I have a screamer next door.

[ModreB]

Lovely family, but the youngest, about 4yo is a screamer. She screams in the garden, bathroom, living room. Everywhere.

Has done for 2 years since they moved in. Screams instantly at 2am if she wakes up. Screams if the door is shut. Or open. You get the message.

If I'm honest, I feel sympathy for the DM. (DF is absent a lot of the time)

2 older DC's, who dont scream.

I have 3 DC's who didnt scream.

I would never dream of complaining, BIABU to be a bit fed up.

noone is bashing the OP anyway.

Just other people posting disablist stuff.

Toads our DD had to wear headphones when she was out,I'd never take any notice of another child or adult wearing them.

One of our DD13 friends has to wear headphones at school he's 11 luckily they're school is really good despite being a mainstream school and comes down like a ton of bricks on anyone that would try to bully him so does our DD.

Whatever makes life a little easier for anyone that has extra needs is a good thing.

I beg to differ:

OP - apart from the comment about the child not looking SEN I have a lot of sympathy for you - but sorry, I have more sympathy for parents of SEN who have to endure the every day ignorance that we encounter (such as the ignorance in this thread)

That is a twatty thing to say.

toad just try and develop a fuck everyone else attitude haha! I have a sensory disorder and actually have a physical reaction to certain sounds so is rather someone take the piss out of my headphones than see my drop to the floor with an arched spine

But then I already know I'm not a particularly nice person.

Sounds like she's saying that one person's SN is more important than another.

nope she is saying she has sympathy for people with kids with SN who have to encounter attitudes like in the deleted disablist posts.

and given that the OP's son has SN then I assume she has sympathy for her too.

I can only see one deleted post on this thread.

so far. anyway no desire to wrangle with you yet again. Have a nice day :)

Sounds like she's saying that one person's SN is more important than another. - I agree, that's how I read it too Toads

yes, why would anyone talk about disgusting attitudes to SN, its not like they have been prevalent on MN recently

I'm glad it's not just me semi

the deleted post is mine and I am tying myself in knots trying to find a way to apologise to fanjo and everyone a third time that makes it more clear I didn't mean to be disgusting or disablist about our neighbour but I don't know how to word it (but I really wanted to clarify about the 'being looked at over the fence' as that sounded worst -he is 4 or so and it is a 6ft panel with ivy so he is appearing 7 feet up, 4 feet away from me, balanced off a trampoline net holding something in one hand most times ,so it is, to me personally, disconcerting/worrying/awkward & would be whomever it was doing it, and I don't react at all as I don't want to scare him into falling off.) so again, can only say sorry I didn't mean to be anyone-ist at all and won't post to be on the safe side as I don't have a thick enough skin for it.

posting in a kind way, or like that is fine. No need for a thick skin then

appreciated fanjo, will take more care.

thanks

Does a screaming child set you off though Fanjo? Not everyone with misophonia has the same triggers.

Proud..yes.

hence i would have put earplugs in if I had been in same room for long enough.

anyway is it the quiz fanjo and try to trip her up and make her sound inconsiderate day?

Morning, everyone.

As lots of you will know, disablist posts are against Mumsnet's Talk Guidelines.

Our This Is My Child campaign has lots of information about the ways that people can make life a bit easier for disabled people and their carers. Mumsnet's aim is to make parents' lives easier, and we strongly believe that this includes all parents caring for children with disabilities, as well as all parents who have disabilities themselves.

This isn't about limiting valid debate, and of course some people may be posting in genuine ignorance. But where we think posters are refusing to engage sensibly with a debate, or appear to be unwilling to take on board the points that other posters are making, we will take action.

thanks katherine, and thanks for the further deletions.

I had a toddler who either slept or screamed.

Turned out he was autistic. Luckily, during the worst of it, we lived next door to (deaf) pensioners on both sides and they never seemed to be bothered by it. But it would have been nightmarish for many people.

As a kid, these new people moved into the house opposite and the woman permanently shrieked at her kids. I thought she was being abusive and wanted to get my dad to report her, but my (abusive) stepmother made excuses for her, saying the child was deaf so the mother had to shriek. I found out years later the child had never been hearing impaired... It was annoying enough hearing an adult screaming all day but young kids have voices like bloody road drills. You have my sympathy, OP but if it's any help there may be issues going on you can't be aware of.

No Fanjo I'm not trying to trip you.

My posts may sound NT for let's trip Fanjo but I'm not NT