I have a screamer next door.

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Lovely family, but the youngest, about 4yo is a screamer. She screams in the garden, bathroom, living room. Everywhere.

Has done for 2 years since they moved in. Screams instantly at 2am if she wakes up. Screams if the door is shut. Or open. You get the message.

If I'm honest, I feel sympathy for the DM. (DF is absent a lot of the time)

2 older DC's, who dont scream.

I have 3 DC's who didnt scream.

I would never dream of complaining, BIABU to be a bit fed up.

Aurynne- If you make a loud noise back at a child who is making a loud noise you are risking creating extreme distress. Children can be noisy but not cope with the noise others make, even the same noise.

I honestly cannot believe all the posters that think it's acceptable for children without SN to scream like that. My daughter would be straight in time out every time she did it if she was a serial screamer.

My daughter would be straight in time out every time she did it if she was a serial screamer.

I had a serial screamer. As you suggest she went in time out every single time she did it. Literally every time. For five years. And the screaming never ever got her what she wanted. Didn't make a jot of difference. Nor did any one of the several other approaches I tried. She finally just grew out of it.

Many apologies for my post. I can see why it was reported and can only say I didn't mean to be disablist, just took a chance to vent after 2 years of noise I have never complained about in person or on here for fear of offence.

So why start now?

Agree with you reality cheque it's not disablist to just be considerate of others. My brother shrieks and his breathing equipment is very loud. I spoke To My neighbours and they said he was disturbing them. I sound proofed his room and it helped dramatically. And if he is shrieking I don't take him outside! I live with him because he's my brother and I love him, but I don't expect anyone else to put up with it. How entitled.

3yo DD screams. It's fucking irritating and she does it because she likes it, always has done. Started at about 6mo, she's NT, loves the sound of her own voice Luckily I can differentiate between 'I'm in danger/pain/fear' screams and 'fun screaming' but others probably can't.

It is something that we're working on, and she is getting much better at controlling herself although forgets when really having fun. Luckily our NDN are goats and donkeys but I doubt they're keen on the noise.

The thing is, the 3am screaming could be something else - DD1 had night terrors and she would scream the place down for ages until we could bring her out of it - normally by playing classical music quite loudly for a while. It's very hard to do so though, night terrors are some kind of sleep state that it's very difficult to rouse people from, the safest and easiest thing to do is to calm them while in that state. We got it down to about 10 minutes with her but she was still screaming for most of it .

I'm sorry OP, it sounds tough, especially for your son. If you get on well with your neighbour is it possible for you to talk to her about her DD's screaming?

I'm sorry the topic just struck a chord, I really didn't mean to offend.

I feel your pain, OP. Next door's 1 y/o screams. Not constantly but it seems to be when she's happy, sad and just in general. Expecting it to get worse, but at least we know she has wonderful working lungs

oh dear i must tell my disabled adult child that they should be considerate and a good neighbour,,,,that will work next time they have a meltdown(yep I use that word even though they don't have autism)
thank fuck that when the housing association built this accessible house....they built a detached one,

the point umbongo is not that people shouldn't be considerate, but that people shouldn't tell others to keep their relatives with SN inside.

I thought that was quite obvious

Reality didn't say that though. She said ANY screaming child should be kept inside while screaming. Which is true. Why would you put a screaming child or in my case screaming adult outside to disturb the world?

nae luck for people with SN who can't help screaming then. hope those 4 walls look good

No one should be expected to go inside every time they make a noise they cannot help. Ds will be at home a lot during the school holidays as he cannot cope with all the children in parks and playgrounds. For some of that time he will be in the garden and probably making his loud repetitive noises. I bring him in and out to give neighbours a break from it but there is no way I would keep him in all the time. We accept others will cut grass, have noise creating bbqs and parties, have children playing out after ds has gone to bed, barking dogs, diy noise etc and expect others to accept some noise from our house.

Oh God OP this could be us(more DC though and they're older) 2 of our DC are autistic and our youngest who is autistic can be a real screamer.

But we do deal with our DD's screams as quickly as possible and our neigbours know that our DD is autistic.

We'd love to move to somewhere where we had no neighbours at all for they're sakes as much as our own.

Of course some screaming from kids is to expected, but if you know they can scream for 4 hours straight it's pretty unfair to have them outside the entire time.
My brother is different though, hearing a grown man scream like he's being hacked up by an axe is a very distressing sound and I don't let him outside at all when he's like that. Unfortunately for my neighbours the only thing that seems to stop him screaming is playing the cheeky girls at full blast he likes the cheeky girls.

Well this descended quickly into a "lets bash adults with SN" thread.

Quick reminder - the OP's DS has ASD. Just in case you missed it.

As an adult with ASD I find this topic very sad.

I always hope that parents with children with SN would have a bit more understanding but I guess not

It also confirms my fears what people are thinking about me when I cover my ears in public or have to ear ear defenders.

And before anyone starts, no I'm not talking about Fanjo.

I wear noise cancelling earphones in public toad.

Stuff what anyone else thinks!

I can hear someone running a tap next door. It is hurting my ears and driving me crazy to the point where I'm going to have to put headphones on.

Just to give you an idea of what it is like.

Umbongo I try to think like that but I feel so silly. Or I'm afraid people will think I'm being rude or ignorant.

Now someone is singing. FGS.