...to be annoyed that she announced this?

[Stylest]

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

Timeforannchange you are right.

YADNBU, If you can see someone hasn't announced on Facebook (and it's pretty easy to see), you don't do it for them. Congratulations

There's also another issue in that it's only our news and no one else's, that's not strictly true because this is a new FAMILY member. He or she is not just your child, they are a grandchild, a niece, a nephew and they aren't a weapon, they are a child.

Yanbu. I always check an announcement has been made by mum or dad before saying on fb, or commenting on anyones post about it!

It sounds like she only announced it to third tier Facebook 'friends', maybe a little irritating but no biggie.

Yeah my brother in law announced my pregnancy to the family after my DH had phoned him for advice... It broke my heart I couldn't tell my family and see their faces light up.

You can't compare announcing the birth of a baby with a death.

The announcement of a death has a profound effect on those who loved and knew the person.

The announcement of a baby has no profound effect on anybody except those actually involved, who presumably know when they give birth to it etc.

AddToBastket... very sorry about that.

You still haven't explained why you sent a photo to this person (and her, alone), but decided to wait before the big reveal to everyone else, op??
And yes, Davina, I do think telling someone to "let everyone know" and then getting the arse with them for four years after they do just that, is a pile of ridiculous bloody nonsense, as it happens.

Grief. Agree with 2nds. I think OP is just understandably hormonal and is BU. How nice to get congratulations and texts celebrating the birth of a healthy baby. First World Facebook problem. I had a difficult birth and was fast asleep while the news of its arrival aeons ago flashed round phones - was just glad I had it safe and sound.

I just knew that this would be about FB. It's a PITA when it happens but what can you do?

When my friend had her DC2 one of her friends announced it on fb with tags. I was but waited till she posted to congratulate her and new baby

I'm guessing you missed the then floggingmolly I haven't had 'the arse' with her for 4 years actually. Yes I was upset at the time, but I understood it was a miscommunication, and I got over it. It's FB, it's not the end of the world.

That doesn't mean that I (nor the OP) can't have any feelings about it. It should be the parents that get to announce it on FB should they choose to. And as pp's have said, it's not exactly difficult to check if the parents have already posted about it.

I would have presumed that after 2 days announcements would have been made to anyone who mattered. I think YAB a bit U - I'm sure she didn't want to steal anyone's thunder, just wanted to congratulate you.

^^

Utter rubbish...... You've seen no other FB posts from near relatives. But you think you're untitled to announce anyway.? Think on, PM the parents, look at the FB feed!

OP, YANBU, but try to put this behind you and enjoy your little bundle. Xx

Shame you didn't see it in time to ask them to take it down. My DD and her OH told friends and family that she's 12 weeks pregnant this weekend and one relative put a post on FB about it which her son saw and immediately asked her to remove as not everyone knows yet (eg her employer and work mates) so by the time she knew about it it had been removed. YANBU IMO the person who did this was insensitive and attention seeking.

Yanbu. I would be raging, but I would have prefaced all communication with 'no sharing, this is not yet public' as I know what people can be like.

Aaarghhhh! This happened to me too, except it wasn't a particularly close friend and there was no picture.
I didn't say anything to her, because I know she would have been mortified that I was upset. I am such a wimp

Personally, as long as I had told everyone I wanted to this really wouldn't bother me that much. If someone had put it on FB before I had managed to tell all my family/close friends within a couple of hours of the birth I would be very very upset. I called my immediate family then sent a group text to everyone else at the same time, I can't understand why you would leave it longer to tell people. It only takes a minute to send a message to loads of people at the same time.

Saying that though there is no way I would post anything re a new birth on FB without checking that the parents had already posted, to me that is common sense just in case they are the sort of people who only told a few close people.

Get rid of facebook. Its a lot of rubbish. Enjoy your baby and move on.

I did this ... Once ... I'm ashamed
It was awful and the fall out was awful ..
I should have known better
On behalf of those of us that should have known better ... I apologise x

when i had my baby we just used the landline, nothing else back then....and when my mum had me she wrote letters to people telling them her news....god i feel old!

Try to enjoy your baby instead of worrying about who told first. In the end it's only Facebook, not real life.
Why are you stressed about that when you have a beautiful teeny tiny new baby, I don't think it would have even entered my mind to care.

YANBU.

Unfortunately, thanks to social media, this is a problem now.

Some people get over excited, some people like a certain relative are full-fledged limelight stealers - they have to be first to tell anyone anything.

Congratulations.

I never understand why people even do this. I've had notifications on several occasions of babies arrival. Common sense has always dictated that if it's not on the parents fb page yet then you don't mention it. YANBU

The baby was two days old. She probably figured everyone knew already. Most people who "announce" on FB seem to do it within hours of giving birth. And I highly doubt she was announcing it as much as she was making a congratulations post. I see it all the time, not just with babies, but with weddings, birthdays etc.