AIBU to be angry at teacher who refuses DS water on long coach journey???

[Gizzle]

DS came home very subdued and downcast after the annual school day trip to the seaside today. Turns out that he left his bag on the beach (not unusual, he's an 8yo boy after all) but luckily it was retrieved by a teacher. However, when he asked politely for the bag, she refused to give it to him for the entire duration of the return coach journey, even though it contained his water bottle and he was clearly very thirsty after a day on the beach. I'm not sure what kind of lesson she was hoping to teach him, but I would have thought that children of this age should be helped towards independence, and not punished into it. And refusing a thirsty child water? Is there ever a case for that?

The OP Nsvy

The OP said that

So why haven't you spoken to the teacher yet?

I'm wondering how long it will be before the thread is deleted to protect the OP's privacy...

I think OP has said she hasn't spoken to the teacher yet.

I imagine this thread will soon disappear in a puff of indignant smoke.

What really happened:
The OP's DS was whacking other children with his bag so the teacher kept it. She sat close to him to make sure he behaved himself. He decided to wind the teacher up by saying, 'I'm thirsty I need a drink'.

Hopefully OP will stay clear of posting on AIBU ever again. This place always shocks me.
In future OP confide in friends and family.
Hope you get some questions answered when speaking with the Teacher.

This place always shocks me

Oh Ffs.

I find that believable, Derxa.
fwiw, I think our teachers would pass over some water because a kid having heat stroke/panic attack/getting stick on bus is likely if they are under-hydrated. Which would screw up the entire afternoon's timetable. So whole thing hasn't rung true from start.

The OP if indeed genuine is the sort of parent I love as a teacher.....not

She was cross on Wednesday.
I'm surprised that she hasn't emailed the teacher to ask what happened, it's what I did when I had a query that I wanted answering.

Lots of schools don't have email addresses for teachers (not sure what OP said).

hidingwithwine

This thread is unusually over the top! Where did all this crossness come from?!

If the other children were allowed to drink their water, why didn't one of OP's son's friends let him have a drink out of their bottle if he was genuinely thirsty?

PageStillNotFound404

Because its made up by the DC trying to not get in to trouble by getting the teacher in to trouble.

I suspect that the OP has found this out and is too embarrassed to say so.

Pagenotfound I suggested that up thread and was told by an indignant poster that it was a major health risk and likely to pass around hepatitis or meningitis or typhus or something (details escape me), a fact which all 8 yr olds know, and therefore it would be unlikely that any child would either ask or offer.

I don't hate teachers in the slightest. In fact in my experiences of working in a school, then being a parent at a school, then helping in a school - all of which span 15 years I have come across one who was awful.

That doesn't mean they are beyond questioning or beyond a parent being able to say "actually, I think you got that wrong".

No one has suggested that Jaques, what most rational people have said is that the OP needs to get the other side of the story first before being angry.

Small - and I agree with that, but that has to be done by questioning. There does seem to be a feeling that teachers have SUCH a hard time they shouldn't be questioned and I don't think there is ever a profession that shouldn't happen?

Of course questioning should happen in a polite way, but I wouldn't be letting the situation in the OP go without a "could we just talk about what happened".

And I have never, ever been into school to question anything that has gone on.

I suspect that the OP has found this out and is too embarrassed to say so.

Really? Why so sure? She said she didn't want to talk about it but she could just as easily have said her child was in the right. People wouldn't be convinced, I might not be, but I can't see the big deal about giving someone a drink of water either.