...to be annoyed that she announced this?

[Stylest]

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

Classic limelight stealers! Poor you, YANBU!!! Don't let it ruin your wonderful special time though. Forget about it and don't make the same mistake again. I'd also say something to them about it some time down the line. Idiots!! CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your LO

Yadnbu- we announced our daughter on FB about 10 days after she was born as we needed to stay in hospital for ages then wanted to find my feet. Two days is nothing- there were loads of family and friends we hadn't told at that stage. Congratulations on your froggy legged newborn- enjoy every moment

YANBU. How hard exactly is it to check if OP had posted the announcement herself yet or not?

Yanbu! Happened to me with my second- it wasn't even a close family member! Still irritates me now.

My mother did this before the days of FB when I had my DC1 (DD). When I had my second I told her the wrong weight by about 4lbs and completely wrong name that couldnt have been more different to the one she was to be called. But I did stress to her that she wasnt to tell anyone anything except the sex and 'mother and baby doing well' The number of people who 'corrected' me in the street when I came out of hospital and told them her name and weight etc. Yes mother had been busy again !

Yes YANBU to be annoyed OP. It is the people who faced devastation, heartbreak and utter grief that need to get a grip.

I suppose everyone is different, but I never felt it was a special honor to reveal the name/weight/length of the baby myself. I just gave birth, there is nothing more limelight seeking than that

Yanbu. For this reason alone I had a few rants on my fb page before baby came along. By the time I went into labour several friends had told me how it had happened to them and it's so unfair. Why anyone else thinks it's acceptable to announce someone's baby news I will never understand. X

YANBU and congratulations! My step-mother-in-law did the same and didn't even get our DS's name right - muddled first and middle names. Happily she lives in another country in a time zone well ahead of the U.K. and my lovely SIL saw the post and told her to take it down. Still love her for that. New babies come with a degree of tongue biting but mainly love and magic. I don't think 2 days is a long time to get on Facebook either.

Our DS was born 8 weeks early and was in neonatal. The very day he was born my SIL announced the news, and his name, on Facebook. I can't believe there are people here who think that's ok. Two days after birth you don't know what day it is, never mind considering who you have told and who you haven't. It is nobody's business and nobody has the right to announce the birth on Facebook. It's rude and inconsiderate. Telling friends and family face to face is different to posting it on the Internet. OP, YADNBU.

Every time I see a Mum pushing a buggy while glued to her phone or hear/read a story like this, I thank the goddess (or whomever) I'm an ancient old bag who had her DCs in the pre-permanently connected Dark Ages ('97 & 2000)

YANBU I hate that sort of thing on social media.
We had a scan and happened to find out that we were expecting a girl. DH told MIL...by the time we got home 20 mins later MIL had told Aunty who had plastered it all over Facebook. We'd not even had time to tell my parents or DS

I don't think OP is coming back but if you are still reading, tell your friend that she has upset you. People have to be educated about theses things. She should NEVER have posted a picture of your child without your explicit permission. Lots of people choose not to put pictures of their children online and she had no right to do so.

FWIW, YANBU. There is so much out of your control in childbirth that it's a real joy to announce the baby's arrival when you are ready as a family to do so. However, I do agree that a 'please don't share this private information' caveat would be wise.

First of all congratulations on the safe arrival of your new baby .

I am going to presume OP that quite a few people knew you were in fact pregnant , for say several months , and that the bi-product of such a thing is a baby . So now 'people' know you have actually given birth to the baby you have been carrying around inside for the last 9 months , that it is a girl or a boy and that you have chosen a lovely name for him/her , that you are both well and alive . That really is the level of most peoples interest in other peoples babies , although I am a sucker for a cute baby pic
Having a baby isn't an 'Event' , it is simply the end game of getting pregnant ( if you are lucky ) . Nobody has stolen your thunder if you get to snuggle that scrumptious suidgy little baby every minute of every hour for the next however long , until they fight you off with an exasperated ' Mum!!!!'

Happened to me too. My only child, who was a bit of a miracle seeing as she was born after I'd been through chemotherapy, radiotherapy and 5 years of hormone treatment. Told my parents and my dad took it upon himself to call my siblings and nieces and nephews. I didn't get to tell anyone else in my family. I was pretty devastated.

In my view, OP YANBU. Not at all.

I would have been fuming. YANBU. When I had DD I'd been in labour for 36hours and ended with a load of intervention. DH sent a picture to our mums and siblings and told them to not say anything. When I checked my phone at about 6am the next day 4 of my friends had guessed I'd had her because I hadn't been in contact in a few days by this point. I told them but also said not to say anything. We announced after 4 days when we knew we were leaving hospital the next day. If any of those who trusted with the news had shared it without our permission I would have gone insane.

The best way to avoid all this kerfuffle is of course to only impart the news to male friends and relatives . So you ring them up and say 'yay , have given birth to a lovely little girl called Rose , she weighed 8llbs and we are fine ' . Most will hear 'given birth yadah yadah yadah we are fine ' , they will then get distracted and if prompted the conversation will go something like this :

Male friends wife/GF/colleaugue ' wonder how doodah is getting on and if she has had baby yet ? '
Male friend ' oh yeah she had the baby 3 weeks ago '
Wife/GF/Coll ' Really , what did she have ? how much did it weigh ? what is it called ?'
Male friend ' Err she had a baby '

Trusted with the news. . Is it a secret?. Gone insane if they'd told anyone else your baby had been born?
I hate to break it to you love, but nobody actually cares as much as you do. They're happy that the baby has arrived safely, of course they are, but beyond that? It has zero impact on anyone else's lives.
Anyone who would have "gone insane" that the news that the baby had arrived (9 months later, there's a surprise...) had broken needs therapy.

YA definitely NBU. 2days is no time at all! If your friend had written 'congrats to my friend on giving birth' because she was excited, that would be one thing ( still inappropriate) but to announce the name- why would you do that? I would be really annoyed too.

Yanbu.

People on here saying after two days why hadn't you done it yourself!!!! Have people forgotten how it feels to have a new baby?!?!

A friend of mine had a baby and someone wrote 'congratulations on your baby girl' on her FB page before they had announced it themselves. I sent my friend's husband a private message to suggest he might like to announce baby's name etc before this girl said any more. He promptly got on there and took control of the situation!

My friend was in quite a state health wise :-( some people need to be more considerate.

Your baby your news.

YANBU, she was very rude, it was not her place.

Took control of the situation!. Have you any idea how nuts you sound?

Not nuts at all! Just normal to announce your own, potentially most important, new yourself instead of having some nosy stage stealer do it for you!

There was no reason for her to do what she did. She should have waited until you had posted something and then just commented on your thread. She over stepped the mark massively

can you untag yourself and then just put something up when you are ready