To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

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I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Cinnamon why on earth shouldn't OP post on Facebook? They worked extremely hard and it is a huge achievement. If people shouldn't post about anything good because others might be envious then no baby/children posts, no wedding posts, no new house posts, no amazing night out with all my friends posts... Better delete Facebook then.

Congratulations to you.

Problem with FB is once one starts others follow - if the first one had said wow brilliant it would've set the tone -

Ignore -

Well done - I hope your career escalated and you earn some decent money!!

What a bunch of dickheads. I also got a first and I know how bloody hard you will have worked to achieve that. Ignore the haters - you deserve to be VERY proud of yourself.

There's a lot of venom in those comments, struggling to imagine having "friends" who'd make those sorts of comments. Yanbu to be proud or post about it on facebook.

Only way posting about it on Facebook would have been unreasonable is if you wrote "yay, got a first, won't have to work with all my thicko colleagues much longer"

Congratulations! Please ignore the mean spirited comments on Facebook get you down. A first is a fantastic achievement, and do not underplay that achievement by saying you just scraped by. A First is a First.

Well done you.! Take no notice of the weeners and whiners. (You sound like a lovely and balanced person BTW)

Well done. That's a brilliant achievement.

I think you need to have a look at your Facebook account and get to work deleting anyone who isn't a close friend. Why would you have anyone on your friends list who is so unpleasant.

I hope most of those people have been unfriended! A first is a huge achievement!! Well done

A few ppl on my FB page have just graduated, one with a first. She received nothing but warm congratulations and good wishes.

You need new friends, OP.

Congratulations! 🎓 A First is a wonderful achievement.

I agree with pp "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing" - I mean ffs!

Consider deleting the comments off your post - is it a status or a Life Event? - and be glad you've better things to do than post snarky comments about people's once-in-a-lifetime events.

My partner said "yeah but you still got 30% wrong"

:o

You've done amazingly. Huge grats!

I don't understand your DH's mindset - why would he be focusing on the 30% wrong anyway, even if he doesn't quite understand how it works? He should be buying the champagne!

Tell him you got an A star degree. You got the highest grade possible and he should be congratulating you, not nit picking in an ignorant fashion

And de-friend all the mean people on your Facebook.

They're jealous. What grumpy people! Well done you. FWIW, I scraped a First too, but no one ever asks the mark haha!

Well done on your fantastic achievement.tell your partner it's brilliant,that's the nub of it.its a personal achievement - and when you apply for MSc/PhD courses you have great undergrad grade

Doesn't necessarily make you better at a job,but certainly won't make you worse at a job

CONGRATULATIONS!!! In what subject was your degree?

You can tell your DP that actually most universities mark on a 20-90 scale and it is unheard of for people to get marks in the 90s so you did not get 30% wrong, but it's hard to explain that. Just maybe say you got the highest grade it's possible to get- the A* grade of degrees if you like.

As for your 'friends', I have one word to say- JEALOUSY. You have achieved something that few people do. Your future employers will care, it will make your CV stand out and it's a great thing to be proud of for the rest of your life. Only around 15% of graduates get a first so you can also tell your DP that you beat 85% of students in the country.

Hope you're celebrating.

Don't ever say 'only just scraped one' EVER AGAIN!

And tell your partner - I'm assuming you're not in sciences/maths? - that in the Social Sciences and Humanities it is VERY difficult to get above 80%, as you say.

Speaking as a university lecturer, since you're a mature returner who left school with no qualifications, let me tell you from the heart that I am incredibly proud of you, whoever you are, because that is a fantastic, remarkable and rare achievement. Be proud.

And if your family are going to be so shit about it all, invite the whole of Mumsnet to your graduation instead . I'll come, if I'm not on holiday.

Bloody Hell! That's absolutely brilliant - if you were my daughter, I'd be so proud of you and shouting it from the rooftops (or posting on FB!)! Congratulations and ignore the sour grapes, just get yourself some bubbly and drink some gorgeous grapes. Get your partner to read this thread so he understands that a First is a great achievement and not to be sniffed at! Do you mind if I ask what subject you studied?

Well done! Seriously, you should be proud of yourself. When you go for a job it will look impressive. Ignore the people who put rude comments they are just jealous!! Congratulations!

Massive Congratulations! What are those people like? How bad for them that they are so green minded they can't share in your celebration? You worked hard, you did well! If a friend does well I am proud of them and happy for them.

Screw those green people on FB!

BTW I got a 1st over a decade ago. Actually, employers are impressed (even if it's not in a field you want to work in) as it shows you can put in the graft and achieve without having someone over your shoulder egging you on every 5 minutes.

Congratulations. A first is brilliant!

Tell your partner that that's the way the British mark. I'm doing an MBA at the moment and my american colleagues were horrified at the first round of marks. An A in the US is 90% because they test for what you do know. In the UK they test for what you don't.

Congratulations!

Where I am, the university only marks to 85, and it's very rare to get a mark over about 72, even for the very top candidates. A first is a huge achievement!

I disagree it's in any way 'more dignified' not to post on facebook. Personally, I would be a bit hurt if my friends never shared news, because I would wonder why they bothered to have me on there! I love it when people share the good stuff.

Huge congratulations! You are right to be proud of yourself.

I got a 2:1. I was very pleased and relieved. Other people's firsts did not make me feel less chuffed.

Your "friends" are not being friendly. I don't think I like them. Are you quite sure you do?

Don't let anyone diminish your massive achievement. You've earnt your grade and the right to celebrate it.

God, sometimes people are cunts 😡

Their comments say more about them than you .

Well done it's a marvellous achievement