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AIBU to think that this lady has lost her mind ...

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kavvLar · 17/07/2016 19:09

South Kiosk at Martello Park Felixstowe out this status up on Facebook earlier today:

"Can we make ourselves perfectly clear to all parents who are too scared to disipline their children about tantrum screaming. We will give you five lenient minutes to ask the child to stop screaming and then we will ask the child ourselves. If that means you too having a tantrum about our having to speak to your child and hurling threats about not returning – that's really okay with us. We have a duty of care to the rest of our customers."

Cue hundreds of people flaming them on Facebook and 1* reviewing the business.

What on earth were they thinking?

OP posts:
NeedACleverNN · 17/07/2016 21:40

She's giving out free ice creams and ribena for kids.

Point me the direction and I Dd will eat them all so she can no longer trade

pictish · 17/07/2016 21:41

I can't condone what the woman did or the post she made whatsoever...but in my honest opinion, plenty of people posting on that page have sunk to her level then clearly beat her with experience. Some of the reviews are awful...dreamed up by petty, nasty people grabbing an opportunity to stick to boot in with glee.

The irony of berating someone for being a cunt by being an even bigger cunt. How do they square that circle?

ThoraGruntwhistle · 17/07/2016 21:43

There's another thread running at the moment about a child running around and screaming in a hotel lobby and all the replies seem to be criticising the parents for not sorting the child out.

green18 · 17/07/2016 21:46

Oh dear sounds like the owner has posted after a couple of drinks at the end of a long, hot day of dealing with the public. But if you run an ice-cream kiosk, kids and families is what you want , screaming or not. How long would the family be there anyway? Totally over the top!

NeedACleverNN · 17/07/2016 21:46

Well there's a big difference between a posh hotel lobby and an outdoor kiosk next to a children's park that sell sugar based items for the children

sorenofthejnaii · 17/07/2016 21:48

I've always thought it must be interesting watching the dynamics at such places. When children want something and the parents say no. A psychologist / social anthropologist could do so much undercover research.

MrsDeVere · 17/07/2016 21:49

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green18 · 17/07/2016 21:53

www.facebook.com/South-Kiosk-at-Martello-Park-659069417509630/
Her business page is now completely taken over by this incident. I really don't like the ganging up though.

Mycatsabastard · 17/07/2016 21:53

I have just finished a parenting course (aimed specifically at parents of children who have autism/aspergers/suspected to have) and IGNORE is a massive part of dealing with meltdowns. If anyone grabbed hold of my youngest (who is 10) she'd like hit them if she was having a complete meltdown.

We had a huge family meal out today, DD was struggling massively at times. It was hot (despite all the doors being open), it was noisy (lots of people, music) and she was getting more and more worked up. My niece took her out for a walk in the fresh air and used distraction as a way of calming her. If she'd gone into a full meltdown I'd have had to leave with her. But at a kiosk? Outside? Sorry but this woman has completely shot herself in the bloody foot.

A two year old doesn't understand waiting, reasoning or why they can't have something yet/at all. They don't understand why they are grumpy (hot/tired/hungry/thirsty) and a stranger grabbing hold of them would just make things a million times worse.

Stupid bloody woman.

SteviebunsBottrittrundle · 17/07/2016 21:55

Agree with need re the hotel lobby thing.

I'm not about to start bashing those parents, as who knows why they aren't removing their child? But, the child is 5 and not 2 and also the screaming has been going on for 20 minutes, not a "lenient 5". Quite different to a 2 yo at an ice cream kiosk, whose tantrum (apparently) wasn't particularly bothering the other customers.

sorenofthejnaii · 17/07/2016 21:55

Looks like another person who needs the book

"So you've been shamed by social media"

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 17/07/2016 21:56

It's daft that people who havent even been are writing scathing reviews.

sorenofthejnaii · 17/07/2016 21:59

I'm just wondering who reads a review of a place that serves ice creams by a park?

Mummyme1987 · 17/07/2016 22:05

I can honestly say I never have looked up reviews of ice cream kiosks before having one! Passing trade who won't give a monkeys.

muddiboots · 17/07/2016 22:07

I think she had lost the plot at the time of writing that post but writing nasty comments on the post about the dead cat seems a bit mean, I think they have made their point really !

Catsize · 17/07/2016 22:07

Has she never heard of

People I scream,

You scream,

We all scream

For ice-cream'??

She would probably seek enforce quiet carriages on roller coasters if she ran a theme park (note to the lady: probably not your best next career move if I may say so).

Catsize · 17/07/2016 22:08

Where did the word 'People' come from???

honkinghaddock · 17/07/2016 22:09

If someone tried to grab ds's wrists when he is having a meltdown, they would probably end up bitten and possibly headbutted.

NeedACleverNN · 17/07/2016 22:09

Why on earth are they spamming every single post? Confused

panegyricS1 · 17/07/2016 22:13

Hopefully it'll all blow over soon. It's a big fuss over not very much.

JudyCoolibar · 17/07/2016 22:16

There'll be a flurry of hate and some people boycotting it, and then her business will be fine

The thing is, though, that getting yourself boycotted right at the start of the busiest time of year is an appalling business strategy. She probably relies on trade at this time of year to survive over the winter.

Somerville · 17/07/2016 22:31

PenguinsAreAce
Where did I veto a word? I was merely informing people who didn't know about the connotation of meltdown, because I found it helpful myself when that was explained to me.

If someone wants to use meltdown as a synonym for tantrum then that's up to them. They'll increasingly find those they say it to assuming their child has ASD, though.

KissMyArse · 17/07/2016 22:32

Why on earth are they spamming every single post?

Pitchforks must be half price at B&Q at the moment.

It's the nature of the beast with social media. Every man and his dog wants to have a pop at someone based on a viral post. Makes AIBU look positively fluffy in comparison.

KissMyArse · 17/07/2016 22:35

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/meltdown

an extremely dangerous situation in a nuclear power station in which the nuclear fuel becomes very hot and melts through its container and escapes into the environment

a complete failure, especially in financial matters:
financial/economic/market meltdown
The last few months have seen the progressive meltdown of the country's political system.

informal
an occasion when a person becomes extremely upset and is not able to deal with a problem or situation

YeOldMa · 17/07/2016 22:39

Whilst I don't condone the grabbing of the wrist, very often children who are reprimanded by strangers do stop their yelling because they are so surprised that it is someone other than a parent.

I don't see why any one has to put up with my child having a tantrum or meltdown (depends which child), at a young age, it is quite easy to take the child a little way away so they are not being a nuisance. It was always part of the deal that as soon as they were quiet again, they could return to the place we had left. It was usually the quickest way to restore peace. I have a child on the spectrum and they were treated the same way, it just sometimes took longer.