I have a screamer next door.

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Lovely family, but the youngest, about 4yo is a screamer. She screams in the garden, bathroom, living room. Everywhere.

Has done for 2 years since they moved in. Screams instantly at 2am if she wakes up. Screams if the door is shut. Or open. You get the message.

If I'm honest, I feel sympathy for the DM. (DF is absent a lot of the time)

2 older DC's, who dont scream.

I have 3 DC's who didnt scream.

I would never dream of complaining, BIABU to be a bit fed up.

WannaBe Nope, I did too!

"To stare at us if we brave being out there when he is" about a child with SN. Fucks sake. How can people be so offensive.

teachers will squish the screaming habit

oooh no, they don't at play time anyway.
several places I work are next to schools and when the pupils are having their break they Screaaaam as they play. Like they're being skinned.
Why don;'t the teachers /HT/Playground Assistants say to them to run,laugh,even shout. But not the constant bloody screaming.
Are they immune?

Why should teachers 'squish the habit'? That is the parents job. Obviously.

My 2yo screams A LOT - a very piercing, horrible scream. I'm a single parent and the scream happens every time she's told off or doesn't get what she wants, and I've been consistently using the naughty step with banishment to her room if she doesn't stop when on the step for a few minutes. Before all that i count down from five.

Sometimes she screams for two hours at a time and nothing will stop her even cuddles or bribes. I worry endlessly about the neighbours, I am sure the parents are doing their very best Xx I know there's no way I could get her to stop and i have bad anxiety so get very worried - good luck!!

Oh Fanjo it's exhausting reading this shit isn't it?

Thorn it is. It's disgusting.

I have a 4yr old screamer, we too have tried things but nothing seems to work. We do sometimes 'give in' to her, but her screaming sets off the 8yr old with autism who 'hates noise but is the loudest kid you know' and sometimes we just need to bring some peace to the house. I'm aware it is a vicious cycle though.

It is a barrel of fun in my house

We back onto a public path, goodness knows what people walking past must think.

Ramping up the noise solves nothing. With DH's music equipment we could be louder than the loudest neighbour ever, other than a concert/gig venue next to your house. We are not loud, we have more consideration for our neighbours.

I am just venting and want some sympathy/solutions for living with a 24 hour screaming, young, child next door.

Next door has DS8 who screams constantly, no SN. Older brother and sister torment to make him scream and mother always tells them off and consoles him! Can't say anything as their life has been difficult, can't say more as may out myself. It is so loud even my DH who is a wonderfully calm man has been on the verge of going round. We didn't use our garden at all last year as just couldn't cope with it. Fortunately the weather has been so poor this year it's been less of an issue!

Is there a way to cheaply soundproof the wall maybe?

Oh I thought you were talking about a very loud shagger. Sorry it's dirty mind.

I think the suggestion to ramp up the noise was a joke, as was the water squirting.

I have sympathy. We have a screamer a few doors down. She's a lovely child and they're a lovely family. They apologise but eh, what can you do? Clearly, she's a distressed kiddo, for whatever reason.

Loud shagging would be better

I realise that bloopy, thankfully I'm not as literal as dd!! My first response is generally "gallows" humour if that's the right term but as I said it hit a nerve.

Maybe you could take up loud shagging OP, to drown it out?

OP You do have my sympathy though - I wouldn't want to live next door to me.

Strangely we have a kid downstairs who yells a lot and it doesn't bother me.

And am I the only one who read the thread title and thought this was going to be about her neighbour's sexual antics? I thought the same!

YANBU I remember being in my last couple of years at school, exams and everything you know, and my next door neighbours child screamed all night every fucking night. I would cry through the night desperate for sleep, I couldn't concentrate during the day it was horrible. My mum was despairing too but far more patient but even she felt like the lady couldn't have even been going in to the child during the night - it really was relentless. In the end I would lay on my bed kicking loudly at the walls until she got up and saw to the baby, she moved out a couple of months later. I do feel a bit bad looking back but holy fuck SHE had a baby, not me, why did she think it was okay for me to be kept up all night every night? IDK, I suppose she could have been in a real shitty place, I expect she was, didn't see a father for the baby, she was probably exhausted and possibly depressed.... but still, it could have had a serious affect on my grades (my grades were shit anyway but that was through my own attitude as opposed to the sleepless nights).

We had a screamer next door - around 6, so old enough not to do it. What I dreaded most was the trampoline - she screamed constantly while on it. None of the other kids playing with her did it.

I don't understand parents allowing it, not past the toddler stage when they're old enough to understand. Mine weren't allowed to - that high pitched screaming goes right through me. It's a silly, babyish habit that ought to be stamped on pronto, IMO.
Ordinary 'playing noise' is a whole different thing - that doesn't bother me.

How the hell did I type bloopy? my iPad hates me.

I have no solutions, advice, or anything else, but I do have a lot of sympathy for you OP. You sound like an absolutely lovely neighbour to a mum who is probably mortified by what you hear ALL THE BLOODY TIME. I've got two toddlers near me who wail pretty much constantly in their garden during the daytime. Difference is, if I shut the balcony door, I can't hear them.

Vent away. You're not moaning, just getting it off your chest, and I think you're being incredibly reasonable.