Hiding from the smell. Bloody dh

[TheCatAteMyHomework]

So house guest decides to cook. Shows dh the recipe and is checking off ingredient list together. Recipe has ingredient on that dh knows I absolutely hate in food.
He obviously knows this as when I smell it and ask if it's got it in dh laughs and pretends it hasn't and house guest looks sheepish and says they were just following instructions.

Not only do I hate the taste of this stuff but it smells strong so now I am sitting in my room unable to go find something else.

Dh thinks that I'm rude no doubt.
Aibu to refuse it and sulk in my room? It's late here. I'm annoyed that he's let someone cook food I detest and I'll have to go find more food.

Clove curry, I'd love to know what else was in it because it wouldn't have me running to the dinner table! BUT did he make something else for the children to eat if they also couldn't eat the curry?

Rousette she didn't need to try it, she knew from the smell....
And it's the smell that is distrubing the OP, not eating the food that has been cooked (She hasn't touched it anyway)

Please please don't tell me you texted from the bedroom. That's something a teenager would do.

It's a strong smell. I smell it. I say 'is that clove I smell dh?' He laughs because he knows I hate it and pretends it's not while sitting with 😏 on face.

Well let's blame op.

I have nowhere else to flounce.

Ah I bet my mother hears this story and tells me I'm a twat.

They texted me. I replied joking about it.

No the order of tedious events were.
I have ingredient list for tonight.
Read off list.
Come to clove. Dh says she hates it..laughs or whatever. ..
Food begins prep.

You both sound very childish to me.

How should you have reacted ? With grace...and just because your guest is family it's OK to belittle him in front of them? Would you be OK with him belittling you in front of family too?

A simple I'm sorry I can't eat cloves but you two enjoy .....and making yourself something else ......and bollocking him when the two of you would be the normal non drama llama adult way to behave.

OP I'm sorry you've had such a hard time on here. Personally I think your DH is being horrible by smirking and laughing behind your back, and also ensuring you can't eat a meal that's been made when you've done all the other cooking for the guest. He's a dickwad. I'd be having a chat about respect plotting my revenge.

My friend has similar problems with certain smells. She literally vomits and can end up with migraines. Sadly, people continue to see her as a stroppy princess- when it means tey don't get their way!

I am going to go against the grain here and say that YANBU.

I absolutely hate the smell of curry and everyone in my family knows this. One day I come home to find that my son and his girlfriend and cooked a curry, the house stank and to make matters worse the smell lingered for days.

You have my utmost sympathies. Anyone who thinks you're being dramatic or overreacting has clearly never suffered from a powerful aversion to something. If I smell blue cheese cooking you won't see me for days. Being violently ill is not my favourite thing. My dp is exactly the same with tuna.

You can't help it, it's not your fault. Perhaps dh doesn't understand how I'll it makes you feel? I think you need to make him understand somehow.

Do you have cats? Rub his face in the litter tray.

I didn't belittle him. Makes it sound like the little flower was cowering as I marched in yelling "Fee Fi Fo Fum" ffs. I just asked if they used clove as dh knows I hate it. Then said what the shit did you do that for when he was in the bedroom.

I like cloves, they smell like Christmas. Odd choice for a regular meal though.

The only one I hate is the herb that tastes like soap, can't think of the name right now.

Sometimes I cook a meal and he'll accuse me of 'putting cheese in it'.
So sometimes I do.. And he likes it (although i don't mention it's got cheese, cream, eggs in)
So he has a right to be suspicious of you because you do put cheese in his food.

I agree, get rid of the cloves if you hate them. I hate pineapple. I won't even have a closed tin of it in my home!

Everyone saying it's OK.
Tonight please make yourself a lovely curry with clove. Let it really settle.
Then come back and tell me it's a treat for the senses.

I can kind of understand the clove thing. If you've ever used clove oil for a toothache, it's not the kind of mental association you'd ever enjoy.

I hate the smell of fried eggs cooking. Absolutely hate it. I hate the way the greasy smell clings to your hair, clothes and upholstery and just seems to linger in the general atmosphere for days afterwards. At the first whiff of egg frying I will barricade myself in a distant room and not return until the doors and windows have been open for a good half an hour.

Basil?

I do feel bad for guest and hope they know I appreciate the sentiment even if it's been ruined by selfish dh

I don't think I have ever made a curry with more than a quarter teaspoon of ground clove-or about 3 or 4 whole cloves. Are you possibly over reacting just a little bit?

Instead of hoping you could tell them

Oh so dh did tell the guest?!? In that case they're both cocks and I would have thrown the lot out the window! (Curry not cocks).

I bet you that if you didn't know in advance of eating, you wouldn't pick it up.
She can smell the cloves, they have quite a pungent smell.

I've just read the thread again and it's more to do with DH preparing a family meal that he knew you wouldn't like. He knew it, did it anyway and laughed about it with your guest.
It's about him taking the piss out of you.
As I said above, a clove is just a clove but I get it now OP.
Don't talk to them about the sodding clove - ask DH why, when he knew you hated it, would he go ahead with a dish for EVERYONE when he knew you wouldn't eat?
Tell him he was taking the piss out of you and THAT is why you're upset.