...to be annoyed that she announced this?

[Stylest]

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

YANBU it's not about who knew and when! it's your news to share no one else's! You were not ready to share to your Facebook friends yet, doesn't matter why as again it's your choice! your friend doesn't know who is on this list that it matters to you when they find out! Work colleagues etc! Seems to me She just wanted to be the "first" to congratulate you! I'd be fuming! I don't want this happening to me in a few weeks but also don't want to put a PA post on FB about it as think it looks a bit precious. Think we will just tell people the news and say please don't announce anything to anyone else until we've had chance to tell everyone, once we have we will put our news on Facebook then you can share our news! Or something along those lines! I'm hoping that will work!

Ps congratulations on your DS!

YANBU to be annoyed but you are being slightly U to expect people not to mention the birth of your DS 2 days afterwards. She was excited for you and wanted to share her joy.

This is the problem with social media.

Some people nowadays have no idea what is and is not acceptable in terms of sharing other peoples' private information.

There is nothing you can do about it now but maybe you should unfriend those people who cannot be trusted to keep private information private.

Yanbu, my dsis done this to me, only she had announced to FB that my dd was stillborn. I was so upset and angry as some of my closest friends and other family found out through her sheer stupidity. 5 years later and I can't forgive or forget this.

Blizy That's awful. What a horrible thing for her to do.

YABU. 2 days after the birth, I would just assume the parents had told everyone they wanted to, and at that point would be announcing that I was an 'Aunty' to this wonderful bundle, in an excited way.
It would be wrong to do it within hours of the birth, but after 2 day, fair to assume you'd told everyone.

Yanbu, nobody should post something like that without first checking you'd already posted yourselves! Then it's a congratulations not an announcement. Although bit odd that she posted it like a announcement at all tbh, surely "congratulations X and y on the birth of beautiful baby z" is sufficient?

YANBU - can't understand why people would share someone else's news on fb like this. But you don't want it to take over your first few days with your new baby - if it will make you feel better, tell her you weren't expecting her to share it on fb and then let it go for the sake of peace and quiet.

Exactly why I'm not on Facebook....I hate it and everything to do with it...when crimes are committed or people are in the news for things they don't want to be,where do you think they get the photos from.....Facebook...you are not being unreasonable...how dare she ...id be furious X

YANBU at all - it's not the friend's news to share, so they should have enough sense and manners to realise that and keep it to themselves.
Something similar happened to a family member, her pregnancy was announced on FB by someone other than her it's either thoughtless, or alternatively it's the person showing off about knowing before other people.

YANBU - can't understand why people would share someone else's news on fb like this. But you don't want it to take over your first few days with your new baby - if it will make you feel better, tell her you weren't expecting her to share it on fb and then let it go for the sake of peace and quiet.

I would have assumed that after 2 days, everyone important would know.

I think she was BU to upload a photo of your child without your permission but I don't really understand why the announcement is such a big deal. Either you really care about being the first to tell people in which case tell everyone straight away, or you don't in which case... don't.

Yabu. It was 2 days later, you'd send her a photo...it's a very safe assumption to make that everyone knows already. If you really wanted to announce it first, you could have done it, especially if you had the time and energy to send messages and photos individually to people...either you or your DH could have taken another 20sec to announce it if this was so important to you.

I would think 2 days still counts as the immediate time after the birth after which op would have been up to then announcing to all other friends, colleagues etc. She stole your thunder, op and she knew it, or at least didn't think of your feelings. YA deffo NBU

YANBU. DP and I got engaged yesterday and are in the process of telling extended family before we update Facebook (we both have a lot of family!). I'm terrified that one of his cousins will tag us in a congratulations between now and tomorrow morning and give the game away! We have said no social media until all the family knows, but we're a bit older than them and not so ingrained in using FB for stuff where a text would do.

It's pretty easy to see whether or not a baby's birth has been shared on the internet via facebook. It isn't a 'safe assumption to make' if it's pretty damn obvious there's no other mention whatsoever on the parents' FB.

If you want to send congratulations via fb, you do it on a PM unless it's already public knowledge. In what world is it reasonable to share a photograph of somebody else's baby with all of fb before the parents have confirmed?

Perhaps people are so used to shouting everything on social media that sometimes they forget it's not their news to shout.

It's just happened to a friend. She had a very traumatic delivery and was unwell in hospital. Obviously family and close friends were aware. One close friend wrote all about it on FB. It was gone within five minutes because yes the baby was three days old and yes, the important people knew, but the poor Mum was bloody ill and was entitled to her privacy and her news.

YANBU
It's your news to announce, doesn't matter how long after the event.

One of my in laws has form for putting family news on Facebook prior to the event being publicly known about. Prior to our last child being born I changed the settings on my page so that people could not post and I had to approve any tags. This way if he put stuff on his own page at least not everyone I know would have seen it. I did similar to the op in that we sent texts/called everyone then I put up a photo on fb when I was home from hospital.

Easy solution. Get rid of bloody FB.

I promise the world will not stop turning on its axis. That way you will NEVER EVER have your privacy invaded by friends/family/multinationals. (or rather, won't be bothered by it as you won't see any of it) You will also have total control over who you choose to send photos of your family to.

You will save hours of wasted time updating 'statuses' and viewing the 'perfect lives' of everyone who likes to indulge in this truly peculiar activity. (Have you noticed how everyone on FB is having a constantly fabulous life ? - literally all the time ?) None of it is real, it's just a massive boast-fest..I also read on here nothing but negative experiences with the programme.

I have never been tempted to join, don't need to be 'visible' to hundreds of casual acquaintances that are not 'my friends'. I speak to people who are my friends and tell them things I want to tell them. -
simple.

floggingmolly - did you mean to be so rude with your bloody nonsense comment?

What my DH meant was to let her BF and his family know. She was one of the very first we told, so she put it on FB within about an hour of DD being born, and there was some family on DH's side we hadn't been able to tell by then, that found out via FB. I hadn't even had my stitches finished! Yes it was a miscommunication, but she should have known not to put it on FB as we'd specifically told everyone not to put it on FB when we had DS. I wrongly assumed that they would know that we would want to announce on FB for ourselves the second time round as well.

My MIL had posted the announcement to Facebook within about a minute of being told herself. To confuse matters she posts under her husband's account and he has the same name as my husband so it sort of looked like he'd announced it. Husband's best friend's mum saw the announcement and told her son before my husband had am had a chance. Also, she posted a photo of our baby covered in birth gunk! I would never share a photo like that. Luckily I'm not facebook friends with MIL and I don't really go on there much but it did annoy my husbanded he wanted to tell his best friend.

I texted a colleague/friend a photo of the baby in the birth gunk as I didn't think it would be shared and I knew she was excited. She forwarded it to my boss who sent an all staff email (about 200 people) with the birth gunk photo attached and announcing her name even though we weren't 100% on the name at that point. I was a bit when I saw the email a couple of weeks later.

I think people just get excited. You've got a new baby, just enjoy this special time.

Granted, it's a bit crass.

But I think expecting nobody to say anything after 2 full days is a bit precious really. Was it a secret baby?