...to be annoyed that she announced this?

[Stylest]

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

Umm... yabu ... what Flogging said ...

It honestly wouldn't bother me at all. You were tagged in it so would of seen the com ments etc just the same as if you'd posted it. All important family and friends were told.

The baby is here safe and healthy and that's ultimately the most important thing.

Yanbu to be upset. Nothing you can really do now.

Next time do as my friends did and send a follow up text to the announcement of 'not everyone knows yet, so I'd be really grateful if you could keep this off Facebook etc until we put it there."

Sympathies. It feels massive right now but it is a small thing. You told the most important people personally. The rest would just have been nice to get to do yourself. There is a lifetime of announcements ahead of you. Don't let this cloud it.

YANBU

Fucking Facebook! People have lost their manners with that site. Why do they need to post anything?!?!? Attention seekers! And posting a picture of your DC - I'd be furious!!

I'm not on Facebook and I am astonished on a daily basis at the nonsense people do on that bloody site.

I was worried about this happening (a few people have 'form') so locked down my FB so no one can post to my page without permission. The day after DS was born I was working my way round texting friends (different messages for different people as I'd had some problems and DS was prem, some knew we'd gone in others didn't). I then started to get congratulations texts from colleagues that I hadn't told - one of my colleagues who I had already sent a message to had taken it upon herself to tell everyone else, she must've done it within 5minutes of receiving my message. No, not the end of the world but bloody annoying, and certainly in her case a 'need' to be involved in everything. Yes, in hindsight maybe she should have been one of the last people I told but there you go.

I really don't think 2 days is that long at all to be telling people. In my case I was recovering from a crash c-section, was pretty out of it a lot of the time, and DS was still in NICU, making sure less close friends and family knew wasn't top priority. Ok, maybe in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter who tells them, but it is nice to share your own happy news.

Would have been better to put a note at the end of the email saying please don't post on social media. 2 days after a birth I would have presumed it was now public news without otherwise instructed.

Yanbu, it's not other people's news to announce!

Only yourself to blame here. You sent the photo.

At the end of the day it comes down to manners. And people being an attention seeking twat, really.

You don't announce other people's news. That's common courtesy.

The people who do this do it for no other reason than they want the "glory" of being the one to spread the news and collect up the "likes" and comments.

And sharing a photo as well is just even worse.

FB is the work of the devil.

FB really brings out the worst in people.

Yes it was very bad manners of your friend.
But you'll need to move on. Either she is a shit and selfish friend or she is a nice friend who is a bit clueless. Only you know this.

URNBU it's for you to show off your new born not anyone else. I have know friends and family have asked everyone not to put anything on social media until they do which is fair enough.

YANBU, I felt sad that when texting or calling to announce DC2 to everyone we had to add the addendum 'please do not mention on social media yet as we are still ringing round friends and family'. Imo, unless either of the parents have announced on social media, no one should, it's just politeness.

I think some people need to grow the fuck up and stop thinking they are some sort of celebrity making an official announcement to their fans.
Concentrate on your baby not how many likes you are getting.

YANBU! i would be very annoyed.

My BIL did this. One of my first memories surrounding the birth of my son is me blocking and deleting him off facebook and texting him that he must not write on my page as I want to tell my friends and I hadn't done it at that point. The irony is he's twat and the fav son blah blah blah and he hardly spoke to me anyway...

My BIL did this. One of my first memories surrounding the birth of my son is me blocking and deleting him off facebook and texting him that he must not write on my page as I want to tell my friends and I hadn't done it at that point. The irony is he's twat and the fav son blah blah blah and he hardly spoke to me anyway...

How ridiculously sad that that was your first memory, Betty. Didn't you have more on your mind than logging onto Facebook to police what other people were posting?

You shouldn't have to tell people not to post. All they had to do was check you Fb page and see you'd not posted yet. If you'd wanted it on fb you would have put it there. People on here saying they would have assumed 2 days on it was fine need to seriously consider their opinion as most people seem to get the obvious etiquette that you don't make announcements for others unless it is clearly public knowledge. Not rocket science. Yanbu but clearly people are dumb. Congrats though.

YANBU! That's news only parents should share- what an idiot! Tell her she shouldn't have done this but what's done is done now.

Now you should probably let it go and enjoy your baby - I'm sure you don't have energy for other people's crap!

Congratulations! Xx

A quick glance at your profile would have told her that you had not yet announced you're news on fb. Really shit of her to try and steal your thunder. I'd tell her you're annoyed.

Actually first copy this thread and send it her- most of mumsnet thinks she's overstepped it!

She did you a huge favour. It is quite an effort coordinating big announcements like this e.g. Remembering to add everyone's emails etc. You have your own personal publicist!

(Light hearted)

I'd let it go. She probably meant well, was just excited, rather than trying to 'steal the limelight'. Only you can judge this.

You can learn from this for next time...

YANBU. I'd be tempted to send her a message simply saying 'please could you delete the photo of xx our baby xx from the Internet. I know it was well meaning but we don't want his pic online. Thanks.'

It was devastating....

Really?! I would have thought the baby dying would have been devastating, but someone announcing a birth (or the name/weight/pic) several days after a baby has been born? Annoying at best, but come on, I'm sure anyone that really cares would have already been informed. If this sort of thing will have such an impact on your life you need to inform people prior that you don't want anyone mentioning it.