Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Are we really disgusting?

411 replies

TransformersRobotsInDaSky · 17/07/2016 17:22

I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

OP posts:
scrivette · 17/07/2016 20:01

We always share a bath but I go in first as I like it hotter and DH is generally dirtier and hairier than me!

becciandbump · 17/07/2016 20:02

I sometimes leave water In For my husband if ive not shaved my legs- if I have shaved Id empty it and rinse down the bath. We grew up doing this I don't see a problem unless u are covered in mud from playing sport.

MistressPage · 17/07/2016 20:05

Oh well we're all different. I'm happy to share bath water with my loved ones, but personally was much more disgusted by the thread where loads of people said they didn't bathe/shower daily. Yuck!

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 17/07/2016 20:07

We do this - I tend to go first though and 'dip' then let's DC have a longer wallow - I once had the bath after DP and DC and it was pretty minging to be honest

OnlyTheWelshCanCwtch · 17/07/2016 20:08

I don't like sitting in my own bath water, never mind anyone elses! If I bath I always shower after as I don't feel clean

expatinscotland · 17/07/2016 20:13

I find it minging.

SemiNormal · 17/07/2016 20:15

Oh no I couldn't do this. I wouldn't judge anyone else on it but nope, not for me. Sitting in someone elses poo particles, even my own, makes me feel ill. I have a bath and then I shower quickly because I don't even like the idea of sitting in my own germs.

Crinkle77 · 17/07/2016 20:18

Did it when we were younger. If one of my sisters was getting in the bath I might jump in after. Sometimes my dad would jump in after one of us. He was a farmer and was always filthy so would dive in.

WaitrosePigeon · 17/07/2016 20:19

I wouldn't share my water with anyone..

bloodyteenagers · 17/07/2016 20:28

I don't do hot tubs. For something like every 5 people who uses it, gives you around a tablespoon of shit in the water. Now at least in the hot tub there is chlorine that will deal with this. In the bath there is nothing to deal with this. I don't want to sit in other peoples shit. It's not about people having a shit in the tub, it's about no matter how much you wipe, particles remain. These mount up.

Then sperm - someone said oh but my dh doesn't wank in the bath. Like us ladies, the men also release fluids. And don't forget after sex, unless he goes and washes his nob instantly, both your juices are still on his dick nicely dried in.

Urine, both sexes have urine on them, unless of course they wash properly after every single time they go pee. There's also something that happens when you get into the water and a small amount of urine is released. Something about the change in the temperature.. A bath cannot deal with this. It has nowhere to go and there is no chlorine to deal with this.

I do swim in some pools. If I go and the smell of chlorine is strong I don't swim.

And I don't share baths. Shit, piss, spunk, debris from hair wash, sweat, dead skin and anything else. As part of my cleansing ritual, I am washing away all of this, and this needs clean water.

Put it this way. You wash up. You don't fill up the sink with water and then wash everything from the entire day without changing the water and rinsing, do you? You don't run the waste water from the washing machine into a bucket to use to wash the next load.. Instead you use clean water. Why does the dishes and clothes get nice clean water and you don't?

Natsku · 17/07/2016 20:30

Don't do it as we don't have a bath but have got into DD's bath after her on occasion when visiting my parents. Never feel clean after a bath anyway so makes no difference to me.

Natsku · 17/07/2016 20:31

Not bothered about hot tub human soup either - its worth it for that relaxing heat but always a good shower afterwards.

Verbena37 · 17/07/2016 20:37

We always did this growing up and now DS would hop in after me if I have an early bath but DH rarely bathes and only showers.
I can see dd turning her nose up if I suggested it but i have their water and top it up sometimes.

Hockeydude · 17/07/2016 20:38

Dh gets in my bath water after me quite often to save water/energy heating it. If there are 4 people needing a bath/shower at the same time in my house you have to share water otherwise there wouldn't be enough.

Verbena37 · 17/07/2016 20:40

bloodyteenagers I think you're overthinking it a little Grin.

MoonfaceAndSilky · 17/07/2016 20:42

Ewwwww, didn't realise this was a thing.
We never even did it when I was growing up in the 70s and we were filthy blighters

Clandestino · 17/07/2016 20:43

We share the bath but we always take a shower beforehand. I think that's more hygienic.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 17/07/2016 20:45

We used to share bath water as kids, I can't really get that excited about it tbh, seems perfectly normal to me.

I'm reminded of Monica from friends saying "how dirty do you think I am??"

We don't tend to do it much now (as in my family) - the boys and dh shower, I often bath in the morning or late at night, and dd in the evening. I wouldn't feel ew about jumping in after dd though - she's not generally covered in poo-crumbs Grin

Rainbunny · 17/07/2016 20:46

As someone upthread mentioned, it's normal in Japan for families to share bathwater, not at the same time but to be used one after the other. They even have bath covers that keep the bathwater warm between bathers. However, they scrupulously shower and scrub first, in fact my Japanese friends think it's super icky that we take baths without showering first! They can't believe that we sit in our own dirty bathwater. Humans are cleaner than ever these days (even too clean according to many dermatologists.) I wouldn't worry about it.

BigWLittleJ · 17/07/2016 20:48

Nope, not disgusting at all. I often get in with my two young children, then while I'm putting them to bed DH hops in.

RubbishMantra · 17/07/2016 20:49

No, I don't think you are OP.

(Dearly departed) DH and I would take baths together, wash each other's hair, then rinse all shared boy fluids in the shower. We'd also shower in the morning, so I don't think we were too minging.

If I was doing something else, I'd happily hop into his (scalding) bath water, when it had cooled enough for me. I have wet wipes for dealing with poo particles after a sesh on the bog.

TwatbadgingCuntfuckery · 17/07/2016 20:52

I like long showers. DC likes baths. Often I will have a quick rinse in the shower then put the plug in. I shower, bath fills up then DC gets in and tops it up with hot water.

Neither of us are dirty and its just how we've always done it.

Shit, piss, spunk, debris from hair wash, sweat, dead skin and anything else. As part of my cleansing ritual, I am washing away all of this, and this needs clean water.

do you change your sheets every night? air out the mattress regularly and hoover it daily?

pretty sure the average bed has more shit, spunk, sweat, dead skin cells, piss, hair, pubes, snot, dribble, oil, general dirt and grime by the end of the week than one bath shared by 2 people.

RubbishMantra · 17/07/2016 20:52

...boy body fluids. Although the former also seems appropriate. Grin

bloodyteenagers · 17/07/2016 20:58

if my bed had spunk in it, would be a miracle Grin I don't change my bedding nightly, but a lot often than some on here.

NavyandWhite · 17/07/2016 21:00

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.