To wear jeans to a wedding

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I have a wedding coming up. Not back to pre baby body and still feel very self conscious about wearing dresses.
I was thinking black jeans & heels with this white top - m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0409683002.html
And this jacket - m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0338033003.html
Or will it look too casual? Hopefully the links all work

Well done for sorting your outfit which ever way you went

Glad you've found an alternative you're happy with.
I think jeans do look out of place at most weddings in the UK, and have only really seen surly-looking teens wearing them, usually as a protest or because they have no other options.

DH is Aussie, and was invited to one of my friend's weddings in the UK - he was just going to wear jeans and a casual shirt, to which I said "ok, if that's what you want to do" (we weren't married then) - but luckily some tennis friends of his were utterly horrified at his plan and told him he HAD to buy a suit. So we did, the day before the wedding (I had to turn up his hems because of the short notice) and he was hugely relieved he had, as he would have been the only one NOT in a suit if he hadn't.

The only weddings he'd worn a suit to previously had been ones where he was a groomsman - otherwise, he'd turned up in a hideous almost-Hawaiian style shirt and long shorts (normal for some Aussie weddings, not all)

I have that dress! Well done op, you obviously have impeccable taste!

That's gorgeous, have a lovely day.

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Apple has a large tum
Pear is wide hip, large bottom

Put the two together you get wide bottom and large tum?

Cigarette trousers are the single most flattering item of clothing you will ever find

Having just looked these up on Google images as I had no clue what they are, this is a true statement... if you happen to be beautifully willowy and 6ft tall

I'm very glad you made a decision and feel comfortable with it OP.

But some people seem to have misunderstood your quandary...the op was questioning the jacket and top with black jeans - not the blue/stonewash jeans in the linked photo. There were many comments saying yes to the top but not the jeans. Just thought that needed clarifying 😉

With all due respect to the people posting here, I think that you are looking at this the wrong way around. It's the bride and groom's day. Will they have their day ruined by a friend turning up in what you feel comfortable in? Would they rather see you happy and relaxed and able to enjoy their day with them, or self-conscious and unable to be yourself with them. If people are going to judge you, then they will do it whatever you wear. You are there to celebrate your friend's wedding, not impress the other guests.

The dress you've chosen is gorgeous. And I think will be a lot more flattering.

You can't wear jeans

if you were my friend or relative i just want your company at my wedding what you were wearing would not bother me

You could wear top blazer combo with smart black trousers, a lovely pair of heels. Just make sure you team it with lovely jewellery, make up and nice hair. You know, to show you made an effort

And in reply to people saying it won't matter. It will. The bride and groom will have gone to a lot of trouble planning this lovely event for everyone, and turning up in jeans like you've popped in on your way to the shops will be rather disappointing and disrespectful. They will mind.

That dress looks lovely OP. Glad you got something you are happy with. Now, enjoy the day.

Is the dress from Next? If so, I have it in Jade. It's so easy to wear.

That dress looks pretty, and suitable - in the sense that you won't feel out of place. Of course your friends won't care what you wear, but it's rotten feeling out of place.

As for this ... Cigarette trousers are the single most flattering item of clothing you will ever find. This is either a cruel lie or someone who has an exceptionally slim, tall figure with very narrow hips. They do look nice on those people, but if your figure isn't like that, you will look like an overstuffed sofa with piggy trotters. The thing about cigarette pants in that they sometimes look ok from the front - ie., as you look in the mirror - but you do have to move!

That dress will lool lovely OP.Hope you have a nice time at the wedding.

Looks too casual.
I think a more dressy top and some trousers or skirt.
Maybe a floaty top and some trousers if you are feeling chubby. Not necessarily black trousers or it could look a bit work-wear-ish. What about some natural coloured linen trousers and a flowery patterned top? A dress isn't needed but you do need to be more formal than those pictures.

If you've just had a baby, people aren't going to expect you to be thin and glamourous imo. Just dress to enhance the good bits like we always do, whatever our shape. You could always look at dresses in the maternity section if you want some extra fabric in front, or look at the ranges for larger sizes. Something like a real wrap dress, not a mock-wrap, would be adjustable and re-wearable at various sizes of post-baby body.

Don't know your size, but... ASOS plus sized occasion dresses > www.asos.com/women/dresses/cat/pgecategory.aspx?cid=8799&via=top#state=Rf1027%3D6480%40Rf1012%3D4461&parentID=-1&pge=0&pgeSize=204&sort=-1

When i'm feeling fat jeans are the last thing i'd wear, shopping, dentist, doctors, and would never at a wedding!

Sons graduation on tuesday and am feeling v. fat - have bought a dress. Legs gooood.....and that is about it.....

Haven't RTFT but from skimming, I seem to be in the minority - OP just wear whatever the hell you feel comfortable and confident in and that makes you feel happy in yourself. It's FA to do with anyone else

Disrespectful?!! Cheezus!!

No. Sorry. I would have been highly unimpressed to see a guest at my wedding in jeans.

Very sorry but too casual for most weddings...it's awful when you feel crap about your body, been there!
Go and try on some smarter clothes I'm sure you'll find something. If you don't want to spend much find some shapes and makes that are ok then look on EBay there are loads of bargains to be had! There are also amazing sales on at the minute - good luck xxx

I think it depends on the wedding whether jeans will be too casual, and whether a city affair or a country church type thing. For a summer wedding, I would never wear jeans but that doesn't mean they are wrong per se. I've just had a baby too and I think the blouse/skirt combo I've picked for an upcoming wedding will be most flattering (and I can feed too). The types of jeans which are flattering on my postnatal body are definitely too casual.

As for the OP - the dress you just posted looks great.

I bought a jazzy jumpsuit from Monsoon for a swanky wedding. Looked great. Meant I could wear comfy shoes, too. And covered all lumpy bits. Only problem was going to the loo took a while!