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Need xx. Must be in good condition and suitable for a boy/girl

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NeedACleverNN · 23/07/2016 13:16

What is with these posts on FB?

People keep posting they need a bumbo, buggy, high chair, swing. It must be in excellent condition and suitable for a boy/girl.

If someone comments and it's the wrong colour, even if free, they immediately get told "i need it for a boy!"

Would it really kill your boy to sit on a pink high chair or damage your daughter femininity to sit in a blur bumbo?

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Mummyme1987 · 23/07/2016 15:27

Thanks Need, but only if it's a nice one with a fitted gloss kitchen, I have standards you know! 😂

Scaredycat3000 · 23/07/2016 15:33

I had one person on FB always asking for/to borrow very low cost items. One of those smug I paid my mortgage off by 30 types. It was funny as the people who lived close enough to help started making comments, 'It only cost £2 in the local supermarket and you'll need it again year'. She's stopped now.

arethereanyleftatall · 23/07/2016 15:33

There are some amazingly nice people about though. An example...

'Wanted. Cot for baby boy. Must be in excellent condition. Delivery to x. Free or cheap.'

'I've got one you can have free, Hun. I'll bring it round tomorrow.'

'I'm out then. Can you bring it today?'

'Sure hun'

Wtf??

Dizzydodo · 23/07/2016 15:34

I gave a bike away on free cycle once, nothing fancy but in working order, someone wanted me to deliver it to them! It's a bike ffs, you can walk/bus the 1.5 mile distance to my house and cycle it home again! Needless to say I gave it to someone else.

I've seen a few posts on Facebook buying/selling sites along the lines of 'want purple stuff for my kitchen now so looking to swap my red toaster/kettle/microwave/tea towels' - seemed like an odd thing to do to me but maybe this is normal?

harderandharder2breathe · 23/07/2016 15:35

When I moved house I got given someone's 25 year old wedding crockery... it had silver trim and couldn't go in the microwave so she was getting rid... Fine for me! Didn't even have s microwave for the 1st year! I also got a brand new set up saucepans someone else had bought but never taken out of the box

I had not asked for freebies, and accepted those offered gratefully! It wouldn't have occurred to me to say "oh no I don't want red saucepans can I have them in silver instead?"

It's so odd to me that people are so demanding and picky! Absolutely no problem with someone saying "anyone have xx item?" But it's when they then turn round to those offered and dismiss for being the wrong brand/colour/not free!

I can even understand asking for delivery as not everyone drives, but surely you do it at the givers convenience, offer petrol money, only ask very locally etc

NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/07/2016 15:41

I used to offer loads of stuff usually saying something like

Very good condition x item x colour x size I cannot be bothered to sell or faff about if you want it and you live near by somewhere I'm going today I can drop off but if you don't its at x location until x time when I shall be taking it to x charity shop.

To then get bombarded with can you post pics and will you deliver 40 miles away.

No fuck off I just said I can't be bothered to sell it why would I go to the same effort for free.

One very funny one was a woman who wanted my pram set for free but wanted me to take pics of everything that came with it and a link to the original item from the manufacturers and then delivery to her house 35 miles away by lunch time that day.

I said nope donated it to barnardos children's charity shop where her mum brought it for £120 and she proudly posted it on a parenting group I'm also a member of saying how pleased she was with it.

I couldn't resist saying oh that's my old one I offered it to you for free but you got silly about it.

Scaredycat3000 · 23/07/2016 15:51

Dizzy There does seem to be a thing about changing colour of appliances. But usually full sets for sale as changing to another colour and no drama. Not my thing but does seem to be a good way of matchy matchy change in a better environmental and financial way. I was shocked when someone was selling an less than a year old extremely expensive fridge in a very statement colour as they had changed the colour of their kitchen.

MrsDeVere · 23/07/2016 16:01

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NeedACleverNN · 23/07/2016 16:06

Need it gone is annoying too!

You want it gone. It is not essential to your well being to need it gone

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CoolCarrie · 23/07/2016 16:10

My xx are always in good condition and suitable for boys or girls! 😀

RainbowJack · 23/07/2016 16:12

I couldn't resist saying oh that's my old one I offered it to you for free but you got silly about it.

Grin What did she say?

Luckystar1 · 23/07/2016 16:16

I'm on a Facebook bugaboo page. Along with a lot of 'huns' (xx)

I am absolutely amazed by the number of people selling brand new/6 month old prams for almost half the price they paid, for some ridiculous reason! How can they afford to lose that amount of money on a whim?!

