down out of jealousy, don't you? There can be no other reason. They don't have the oomph to get their arses into gear and so they resent that you CAN and DID.

Lastly, remember, that a lioness does not concern herself with the opinions of worms.

YANBU at all. Unfortunately more people in this world are arseholes than not. Pity the pathetic jealous wee shites and be proud of your hard work and achievement. I've just qualified as a mature student and even at my grand old age the fact that my parents couldn't really give a shit still hurts if I let it. Smile, hold your head high at graduation and f**k em. Celebrate YOUR achievement. You'll probably never see most of them again. And maybe it won't make much difference to an employer if you got a 1st or a 2.1 but an employer is much more likely to keep and promote someone with a proper work ethic than someone who just skates through. Just keep doing what you do, keep your head high, smile xxxx.

Ah thats horrible and you've done such a marvellous job - Congratulations!! Block these nasty Facebook people right away the jealous gits.

Congratulations on all your hard work 💐

When were firsts more than 70% wordsare ? I haven't heard that before.

I got a first about 15 years ago with 70.05%. I thought of it not as scraping but as very very precisely putting in the exact right amount of effort.

Congratulations!

Why on earth shouldn't the OP have put this on FB? Assuming it wasn't saying "I'm so clever and anyone who didn't get one is thick as pigshit", there really is nothing wrong with boasting occasionally when you have something to boast about!

70% was the grade line 15 years ago at my Russell Group Uni (average of 70%+ across all areas, plus 70%+ in at least four of the seven third year subjects)

In my day a first was considerably more than 70% I'm afraid.

Not true of any UK university I know of in at least the last 25 years. Nor, based on older colleagues' marking practices, do I think it was true for at least 20 years before that. Most people I know who got 1sts in the late 80s/early 90s actually got just over 69.5 rather than over 70, and were rounded up to a 1st. Now, many universities give 1sts for marks in the 68 and 69 range under certain conditions (e.g. they got lots of 1sts in their final year). If you get a 1st with an average of 70 or higher that's a great achievement.

Congratulations and tell your friends to just fuck off. Why shouldn't you tell everyone? I think that is amazing!!!

Jealousy is a terrible thing and it seems to me that is what people who have made these comments are feeling. They were not prepared to put in the work and try to gain a better grade or do a degree at all. Unfortunately many people will feel envious and quite honestly, cut them out of your life. They have no idea what you gave up to achieve what is, let's face it, a fantastic result. Only 15-20% of students gain a first and despite what they say, employers are impressed. Employers know you are a hard worker; they know you are committed and can stay the distance. Congratulations and keep your own counsel in as much as you are a cut above most others when it comes to hard work and commitment. I achieved a second class so I know the work you must have put in. x

Totally disagree with Cinnamon and find the comment sexist.

Agree with whoever said, females are not "supposed" to achieve anything other than reproduction and getting false nails. LOL

I got a first about 15 years ago with 70.05%. I thought of it not as scraping but as very very precisely putting in the exact right amount of effort.

I like your thinking!

Thanks everyone, I was feeling deflated but feel much better now I've removed people from Facebook. I'm off to the jungle very soon, it's my graduation present to myself and I really can't wait!

Well done
People are jealous when other people do well, it's good you know they aren't your friends!!!

Congratulation

Not true of any UK university I know of in at least the last 25 years.
Isn't the OUs mark for a first in the 80s or 90s?

regardless, a first is impressive! It means you can get As across the board, not just in the fun interesting modules!

OP I HAD a friend who used to bleat "UNIVERSITY OF LIFE" if any of us ever tried to tell a story set in our uni days, or talked about our qualifications or achievements from uni.
(we would listen to her life stories and achievements, y'know, being FRIENDS, but our stories were always shut down/interrupted with "WELL I WENT TO THE UNIVERSITY OF LIFE while you were busy getting pissed"

There's a lot of inverted snobbery about going to uni around.

Well done OP. Be sure to comment something snide next time they post some mundane status.

I love reading about friends achievements on FB, assuming they've not been knobby about it.

OU first is 85%, but it is equivalent to a 70 on any other mark scheme.