To feel annoyed at DH showering twice a day

[InsaneDame]

Apparently he needs one in the morning to feel fresh before work and one in the evening after being at work all day - this one I understand but surely after showering the night before and just sleeping there is no need for one in the morning? AIBU?

Your complaint seems a bit controlling.

Showers are delightful and clean people are lovely to be around.

Had three yesterday.
Crikey you would have reason to complain if he wasn't showering. Phew!
I had one on Wednesday night and in the morning before work because I felt sweaty as I had to shut the window because the night before the tractors had kept me awake for hours in the middle of the night. Then had another when I came home from work because I was going out. Then had another 5 minute one when I came home at 2 because I was hot. Had another in the morning when I got up.

No way would I let DH have two showers everyday. We're on a water meter and the bill would be astronomical. And we should all be saving , not wasting water.

FGS how long is he showering for ?
Im in and out in under 2-3 minutes.
If he is showering for 20 minutes then I don't think he is doing it to just to get clean ... grin]

"Well he isn't actually dirty in the morning, he hasn't done anything other than sleep!"
This is clearly the problem, rather than the number of showers. . . .

There really are more important things to worry about. Don't sweat the small stuff.

No way would I let DH have two showers everyday
Granted 2 of mine are at the gym but you wouldn't let him - WTAF!

The thought has just popped in to my head that the OP's DH might wish she had two showers a day too.

Incidentally, I have a bath every day and my husband and daughter have showers (a long shower in my daughter's case). Our water bills have plummeted since we got a water meter installed. I doubt that a man having two showers a day would make much difference to the bill.

Sadik, love your comment!

No way would I let DH have two showers everyday

If the genders were reversed I'm sure people wouldn't hesitate to define that as abusive.

I certainly don't need two showers a day, and couldn't even if I wanted to as suffer from very dry skin.

YABU

Wish my DH would, he does nighttime only as he likes to go to bed clean (great), but I think you can tell in the daytime that he hasn't showered in the morning on waking.

Very lengthy showers can be annoying if other people want to get in the bathroom.

In the old days - I remember them - a person might stand at a basin and wash themselves with a flannel- concentrating mostly on sweatier areas. It's pretty quick and uses very little water.

I sometimes do this in the morning.

I think you have it good.

Many men and women are soap dodgers and to me that is something to moan about!

I can't get my head round the idea of not "letting" a spouse do something! Good grief! Is it not a relationship between equals? As a PP said, imagine a man saying that he wouldn't let his wife have two showers!

I never understand the "dry skin" thing - I have very dry skin which is now lovely and supple as I shower several times daily and use a lovely moisturising shower cream ( Jason) and then apply the body cream.
No dry skin or flakiness and I don't stink either

FFS - so many people having 2 or 3 showers a day??

Utterly ludicrous. Surely once a day or every other day in winter is more than adequate.

OP you are not being unreasonable. A shower before bed is fine and your DH doesn't need to wake up the kids in the morning with his extra showering activities!

I'd be a bit worried about electricity and water usage but otherwise it wouldn't bother me at all. And yes, it's nicer to be clean.

I always do this. Shower in the morning so clean for the day then shower before bed to wash the day off. Especially in this weather.

We aren't on a water meter as we have more people than bedrooms.

I cycle everywhere - Im sweaty as hell when I reach the pool.
Would you like me to get into the pool all sweaty?
That's grim -I take a 2 minute shower to rinse the sweat off before I get in- its a requirement before you use the pool.
After I rinse off the chlorine and wash my hair- 2-3 minutes tops.
Cycle home after work- quick shower again 2-3 minutes as Im sweaty.
How is that ludicrous its basic hygiene !

I do this regularly.

I never said I don't let him - I've not said a word to him about it annoying me and I wouldn't ever stop him. The best thing for my dry, cracked, sore skin is not to get it wet more than once a day/every other day.

I don't understand why we have to 'save water'. Rain isI plentiful in the UK

And I already said if he was exercising/cycling etc then of course it would make more sense. Bit he isn't. He showers, goes to bed, wakes up, showers again.... Just seems pointless to me.

It's unnecessary and wasteful. How smelly can you get in 7-8 hours, lying asleep (presumably cool enough so you're not drenched in sweat) in clean clothes?