Or incessantly swapping prams, just stick with the I've you have ffs!

Luckystar1 · 23/07/2016 16:17

*one you have

Fluffycloudland77 · 23/07/2016 16:17

Off topic but I'm a health care professional & have been told several times since going private that I should do it for free because it's wrong to charge for healthcare.

I must ask my consultant surgeon bil if any of his cancer patients give him similar bollockings.

Pome90210 · 23/07/2016 16:20

Ugh, the classic pastime of the Huns

Have you got anything less boyish Hun (I hope your daughter takes a liking to dungarees and jackboots you clown)

Can you deliver Hun (cheeky twat)

Bit too rough for me Hun (cheeky twat)

Can I have that thing in the background too Hun (cheeky twat)

Can you post it Hun (double cheeky twat)

Envy Grin

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 23/07/2016 16:20

It does make a difference In the way you word your request.
Friend needed a square of roof felt to finished her shed.
Random also needed roof felt in the same week.

Friend
Hi. Does anybody have any left over roof felt please?
It only needs to be 1m by 1m, so I'd rather not buy a whole roll, if possible.
I am happy to collect any evening or weekend. Thank you.

Random
Wanted. Roof felt. Needs to be nearly a whole roll. Also, deliver before Friday tea time.

Friend was offered almost a whole roll.
She accepted and took a token gift when she collected it. I think chocolate for the donors child.

RubbishMantra · 23/07/2016 16:53

Feel your pain Fluffy.

I used to work in a therapeutic field and get whined at for not providing extra time/no charge.

Response is, "Would you work for free, no matter how much you loved your job? No? then why should I".

My DSis is also a medical professional, and during her years of training/working she lived off tinned tomatoes and instant mash.

Recently a friend's partner got their first home. I had several pieces of furniture I was going to give him. Can you paint them in x colour please was his response.

Fuck that, I thought.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 23/07/2016 16:54

She didn't say a word I think she was a tad embarrased that all her friends saw what a plonker she had been.

And it was the exact same one not even one like my old one because she put how chuffed that it was in almost new condition from the charity shop.

Fwiw I'm not a serial pram swopper I just have a few mobility issues and had a few problems finding one that was not to heavy for me to lift and use

PeekAtChu · 23/07/2016 16:59

We had one on my local facebook freecycle asking for a swim ring for a baby girl, must be pink. Apparently the orange one that did my DD didn't cut it for hers. I'm pretty sure I've never even seen a pink swim ring, only orange or yellow ones.

CocktailQueen · 23/07/2016 17:13

I recently offered some pond plants on our freegle. Said to both people who wanted it to take half each and not to take the buckets the plants were in (the kids' beach buckets!). Guess what? First person to turn up took all the plants and both the bloody buckets.

Emailed them, and they said the plants weren't for them, but for a friend. He'd drop the buckets back some time.

He hasn't. Greedy twat.

FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 23/07/2016 17:17

When I got my first flat and needed everything, I furnished it with the generosity of friends and relatives.
"Would you like this wicker seat and sofa to put you on?" Yes Please.
"I've got three odd kitchen chairs and a load of mismatched crockery, could you use them?" Yes please.
"Would you like a binliner of bedding and curtains? I'm not sure what colours?" Mate,I have none, yes please.
If you need something that badly, the colour shouldn't matter.

marblestatue · 23/07/2016 17:17

I gave up falling for the stories of why people supposedly needed an item. Now I just give it to whoever writes the most polite email Smile

Rachel0Greep · 23/07/2016 17:58

'will it fit in my hall cupboard?' How would I know?

It would be so tempting to blandly answer 'yes it will' Grin

thecatsarecrazy · 23/07/2016 18:12

There's a woman on our local selling page always on the bum. She wanted wooden bedside tables and a leather 3pc for a friend. For free! Also a woman was opening a shop and wanted free till and till rolls would you believe.

WiIdfire · 23/07/2016 18:28

I really shouldn't rise to these things.

A lady on a nappy fb group (hi if you're on here!) was selling her stash of cloth nappies because they were purple and therefore 'no good for a boy'
I mentioned that my boy was in a purple nappy - had I made a fashion error? She mumbled something about them not fitting so well.
I mean, purple! Ffs.

Also, it's 'I would like it to be gone' not 'need it gone'. Poor English.