To have watched 50 Shades Of Grey with DD?

[BluePresent]

DD is 16, we recently purchased 50 Shades Of Grey from the Sky box set. I watched it with her, wasn't an issue. Then DH comes in shouting and telling me that it is inappropriate and definitely doesn't approve... Who is BU?

[BluePresent]

Why are you assuming that I let her do what she likes?

[branofthemist]

Twilight was pretty creepy in some ways too, with a hero that can't help hurting and bruising the heroine during sex, leaving her black and blue in the morning. And the heroine basically begging him to hurt her.

Yep. All kinds of wrong.

Thank you twatbadging, I thought so. Both so bloody poor and disturbing.

[peggypineapple]

Is it really soft porn? It just seemed like a laughably shit romance to me. The books are RUDE as hell but the film is pretty tame really.

People are being way ott here, as is your DH. If you've got a relationship where you feel comfortable watching this kind of stuff together then whatever. I'm sure she's not an idiot and will not have her whole view of relationships skewed by one film, most romantic mainstream films give a distinctly non feminist view of relationships tbh.

[VestalVirgin]

That mainstream romance portrays abuse as romantic, while FSoG portrays it as BDSM is an interesting point of view, but one that I would disagree with.

The man is abusive all the time, not just in the bedroom, and I think what most people take away is that BDSM is a niche fetish, but being turned on by abusive males is normal.

I wouldn't let a 16 year old see it. Wait until she is 18. I wouldn't see this as a film that is meant to sexually arouse viewers, but then, I think it is shit.

[AndNowItsSeven]

I would tell you to grow up op. However it's the school holidays so you most likely are acting your age.

[Talkingmouse]

The film is lame and somewhat explicit, with some very poor messaging...but you could say similar about many films.

If It helps you and your dd communicate on a deeper level; if she can use the film to actually better understand how wrong some people/relationships are; and if you could actually sit through it together without squirming...then yanbu.

[Brandonstarkflakes]

I hope.you had a serious conversation with your DD about the assault scene at the end.

The film is absolute diarrhoea.

[BluePresent]

I had already spoken to her about stuff like that way before this, as she has asked questions before. Just because we are close, I don't know why people need to bring out the you're her mother not friend card. Of course I'm her friend, so what? she's very sensible.

[Chippednailvarnishing]

I'm not being goady

Hilarious!

[BluePresent]

Why is it whenever someone else parents differently to you, it's goady?

[TheUnsullied]

Because claiming to not get why it's inappropriate to watch soft porn with your child is goady.

[BluePresent]

But I disagree with it being soft porn

[TheUnsullied]

It's literally the definition of soft porn.

[TrollTheRespawnJeremy]

I am laughing my head off at somebody upthread calling it Soft Prom.

But yeah, t'is totes innappropes.

[Jodie1982]

I thought she did get penetrated in the film? When he bent her over?

Couldn't imagine watching that with any of my children.

[peggypineapple]

I guess I just can't fathom the idea of anyone finding it actually erotic when the male character wears such bad jeans.

[UmbongoUnchained]

The actress wasn't actually penetrated though that's the point.
Otherwise any film with a sex scene would be considered porn.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Oh for fucks sake OP! Stop with the wide eyed and goady posts, they're doing my nut in! Actually state your bloody point.

[23jumpstreet]

Just no.

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[MiddleClassProblem]

It's no late night, 90s channel 5 movie, that's for sure

[AnecdotalEvidence]

It is soft porn, I wouldn't want to watch it with my mum but I don't necessarily think it's inappropriate for a 16yr old to watch it with her mum.
But, I would want to ensure that the parent pointed out all the abusive and manipulative behaviour he shows.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

** Bwahahaha.

[tidyfairy]

I wouldn't watch it if you paid me, and neither would my dd.

[pinkyredrose]

OP can you really not take on board what people are saying?