Are we really disgusting?

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I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

No! Luckily my OH prefers showers anyway so I can run a deep hot bath with whatever feminine fragrance I choose to use. Candles, music, glass of wine and a good book.

That's my evening sorted. 😄

I happily have a bath with my DP, but wouldn't want the water after he'd had a bath on his own. I usually shower after a bath to rinse off and wash my hair anyway.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Not in a million years.....

I share with DH and sometimes DD wants the water.
I'm not trying to get clean, I only have a bath to relax.
DD has to get it last because she shaves in it.

It sounds awful, gross and foul however "clean" the bodies - and a bit third world in terms of hygiene.

Not my thing if I'm honest! Mildly ew!

I wouldn't be able to feel clean or relaxed if I was sitting in someone else's bath water.

Bleurgh.

But that's me.

Used bath water will have rogue body hair in it. It will have someone else's sweat and sebum in it. It will have loads of someone else's dead skin cells in it. It will have tiny flakes of dried urine and feces in it.

Why, why, why would you want to sit in that soup???

If you're that dirty that a bath gets filthy with you sitting in it then you need to wash more often.

No way. We did it growing up and I decided that once i had my own bath I was always going to have my own water.

That said, DH and the teen DSs never have a bath, always a shower so no problem.

How dirty is the average MNer that they think this disgusting? And what do they think soap IS?

Disgusting.

You're basically (especially if you're number 2 or 3) wallowing in:-

Sweat,
Poo crumbs,
Pubic hairs,
Cheesy bits, from nether regions,
belly button fluff,
dandruff,
toe jam,

You're basically bathing in disgusting, Sweaty rank Soup.

Just because you can't see the nasties, doesn't mean they're not in there.

Just because 'Mum and Dad in the 50's whatever did it' doesn't make it right.

Humans have, on average, .14 grams of fecal matter on their butt when they enter the bath

Fun little fact

This would have been normal pratlctice for centuries. We may not always have unlimited access to hot water if we as a species don't start using resources more effectively and equitably. If this works for you then you do your thing. You aren't hurting anyone!

I shower every morning, and sometimes in the evening too, if it's been a hot day.

But several hours after showering sweat and sebum will still have built on my skin.

You shed skin cells regardless of how clean you are, same with body hair.

Unless you thoroughly wash with a bidet after using the loo, you will have dried flakes of urine and poo around your nether regions during the day, even if you showeted that morning.

Soap makes soap scum though.

No, I'd worry about bacteria entering the female parts.

We tend to have showers here although the dcs shared till recently and on the odd occasion dh wants a bath he'll happily get on after tjem (or while they're still in, if he gets tired of waiting).
I get the issue about it not getting yiu squeaky clean but the people who are horrified by the mere thought of sharing water with a family member - do you ever go swimming, or in a hot tub?

And what do they think soap IS?

Soap doesn't magically make dirt disappear

The dirt is still there. All soap does is transfer the dirt from the body into the water,, where it mixes with the water and goes onto the next body.

It's like my MIL asserting she only needs a bath once a week 'as she never sweats'.

Err...everyone sweats, everyone. It's just what your body does.

No. Just no.

Do those, who are disgusted not swap body fluids with their partner?

do you ever go swimming, or in a hot tub?

I don't swim to get clean. I swim for recreation.

coco Presumably so - but I wouldn't fancy a leisurely evening spent bathing in my dp's sperm.

Exactly, soap doesn't have magical properties which 'disappears' dirt, skin cells, poo flakes etc.

It just sluices them off into the bath water, where they will wait to attach themselves to the next batch user.

Grim.