Hiding from the smell. Bloody dh

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So house guest decides to cook. Shows dh the recipe and is checking off ingredient list together. Recipe has ingredient on that dh knows I absolutely hate in food.
He obviously knows this as when I smell it and ask if it's got it in dh laughs and pretends it hasn't and house guest looks sheepish and says they were just following instructions.

Not only do I hate the taste of this stuff but it smells strong so now I am sitting in my room unable to go find something else.

Dh thinks that I'm rude no doubt.
Aibu to refuse it and sulk in my room? It's late here. I'm annoyed that he's let someone cook food I detest and I'll have to go find more food.

I'd be annoyed too op. Why would your husband do that? Very strange behaviour from him.

U2 don't worry about User(random numbers) I get the troll behaviour. It's funny.

I am obviously asking for opinions. I'm obviously surprised I'm the twat. I really hoped dh would be seen as in the wrong but obviously making a foul meal for your wife who cooks for you without comedy is funny and I'm a drama queen.
Can't wait to serve beans on toast tomorrow

Dh hates beans on toast.
Tomorrow's dinner is beans on toast

And put a half-melted Dairylea triangle on top. Just the thought of that phlegm blob makes me urge. He's a wind-up merchant, if he gives it, dish it back!

Seriously, if this is a pattern of casual cruelty in front of others then you have a bigger problem than just cloves.

But this all sounds so childish. Why could you not have just pulled a pizza out the freezer and ate that? Perhaps your DH felt awkward in front of the guest as she was cooking. Flouncing off to the bedroom and all of that with a guest there was a bit OTT. And now to pay him back with his unfavourite meal is a bit daft. It just prolongs the whole thing. I just CBA with this sort of thing maybe I'm more easygoing than I realised

DH did my most unfavourite meal last night for himself, it stinks, it's eggs in a foul sauce but it just went over my head TBH

Is it just on toast that he hates beans? Because if not, then I think I'd be making some kind of mince ragu with baked beans in instead, so that, if you want to completely mirror his appalling behaviour, you can first lie about there being beans in there, and then laugh lightly and say "oh yes, sorry, there are. You hate them, don't you. What was I thinking? Maybe the same as you were yesterday?"

But fgs don't do it in front of your houseguest as they will just feel mortified all over again.

I quite like clove, but I've only ever had it as a temporary dressing in a tooth and loved the taste and smell, but, ginger, fucking GINGER is the shit of the devil after 14 days straight on curry! It actually turns my stomach and makes me feel ill. I can even smell it in public places if someone is drinking ginger beer and I have to get away from them. DS isn't allowed anything gingerlike in the house and has a stash of ginger beer at my parents that he and my DM enjoy.... Yeuch! And brush your teeth with bleach and caustic soda before you give me a kiss you Satanic beasts!!!

On the other hand I like ginger nut biscuits since my morning sickness days with DS (although I wouldn't buy them, I will eat one of offered tho contrary bitch that I am)

Grown ups making themselves vomit because of the smell or look of a food? Worse than toddlers! You need therapy if you have such extreme food aversions.

User, just because you haven't felt that feeling doesn't give you the right to jump on a high horse. It's like being offered a dog shit sandwich. No-one makes themselves sick, they are physically sick it's a natural reaction.

It's mostly hyper-sensitive people or pregnant women (don't tell me you've never heard of a pregnant woman throwing up at a strong smell, if not I suggest asking people you know because a high percentage will have! Especially chip fat for some reason). I have HF autism which causes sensory issues and makes me hyper-sensitive to certain smells or tastes what kind of therapy would you suggest? It's not bloody curable. Sometimes I have to walk around in summer wearing a scarf to pull over my nose so I'm not sick, or rub eucalyptus on my top lip to drown everything else out

I hope you enjoy your gag-free life. Karma though

See I think the OP was a madam about it all BUT also think DH was a tw@t and selfish, but to everyone saying that OP was right you cannot tell me you would react the way op did in front of guests?!

I understand making him pay when alone but to have a strop and moan in front of a guest even if that guest is a family member is so rude. It's also really poor show of DH to put the guest in that position.
Op you didn't need to eat the food, cook something else then tear him a new one when you are alone.

What I don't understand is why they just didn't just leave it out? Your husband doesn't sound very nice!

I put cloves in curry, but for certain I would just leave it out if someone didn't like it, yet alone have the strong aversion which you have to it. My daughter loathes fresh coriander - so I don't use it in her meals.

As someone who can't stand baked beans, Thumb's suggestion has made me feel quite queasy

Sorry Tyne. I can't stand the things either - wouldn't ever do it myself!

Well exactly Busybusy - that's what normal, loving, kind people do - leave something hated out of a meal for the person who hates it, not agree to put it in, lie about it and then laugh! That's not the action of a kind and loving person.

Well he's your husband OP. What are you going to do about it? Serving him beans on toast isn't getting the root of his disrespect is it? Ask him why he did it...

Coriander!!!

I'm surprised at the number of people who don't know what cloves are. It is one of the spices often used in apple pies.

I make Indian food from scratch and if recipes contain cloves I can't discern the taste from all the other spices. That said if a guest told me they didn't like cloves I would miss them out.

OP I think your husband was inconsiderate, but as part of a mixture of curry spices I would be surprised if you could pick out the taste of clove in the end result.

NicknameUsed If someone has an aversion to a particular food, spice, whatever, they can most definitely pick it out, no matter how cunningly disguised you think it is.

I absolutely loathe celery. I always leave it out of any recipe that calls for it, including in stews, etc. I can always taste it in something, even a stew or casserole that's been slowly cooking a long time.

YANBU OP.

As far as I read:

OP has strong dislike for cloves (I like them but I understand why, it's a strong flavour)

OP's DH knows she dislikes this food.

Last night OP cooked dinner for everyone.

Tonight's house guest decides to cook for everyone. DH deliberately omits to mention that OP hates cloves, with the result that OP won't be able to partake in dinner cooked by houseguest. DH also neglects to mention the dish is something the DC can't/won't eat.

Result is OP has to cook again for herself and DC, while DH has dinner cooked for him.

Your DH is a dick OP.

Oh Raspberry, I'm with you on the celery hate. I eat most things but celery just tastes like poison to me!

Cheby the DH told the guest she doesn't like it, then they had a little laugh together how she wouldn't notice... I don't think much more of your guest OP

I don't think it's an overreaction. The smell of liver or tripe is enough to make me gag and dry heave, if someone cooked it in my house I'd have to actually leave until the small had dissipated. If your DP knows cloves have that effect on you then he was out of order not to either day something or leave it out.

Smell not small...

Not once has OP said the smell of cloves makes her gag or heave.
She just "hates" it.
I hate smells of baby nappies, diesel fumes, vanilla & coffee, myself. Only the diesel fumes actually make me feel sick, though. The rest I can tolerate.

I dunno if he's a prat or not. Only OP can judge. Maybe OP is high maintenance or maybe they are both high maintenance.

I absolutely loathe celery. I always leave it out of any recipe that calls for it, including in stews, etc. I can always taste it in something, even a stew or casserole that's been slowly cooking a long time.

Same. Unfortunately it took my mum about 14 years to believe that yes, I really could taste be celery and it was ruining for me her otherwise delicious soup/stew!