Hiding from the smell. Bloody dh

[TheCatAteMyHomework]

So house guest decides to cook. Shows dh the recipe and is checking off ingredient list together. Recipe has ingredient on that dh knows I absolutely hate in food.
He obviously knows this as when I smell it and ask if it's got it in dh laughs and pretends it hasn't and house guest looks sheepish and says they were just following instructions.

Not only do I hate the taste of this stuff but it smells strong so now I am sitting in my room unable to go find something else.

Dh thinks that I'm rude no doubt.
Aibu to refuse it and sulk in my room? It's late here. I'm annoyed that he's let someone cook food I detest and I'll have to go find more food.

My god you're being so unbelievably rude to your poor houseguest!!! Have a private go at your twatty dh but how the hell is it 'conspiring' when the houseguest didn't have a bloody clue and had the forethought to check?!

You're honestly so far out of line in sulking/making a drama it's ridiculous. The guest must feel so stupid and uncomfortable.

OP is the house guest a woman?

Ned I think you would have got there eventually it just looked like fun naming spices so I had to join in

Leave the bastard!

Didn't the guest know that the OP couldn't take it but went along with the 'joke' anyway?

You are being a terribly unkind host, I feel sorry for your house guest, stop acting like a petulant child and grow up.

It's quite a strong smell. Smells like dettol to me.
I haven't caused a scene just said no thanks to the meal and shirked off to my room to avoid the smell.
The kitchen for context is right next to bedrooms so not like I threw my plate on the ground and ran upstairs.
Just declined clove curry and seethed.

Mmm, clove.

OP grow up! Go and make yourself a sandwich.

Dettol toothache curry!!!
OP I know that people can have very strong reactions to smells, my Mum gets headaches over all sorts of seemingly innocuous smells.
Husband sounds very insensitive.
It's warm enough to crack all the windows open and go and get a delicious meal out for yourself.

Sulking is an awful thing to do when you have guests. Stop acting like a doily and let it go.

Chuck the cloves out if they're so offensive and order a takeaway.

Clove is bloody pungent

I'm not surprised your annoyed

Get a takeaway. They will be jealous then!

I understand the very storng reaction to things. I am like that with aubergine. It is the only thing that makes me feel really really ill.

Clove has a strong flavour.

God I fucking hate clove too. When my DP and I first got together he made some Spanish meat dish thingy with clove in it. Only he put way too much clove in. It was like being at the dentist. Doesn't help that when I've had toothache before I've used Clove oil to ease it. Sorry but clove just reminds me of teeth!

Pink grapefruit essential oil is a good one for eliminating smells

It's not about the reaction to smells, it's about basic manners to a guest and not making someone feel incredibly awkward in your home.

I am like that with sweetcorn, makes me feel sick (throwing up, upset stomach) so most people avoid adding it into foods. It is one of two things I can't muster one bit.

One time I was at dil and dsd was cooking (warming up a meal) and decided to add a huge tin of sweetcorn into it. To her defense she didn't know my problem with sweetcorn, I never have it in house, and all I could do was smile and compliment her on her incentive.. I was very busy picking sc out of the food behind her back before I ate it but I ate it, felt sick but ate it none the less because it was dsd.

My mum tries it on sometimes, hides it in the food and I react each time. I will refuse food with sweetcorn in, with some exceptions like with the dsd, as it does make me feel ill if I eat it.

It is disrespectful knowingly serving food you know someone reacts badly to or greatly dislikes when it can be avoided. In this case you thank the guest for the effort and apologize that you are unable to try some as you react badly to xxxx. Be the better person and make something else to eat instead.

It's definitely not my favourite smell - less is definitely more - but you are being rather dramatic about it.

Is there more to the pissed off-ness than just the cloves?

I didn't cause a scene with Dh. I said I can smell clove and he smirked and I reminded him that if it's in then I can't eat it and could he tell me before I waste food. Dh just laughed then I asked house guest oh does it have clove... they look sheepish so I just say I can't eat it sorry.

How about basic manners to the host?!

I'm rude I get it. But my house guest will be fine. We've grown up together. Them it seems more than me.
I'm on my period. Just for further drip feed information so just can't be arsed with Dh or cloves right now.

How about my husband having basic manners not to set someone up to make a meal that I'd hate.

My manners comment was a reply to the 'basic manners to a guest' comment.

Exactly, Cat. Why would dh do that? Presumably your guest didn't know any better?

To me reacting this way is a bit over the top. Clove doesn't smell that much!

But my mum loathes the smell of lamb cooking, really really can't stand it. If we went to a friends house and they were cooking lamb she would not say a word. She is ok with lamb being cooked outside on the BBQ as the smell dissipates quickly. She does not want lamb being cooked in her house as the smell spreads through the house and lingers and she hates it. So my dad doesn't cook lamb unless it's outside or mum is away for at least 2 nights. Seems reasonable to me, it is her house too and smells can be unpleasant and linger. Mum would be very upset to come home to roast lamb, so I can see the op's point, and I can't imagine any recipe would have been changed that much by the omission of clove so it could have been left out!