To report druggie headteacher neighbour?

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I know this sounds like a fake Daily Mail story but honestly it's true! Would love some objective opinions.
My next door neighbours are a couple in their 50s with 2 20ish year old sons. We have had major fallings out over their parties (till 4am regularly) and reported to the council, so parties have died down. They have all regularly smoked weed (day to day) and done laughing gas (at parties). We can see this over our fence as they are always in the garden.
My DS1 has asthma and we can smell the weed in our house. We have told them to stop but they continue. Now looks like they are growing weed (see photo). Her husband doesn't work and smokes weed all day, which obviously has an impact on how we use our garden.
I'm a teacher too and am sick of this woman's hypocrisy of being a head teacher in local primary school. Teachers have to follow the standards which includes upholding the law.
I know this is now a personal vent but I am so angry with the years of noise and drug taking that I kind of want her to suffer too
Anyway, do I shop her to the school governors? Maybe call 101? Or live and let live and look forward to when we can afford to move?

Well the OP is talking about trying to wreck a woman's career on the basis of a nettle so it's not surprising that she's getting a hard time.

OP - follow the proper channels re neighbour nuisance as you have been doing and resist the impulse to get 'revenge'. You'll just make yourself look silly and unpleasant and I'm sure you're neither.

A good many of us have said we're sorry she's getting a hard time from the neighbours and she absolutely must report the nuisance noise and anti social behaviour to the relevant channels.

But yes she is unreasonable in wanting to report the headmistress to the governors because it's not what she thought it was it's a nettle! I see no where where the woman is even smoking the stuff the op even said it was her husband that was unemployed and smoked it all day. On the basis of this picture she's not growing it either.

Maybe OP is getting a hard time because she's called someone 'a druggie headteacher' without any real knowledge or proof!

Slanderous comments like that cost people their jobs and livelihoods!

YABU to report her in relation to her job, especially as it seems the photos aren't weed after all. YANBU if you continue to liaise with the council about the family's behaviour if they are being a nuisance.

I'm guessing it has gone beyond the being able to talk reasonably with them stage? If not then perhaps your husband could discuss the weed smoking directly with the husband and ask that he smokes it at the far end of the garden/avoids smoking it when your children are in the garden. Perhaps levelling with him, just the two of them would help. It does sound like they've toned the party noise down so perhaps they would be reasonable about this.

If not then you really just have to keep going through the official channels with the council.

Good luck!

Whatever that plant is (I have no idea) I think you're having a rotten time and in your situation would exhaust all reasonable avenues to resolve. Not surprised you're fed up.

I think involving her work would be a last resort for me (although I can see how tempting this is for you in the same profession), as losing the main wage could have a massive impact on their whole family.

How have your previous discussions with them gone? Could you say you'll be involving the police if they don't stop?

It's worth noting that if police do catch your neighbour in possession of cannabis for personal use then the most they will do is give a cannabis warning. They make a note but there is no fine or punishment and it will not show up on any CRB checks(or their equivalent).
If she has proven to be a competent head teacher, it will not affect her employment.

Labelling someone a 'druggie' for smoking weed is the same as calling someone who drinks alcohol an 'alcoholic'.

You have my sympathy regarding the anti social behaviour but unfortunately it's extremely hard to build a case against occupants on these grounds. Most councils will advise some sort of meditation between the neighbours.

Ouch, this one's going into CLASSICS!

Let's hope that the police don't see this thread and do a sting on the neighbours.

This is not a thread for Classics?! Surely not!

Does the OP mind this going into Classics?

The bar is being set low for classics these days.

That's a really disappointing response from Mumsnet TBH.

Someone's genuinely stressed out about their neighbour's anti-social behaviour and posts a picture of something on which there's divided opinion over whether it is a cannabis plant or not and you join in the childish piss-taking?

Shame on you frankly.

Maybe the OP is jealous that they don't get invited over? Having wild parties at 50+? Must be swingers!

Classics?

Did the OP getting any say wether this goes into classics?

Does not did

Tell all to the local paper , invite them round for photos at a time you know the next door people will be at their worst

Once we had a landlord accuse us of growing weed. A LOT of weed. It was nettles. I said he could help himself to them but he declined, funnily enough.

(I've never grown weed but if I was, why would I have been doing it outside in plan sight anyway? It was a big patch of ground he thought we were cultivating, how daft would I have had to be?)

Weird thread to put in classics. The bar indeed appears to be set very low these days.

Very odd indeed. One thread with an upset op goes into classics and another where there is open goading has been ignored.

www.express.co.uk/news/uk/513835/Grandmother-accidentally-grows-5ft-cannabis-plant-in-garden

Wow, I hope that grandmother didn't throw it on a bonfire

Classics? Really? People have been really unsupportive to the op who is clearly distressed by neighbours who sound horrible. To put it in classics is really 'not in the spirit of mumsnet' I would have thought

Hmmmm this explains why the MNHQ mugs have blue cannabis leaves on them

If they're trying to grow outdoor weed in Britain they're gonna have a bad time.

It looks small enough for automatic low-ryder, which is a fast growing dwarf strain, but it would thrive better just kept indoors. Of course, it's actually a nettle, but it can be confusing to those with no experience (and a grudge).