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Original poster

To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

483 replies

FruitCider · 27/07/2016 18:22

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry Confused

OP posts:
HeyMacWey · 27/07/2016 18:31

Miserable bastards - what an achievement - ignore them and celebrate your results in style Wine Star Grin

AliceInHinterland · 27/07/2016 18:31

Tall poppy syndrome - we Brits can't allow anyone to feel good about academic achievement. You have done a fab job and please stop saying 'only just', it's an amazing achievement and totally unrelated to whether you had fun or not! God forbid you actually studied at university Hmm

AyeAmarok · 27/07/2016 18:31

Even as someone who massively dislikes Facebook bragging, I don't understand why anyone would comment something negative like that Confused

How unnecessarily rude and unkind.

Perfect example of "if you have nothing nice to say, say no". Could they not have just scrolled on past? Why the need to knock you down a peg or two? Are these people really friends?

PersianCatLady · 27/07/2016 18:32

First of all - CONGRATULATIONS

Secondly these people aren't real friends, un-friend them ASAP.

Original poster
FruitCider · 27/07/2016 18:32

My partner said "yeah but you still got 30% wrong"

Cinnamon I know what you mean. I guess I was just excited as I left school over 15 years ago with no GCSEs! I've had a terrible 3 years. Didn't even think I was going to be able to finish this year let alone do that. But it could be sore for those that didn't achieve one, you are right, it could look a bit insensitive.

Thanks everyone. I guess I need to reevaluate some of my friendships!

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Sallystyle · 27/07/2016 18:32

Massive congratulations!!!!!

No reason at all why you shouldn't post it on FB. One would assume your FB friends would be happy for you.

Specialapplek · 27/07/2016 18:32

Congratulations Flowers

YANBU

ColdAsIceCubes · 27/07/2016 18:32

Wow cinnamon, the op is as entitled as anyone else to celebrate her achievements as anyone else. So what if they didn't do so well? That's not the ops problem is it? They should've tried harder if they're bothered by their degree result. Why is academic achievement so frowned upon? Op, huge congratulations, your hard work has paid off. Wine

TheUnsullied · 27/07/2016 18:32

I'd delete every one of them...who are they?? Actual friends? Family? Not that it'd matter to me tbh. I know that if I posted that to my FB I'd be flooded with congratulations.

Really though, scraped it or not, a first is an absolutely amazing achievement. You should be grinning from ear to ear.

Mellifera · 27/07/2016 18:33

Well done! Of course future employers will care. They are just jealous. I'd unfriend them, nasty bunch.

Hensintheskirting · 27/07/2016 18:33

That's mean - well done, what a fabulous achievement. Be proud OP!

Evergreen17 · 27/07/2016 18:33

Also I completely disagree with Cinnamon. Dignified?

I disagree. Enough of not being proud of what we achieve.

Well done and enjoy it

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 27/07/2016 18:33

Well done OP! What a huge achievement, you should feel incredibly proud. Your partner will understand once it's been explained and I'm sure will spoil you rotten.

ShelaghTurner · 27/07/2016 18:33

Miserable sods. You worked hard, why shouldn't you show off? Not that I think it is showing off, people use FB for all kinds of announcements. Well done!

PersianCatLady · 27/07/2016 18:33

only just scraped one but its 70+
Also this bit about the scraping it is irrelevant, what is relevant is that you got a FIRST!!!!

FaFoutis · 27/07/2016 18:33

Congratulations on your first FruitCider!

Original poster
FruitCider · 27/07/2016 18:33

I'm definitely female! Wink

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joloho35 · 27/07/2016 18:34

Congratulations!!! Cake WineFlowers I would cut that negative baggage out of my friend list.

PersianCatLady · 27/07/2016 18:34

My partner said "yeah but you still got 30% wrong"
I hope you told him that degrees don't work like that??

Caken · 27/07/2016 18:35

What arseholes. It's a huge achievement, well done you! FlowersCake

Only1scoop · 27/07/2016 18:36

What strange friends and partner you have

Well done Chocolate

Original poster
FruitCider · 27/07/2016 18:36

Persian I tried... I said NO-ONE finishes on 80+% let alone 100%!

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throwingpebbles · 27/07/2016 18:36

Just sour grapes!

Well done, enjoy the celebrating!!!

Also - I don't think it means you had your nose in books all the time. I think you can't obtain a first by working harder, you have to show that extra level of understanding.

It also does help open doors to jobs. But don't rest on your laurels either

Shizzy · 27/07/2016 18:36

Well done! You have done amazingly well. A first is a huge achievement. Don't let the jealous bastards get you down. No one can ever take that first away from you. Congratulations.

Lindy2 · 27/07/2016 18:37

Well done. Did you get no nice FB comments?
Keep any friends that were nice. Delete any that weren't. They are acquaintances not friends and negative ones at that.
Are you moving in to a new stage in your life now that you have your degree? Hopefully you are and that will make you some new friendships with more like minded people.