...to be annoyed that she announced this?

[Stylest]

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

Bad enough to announce it, but to put name etc and share photo is awful! That to me screams wanting attention and knowing exactly what she is doing, because why would she share a photo you sent her back to you unless it wasnt for your benefit

Tbh I can see why she assumed everyone at easy knew.

No it's not great but I do think her intention wasn't to announce anything.

Yanbu at all. Obviously. I don't know why some posters are being deliberately obtuse.

We didn't put anything on Facebook for five days, we rang / text family and 'proper' friends but we're too busy enjoying our bundle and recovering to think about FB. It didn't occur to me that anyone would announce on our behalf and they didn't - surely it's obvious it is not theirs to announce?

With DS1, he was poorly for a few days so I think it was around ten days before we put anything on fb, once we were home and settled. During that time, a couple of people had written congratulations on my wall but without stating baby's sex or name or anything. These were cousins who must have been told the news from my mum telling her sisters. This of course was no bother at all but I would have been disappointed to not share the news ourselves and what your friend did seemed very deliberate. Almost like she is so desperate for comments / likes / attention that she couldn't resist. Very poor etiquette - does she have kids?

Congratulations to you and enjoy your baby!

I really don't get what the big deal is with these posts here. There seems to be at least one every week.

If this is your biggest problem with the news of your baby today then YABU. Some babies don't make it, some spend months in hospital battling all sorts of problems and here we have people making mountains out of molehills about announcements. BTW who waits two days to announce a birth?

YANBU - my DSis did this to me. Second child and we didn't specifically say don't put it on FB, like we did with DS1. She took my DH's 'Let everyone know' to mean put it on FB. She was one of the first to know because we're really close. I was furious with her and got in a real strop (as much as I could having had a nightmare 12 hour labour overnight). To be fair she was mortified and took it down, but of course a lot of people had already seen it by then.

Dd's 4 now and I have forgiven her (just) I've also realised my feelings were a massive hormonal overreaction, but that's ok. Having had a new baby, it's allowed!

My friend did something similar. Luckily it was on my wall so I deleted the post. She actually had the balls to text me to ask if she'd got it wrong! I'm still quietly pissed off about it. I had to really bite my tongue when her DD was born as she asked us not to put anything on FB... as if I would! With this pregnancy I told her last out of everyone I know so she couldn't spoil it for us.

Of course YANBU. It's irrelevant who knew and who didn't - it's your Facebook announcement to make, and your friend could see you hadn't done it yet. She sounds attention-seeking and thoughtless. I would be very hurt and upset too.
Congratulations on your new baby!

I would definitely be making a PA comment on that for everyone to see, surely no one thinks it's acceptable to do that? But some people do strange things, someone I knew vaguely (met once through work) added me on Facebook and when my youngest DD was born, she wrote a gushing post 'announcing' I had had the baby, with all the details she had taken from my husbands post on my wall. We had not one mutual friend. And she gave her a different birthday as we had been a bit slow writing anything at all.

I have always waited before posting congrats until the official announcement was made.

I was very hurt, when my best friend had DD1 and I had asked to be let know. Her DH "forgot me" yet had messaged mutuals, one of whom announced congratulations.

I thought he'd done it deliberately, still do, because he can be quite petty I got over it, but I wasn't impressed to hear about my best friends baby, from her husbands friends ex, who I had on FB but wasnt close to.

YANBU. Of course it's the parents' place to announce the new arrival, and others shouldn't jump in ahead of you. Putting a photo up without asking you first isn't very good manners either.

she took my DH's 'let everyone know' to mean put it on FB
If she'd been instructed to let everyone know (why?), what did it matter how she did it, Davina? . What a load of bloody nonsense!

Baby is 2 days old she probably thought u had told everyone.

I always just got dh to do a text and a fb post with pic not long after birth as once 1 person knows it gets out anyway

She had no right to announce it or put a photo of your child on the Internet without your permission. I'd be really pissed off. Yanbu.

YANBU but it's the risk with social media these days, you never know who will post what so best to add a bit on the end saying not to post to facebook. You shouldn't have to but it's happened too many times.. I can't imagine announcing something for someone.

It's a bit annoying as one of the first joys of being a parent (I found anyway) is sharing the news, name, weight and so on, having that taken away from you can be infuriating. I would say something like, 'oh I know you are excited but please let us be the ones to post photos and announcements.'

OMG YADNBU! I think most of the posters on here bloody well are though but that's Mumsnet for you!

I am expecting my first DC soon and knowing DF family we are going to have to go secret squirrel on them all so that this doesn't happen. I am not planning on telling anyone we are going in to hospital and then doing that lock Facebook thing down!

It doesn't matter OP whether you tell people 2 mins, 2 days or 2 months after the birth - its YOUR announcement and your decision on how to and when!

YANBU. When I am told news about a birth, I do NOT mention it on any social media until I see that the parents have posted something themselves. That's because it's THEIR news and NOT my news.

Sorry but the dribs and drabs style of letting people know is ridiculous in my book. You tell family first and then the secret is out of the bag, not that it was one in the first place.

I'm truly not that bothered about FB, what people post on there. If you live your life on it though, be prepared that your cohort of FB friends will follow suit with that same attention-seeking, information-passing on style of communication with everybody clamouring to be first. There are no manners or code of conduct for FB and everybody knows that. People to whom it matters would tell those who need to know first, using other means.

You can't use social media in 'segments', passing information to the chosen few. Either use it or don't but don't be surprised if it bites you on the bum if you do use it for stuff like this, especially giving people photographs when they're not close enough to you to know you well enough to know and follow your wishes.

YANBU. It still astounds me how many people think it is acceptable to do this or to upload a photograph of a baby that is not their child onto social media for the world to see - absolutely fine with the parents' consent, but not otherwise.

Some people really do not understand when news is not theirs to tell.

After two days they probably thought it was common knowledge. It was possibly their way of congratulating you rather than formally 'announcing' the birth.

And what the sensible Lyinwitch said!

Honestly, I think with social media these days, that it's easier to just put up a message yourself. DS was born at 7pm on Friday night. I rang one relative who was going to be getting on a plane to come to visit, but otherwise I waited until 7am the next morning and posted a picture of DS and that he had been born. Relatives were advised prior to his birth that it would be posted after he had been born I think that once anything becomes public knowledge, that you loose a certain amount of control about the information.

YANBU my BIL did this after DS2 was born. He was born at 10:20am, DH sent family text with info and picture by 11:51 BIL had put it on Facebook :(

Congratulations