I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

I don't think you were necessarily coming on too strong OP. You see each other once a week - that could be a strong friendship and you're sharing a big event in each other's lives. And I know what it's like to have a gift and want to share it with people you care about. No one here can comment if you're clingy or not - we don't know the relationship.

She was very rude, though.

What an absolute... COW.

she may have seemed a nice person, but by doing that vile thing she has shown you who she really is.

Try not to let it affect you - hard I know. But really really really it's entirely her shit.

That was a truly lovely gift.

Move on, get rid, dump.

Your friend is very rude! I think your letters are lovely and look exactly like the ones you can buy. I would love to get such a nice handmade gift from a friend and would proudly display them even if they weren't perfect. I would think about not being friends with her anymore tbh as she doesn't sound like a very nice person or a good friend.

Lol at three posts being a "mauling". OP has gotten overwhelming support. I just thought she might like the perspective that while her artwork is very neat and nice, most people would be bemused to receive it unasked from someone they knew only a few months.

Would they really holdme really? Are their rules to how long your friends before you give some one a gift a present. Because I for one have never heard of it. What are they 3 months? A year? Two years? A decade?!

I've brought my friend I've known just a few weeks a present well because I saw something and it's made me think of them, like wise they have me.

I was massively delighted to receive it I didn't think it was odd at all I just thought oh that's nice they've really been listening to me and noted what I like. Which is absolutely the case here. The "friend" commented saying how much she liked something the op thought she'd do something nice and make her a set, and the cow threw it back in her face.

*you're

Maybe you would hold me but I don't think you sound very nice tbh. Not everyone is as rule oriented and guarded as you seem to be. How patronising to describe those beautiful letters as neat and nice!

Mind my language, but what a fucking ungrateful bitch!
Fair call if she wanted to use a different style in her sons nursery... But to give them back. Huge disrespect. I'd be telling her what a twat she is next time you see her (if she's lucky enough to see you again)!!!

How rude. No you are totally not being unreasonable, I wouldn't make her anything as clearly she's too good for it. If someone makes you something you appreciate it, even if it's imperfect, because they have taken the time to make you something.
As a side note, that is beautiful work and you're very talented.

It's sometimes hard to accept that a friendship is not as important to your friend as you think it is. I know I found it very hard when I finally realized a long-term friend didn't actually like me much.

This woman isn't your friend and she doesn't deserve your friendship or your beautiful handmade letters. You sound a lovely woman so try not to be too downhearted.

What an ungrateful cow. I would certainly think twice about giving her a gift again in the future far less take the time to make something special! Your letter looks fantastic and very professional. I love it and would have been over the moon if it had been gifted to me.

I'd have been really touched and it does sound really rude and ungrateful unless something else is going on. I was funny about other things though when prople fob their tastes and expectations on you. A lot of presents i didn't like, especially others tastes in clothes etc. I has old ladies i'd never met knit me baby scratchy weird shaped cardies and dodgy pram blankets. Then i'd resent that i felt guilty for not using their kind home made gifts. Obviously i wasn't rude but just passed them on.

Not sure she's a friend you need in your life, ungrateful and thoughtless. Even if they were crap which they certainly aren't it would be rude of a so called friend. It's about the thought, care and love that's gone into them not into the finished product. Bin her without a second thought.

Agree with everyone else. How hurtful for you, OP.
I have some bunting my friend made for my little one. It's not quite the design or length I wanted and the stitching is a bit wonky in places, but it is still better than anything she could have bought because of the thoughtfulness and love put into it.
Please don't let this horrible cow put you off making further gifts for people.

rude

Your 'friend' is an ungrateful, nasty person who is not deserving of a sweet friend like you. I would have LOVED this! Absolutely nothing wrong with them. Great job! So YANBU at all!

Oh and to all those people calling the friend a 'cow'....please don't insult those poor animals by comparing this vile woman to them, lol.

Etsy is your friend... Make some money. Sell them individually for a few pounds each.
Carry on this friendship if you are happy to just be a bit guarded going out of your way for her.
May be she thought you'd like them back to sell or something??

Rude, rude. I'd love that, I have a Captain America shield on the wall.

Love the pp who said add a G and stick it in the garden. Your work is beautiful.

Is this the one that the TAAT is about?

I think so, but they aren't the style you would give to a girl are they? I'm sure that's captain America that's painted on it

It is captain America.
Dont believe the other thread at all.

Why wouldn't you give Captain America to a girl? My DD loves Spiderman. :/