To report druggie headteacher neighbour?

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I know this sounds like a fake Daily Mail story but honestly it's true! Would love some objective opinions.
My next door neighbours are a couple in their 50s with 2 20ish year old sons. We have had major fallings out over their parties (till 4am regularly) and reported to the council, so parties have died down. They have all regularly smoked weed (day to day) and done laughing gas (at parties). We can see this over our fence as they are always in the garden.
My DS1 has asthma and we can smell the weed in our house. We have told them to stop but they continue. Now looks like they are growing weed (see photo). Her husband doesn't work and smokes weed all day, which obviously has an impact on how we use our garden.
I'm a teacher too and am sick of this woman's hypocrisy of being a head teacher in local primary school. Teachers have to follow the standards which includes upholding the law.
I know this is now a personal vent but I am so angry with the years of noise and drug taking that I kind of want her to suffer too
Anyway, do I shop her to the school governors? Maybe call 101? Or live and let live and look forward to when we can afford to move?

Hi all,
Hands up, we missed the post where the OP had seemed more distressed, and tbh we weren't taking the whole thread very seriously for various "back end" reasons.
It was reported for Classics a number of times and for the avoidance of doubt, we don't set the bar in any way. If a thread is reported by a fair few MNers, then unless there is compelling reason not to, it goes in.
So now we have a marginally higher number saying it's not appropriate for Classics, we will take it out, and offer our sincere apologies to the OP for having moved it there in the first place.

They sound bloody awful. I've been lumbered with shit neighbours in the past and it has a huge effect on your happiness and quality of life. Mine used to deal, karaoke till 4-5 am, sell illegal cigs, the lot. It was grim. Two dogs that were never walked that used to piss and shit on the hallways and howl all day. Scumbags.

Op regarding the noise you can call your council's environmental health dept - they deal with noise complaints. Ring them every time they party - they do have the power to seize stereo equipment and can take the police round with them if they have to.
I'd be careful on the drugs allegations though - go for something you can demonstrate exists, ie the noise.

My sympathies- bad neighbours are hellish

If you think weed is being smoked report it to the police.
It is no business of the school governors what members of her family do in their home.

Slight derail...
But as a naive young 18 year old I was that dried banana skins, cut up and smoked, made you high. We did try this but to no effect...

Maybe you could suggest bananas instead?

OP you need to go through the proper "nuisance neighbour" channels suggested on this thread rather than take it up with the HTs governors.
I agree that headteachers have standards of behaviour to maintain (at the very least not breaking the law) but I'm not sure daubing her in will help. It may be her DH and sons who are the chief culprits and she feels she has little control.
I'm sorry you're having a bad time. Bad neighbours are the pits.

Yes, what are "back end reasons?"

we weren't taking the whole thread very seriously for various "back end" reasons

MNHQ should not be putting suspect troll threads in to Classics, ever. The problem is bad enough without people trying even harder to make stuff up just to go in the hall of fame.

There have been a few obvious troll threads recently which MNHQ have put in to Classics and I think it's really poor form.

For those who seem to have missed it in the OP - it is stated that the whole neighbour's family smoke weed. The husband does it all day long.

I agree Queenbean.

OhNo That's just reminded me of my mum. When she was a kid she heard people talking about smoking grass so she went into the garden and rolled a joint with grass cuttings. She nearly took her eyebrows off when she lit it.

I'm shocked by the number of people who think this is ok. A headteacher doesn't just have to conduct themselves well from 9-3. They are supposed to be an ambassador for the school. If they are disturbing the neighbours and smoking weed in their garden (without good medical reason) they are effecting the reputation of the school. Head teachers are paid well enough to take on this responsibility (sometimes 6 figure salaries). The op has already been reasonable and tried to speak with her neighbour to no avail so I see no issue making the school aware of the way she is conducting herself.

Did we say any of what you said was ok bingo or have we all advised her to pressue those complaints through the proper channels, the council and the non emergency police number. Also where does it say it's the HT in the op it says it's her husband and son smoking weed.

How ever what is not ok is suggesting reporting some one for growing well a nettle! It's not illegal to grow nettles.

That's just reminded me of my mum. When she was a kid she heard people talking about smoking grass so she went into the garden and rolled a joint with grass cuttings. She nearly took her eyebrows off when she lit it.

If you re-read the op it says they all smoke weed. Plenty of people on here have said what the ht dies in her free time is her business. I disagree when it is illegal and upsetting her neighbours.

OP.

Have you reported their illegal behaviours to your local community policing team?
Call 101 every time they are smoking weed. Without question.
Get EVERY incident logged.
Keep a noise diary.
Report to 101 every time. Without question.

The headteacher angle is tricky. I would leave it be for now but actively involve the authorities over your neighbour's atrocious conduct.

So report her for smoking it. Don't report her for growing a nettle that's what's been said over and over again. There's only 3 people that have said its up to her what she does in her free time. Most people have said concentrate on the issues you can prove!

Even if it is weed why would anyone be malicious enough to report it. It has no bearing on their ability to be a head teacher but it's probably just tobacco

You sound a delightful neighbour. You complained about the parties they have stopped.

They are smoking in their own garden. If you can smell it close a window. They are entitled to smoke in the own garden

I refuse to believe a headmistress of a school would be out partying in her back garden, smoking joints and listening to loud music of an evening.

Really? I'm not buying it.

That's a nettle or possibly mint

A) canabis does not need heat lamps etc. There was a huge plantation on waste ground near the rail line into London from Surrey (Surbiton area), very recently. A friend when viewing a house said there was quite a crop in the back garden, they were removed before she bought it.
B) those could be you plants.

OP I would phone environmental health to complain about noise. I might report the suspect plants too. I probably wouldn't the school but would alert the local press if they were being prosecuted.

They are entitled to smoke in the own garden

No they're not, cannabis is illegal.

Shame it was moved from classics.

But that's no weed plant.