Are we really disgusting?

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I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

But for people who don't want to sit in another person's bath water there is in fact a clearly defined point when sitting in a tub of water switches from legitimate cleaning experience to disgusting filth fest. For me it would be the moment I had to get into someone else's bath water. I might not call it a disgusting filth fest but I wouldn't want to do it.

I'm squeamish about it. But not judgey - mostly because I don't much care what anyone does in their bathroom - as long as they don't tell me. I wouldn't want to have to say "Oh how lovely" to someone telling me about their multiple sequential family baths.

Not for us, but we are a household of shower lovers, the bath is only used by 12 year old dd.
I did bath dc together when they were toddlers though.

It is not okay to bathe (for the purposes of cleaning oneself) in water WITH anybody else or AFTER anybody else, regardless of age, gender, colour or creed. Whether it is a child being 'cleaned' in water with another child or an adult cleaning themselves after another. This is because it is a POINTLESS EXERCISE. You cannot become clean if you are, for example, the middle person in this shared water bathing sequence. This would leave each person in the sequence increasingly unclean.
This can arouse strong feelings of revulsion in some people and therefore, in keeping with the terminology used by OP: disgusting.
I don't know how you clean yourself merchant but I scrub my body, I don't want to be sat in other people's scrubbed off shit particles. This will not make me clean.

And if they were to rinse off at the end why not just have a shower in the first place? Presumably the person in the middle would just get up and rinse off (without scrubbing) with bits stuck to their feet and be on their merry way. This would not make you clean.

I'm working under the assumption that it is generally accepted to take a shower (with scrubbing) following a recreational soak with another person. It is also not common to scrub off bits of poo and skin and dirt while sat in the pool/hot tub. Completely different.

Those are my thoughts, that is not however what I stated in my original post. My original post was a comment conveying my disbelief.

It is sneery and superior to take an innocent comment, using (simple) terminology in keeping with the sentiments of the original post to convey a straight forward thought, and turn it into the subject of a snooty self-important argument about how accepting and liberal you are.
Give over. (Rolls eyes)

The fact that you can't get your point across without stooping to sarcasm and name calling says it all

For the record I don't care what other people do, I haven't judged anyone as you have judged me, I simply assumed that people would find it disgusting and surprised that other people share bath water. That is all. I can't see how you can infer everything you have about my character (!?!?!?!) from a comment about being surprised that a lot of people deem sharing bath water to be normal!
Maybe you should be called upyourowntreearse because you certainly act like it.
Now please stop derailing the thread with your self-importance. Goodbye.

Wow, you're a stroppy one! Do I gather that you've stormed off now?

Anyway, in case you haven't, one last time...

If you think baths are ok (some people don't, which is a more logical position to start from) then they must serve some cleaning purpose. You're going to be cleaner if not 100% bacteria-free when you emerge.

The more water you use, the cleaner you'll be.

The less dirty you are to begin with, the cleaner you'll get.

The better you wash, the cleaner you'll be.

As you can see, there are various factors at work. And certainly, the addition of another person is going to tip the effectiveness towards the 'less effective' end of the spectrum.

BUT it doesn't follow that the addition of another person is automatically, universally where it changes from 'fine' to 'disgusting'. Youfeel this way - but that is not scientific fact. It is not fact of any sort. It is your opinion.

Of course you're entitled to that opinion. I'm I'm entitled to think that going on and on about that opinion, when the OP jas clearly stated that she does share baths, is just rude. Hence I called you out on it.

You seem to think I've 'name-called'. Well, I think you have been ruder, because you (and others) have essentially called the OP and others who do likewise 'disgusting'.

For the last time, it's not 'disgusting' by some objective margin. Some people are squeamish about it. That is all.

Oh, yes - and (genuine question) have you never bathed your children together? ?

Why are people so sure everyone is going to have shit on them when they get in the bath? In this house we wipe very thoroughly...

Lol @ stormed off. No I'm here lots of time to argue with strange randomers on the inter-web
Your arguments range from the slightly absurd to the absolutely preposterous.

Maybe you need to click through to the Royal Society of Scientific Facts Message Board this is MN and the OP asked for our opinions. I'm assuming she wanted to get a feel of what other mnetters think about the issue rather than a comprehensive scientific analysis on the effects of shared and individual bathing habits.

Can't stand this paradoxical 'holier than thou' attitude.
I will argue with you about how I assume you are intolerant of other people's thoughts and opinions because I am intolerant of yours. Shut up.

Fine by me

The more water you use, the cleaner you'll be.
The less dirty you are to begin with, the cleaner you'll get.
The better you wash, the cleaner you'll be.

Errr. don't think so! The amount of skin scales, hair, bacteria and poo that you leave behind in the water is not linked to how much water you put in the bath!

2nd point isn't logical either. If you wash thoroughly you will be just as clean if you got in very 'dirty' compared to getting in if you are quite 'clean'. If you put a dirty person in a bath and a clean person in another bath and then measure their 'dirtiness' when they come out, there is unlikely to be any difference. And most people are dirty- they are just sweaty.

Not sure what the point being made is for the 3rd point. Washing all over with soap will remove more oils and bacteria, compared to lying in the water and not using soap, but not sure what the definition is of 'washing better'?

*or what I perceive yours to be