Are we really disgusting?

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I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

Do those, who are disgusted not swap body fluids with their partner?

Yeahh, but I don't sit in it afterwards and wash my face.

We had to do this growing up and it was gross, when I got old enough I refused as I didn't want to get into a tub of water full of my mum and dad's pubes and dirty water.

It's disgusting.yabu!!!

I don't think a bath that 3 people have used will be significantly more disgusting than if you're the first one in. I don't feel any cleaner after a bath than before one and only ever bother if I'm achey/ill or stressed. It's a pretty weird concept IMO, you need running water to get clean.

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do you ever go swimming, or in a hot tub?

I don't swim to get clean. I swim for recreation."
Yes I get that. But presumably people who are having major reactions of disgust have to overcome these before they go swimming

We often do it.

I usually have a quick rinse with the shower hose after a bath, anyhow.

I do (briefly) swap bodily fluids with DH. But I certainly don't opt to sit in a bath of his bodily fluids in a bizarre attempt to get clean.

But unless he has a, wank in it you wont be sitting, or washing your face, in his spunk.
I get in, lie there for 10 mins then get out.

I swap bodily fluids with DP, but I wouldn't lie in a bath of his sperm, saliva and sweat!

What on earth do your DHs do in the bath ?!

I'm not saying he does

I'm saying it's impossible to be completely clean after peeing/pooing, and that you sweat constantly, so those things will always come off in the bath. Why would you want to get in bath with someone else's bodily fluids swirling around in there?

I think it's a bit of an overreaction to say it's disgusting! My parents have always saved the bath water for each other - it's not something I'd want to do because I'm quite obsessive about germs but I don't think there's anything wrong with them doing it. I'm sure they've transferred plenty of germs to each other over 27 years of marriage and 2 kids!

The thing is swimming pools and hot tubs have chemicals to keep the water clean - they're not just hot water with bits of bodily fluids floating around (yuk)

Yes but they don't dissolve the hair and general gunk

I don't find this disgusting in the slightest. We always did this at home when I was a little kid, and I do it now with my OH and 1yo DS. DS has a bath every night, so it's not like he's ever filthy. OH is a builder, so really is usually filthy. OH gets in after DS most evenings. I usually bath during the day in DS naptime, but occassionally we just have a bath together.

Never arises in our house since dh never has a bath, but it wouldn't bother me. Mind you our bath has a shower over so I always have a very quick shower-off afterwards anyway.

Dd often leaves her baby's bath water and tops it up with hot for herself later. Makes sense if you have a water meter.

I do wonder if this is genuine or just a leg-pull.

There's a lovely photo kicking about in the family of all five of us children in the bath at the same time (early 1980's). Since we lived in a deep rural area water supply was slow, and we didn't have electricity let alone gas. It was all heated by a wood-burner.

Now that my own children are teens, they prefer to have a shower. When they were still small, I used to hop in their bath afterwards, but only if I was pretty certain no-one had had an accident in there...

We always shared bath water growing up but I wouldn't do it now. Having said that, ds1(11) will have a bath in the evening & leave the water which ds2 (8) gets into. Sometimes they have a shower instead though.

I don't think it matters for children. They used to always bath together anyway.

DH keeps suggesting that we get a hot tub. I've put him off the idea now after telling him what would be in there heated up to 40 degrees! 😷😷😷😷

I don't care who it belongs too, I don't want to share it!

I'd be happy to get in after a young child who is too young to sweat. Getting in after a sweating adult is disgusting to me though. OP, I think its a bit unhygienic if you are insisting on going first and then make the kids use your dirty water - if you think sharing is such a good idea and gets you clean, then why don't you go last??

I can't think of a time when DS hasn't gone in first, so no I'm not forcing him to go in my dirty water, but to be honest, he wouldn't be remotely fussed either way.

Sharing bath water sounds positively Dickensian...

I don't do hot tubs, either [shudder]