I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

What a cow, she doesn't deserve a lovely thoughtful gift like that.

I think it looks great, I'd love to be as creative.

My friend did a cross stitch for DD1 and because of the love and care she put in it helped make up my mind she was right to be her godmother. Your 'friend' is a dick as pretty much all of MN agrees! Handmade gifts are from the heart. The 'professional' ones are surely handmade anyway! Just by some other hand!

My son is 6 and his name begins with E , he would love that up in his marvels bedroom and id be over the moon if someone made that much effort on a lovely homemade gift for him

Wow! she was rude

I hate being bought decor stuff that I feel like I should display, and I enjoy doing themed bedrooms for my kids so personally I would feel awkward recieving that as it'ld be going to the charity shop, but I wouldn't let on to your face

Please don't be friends with this person she sounds like a twat!!!

I also hate trinkets and ornaments.. but stil wouldn't say so to the gift giver's face, would just put it in the charity pile quietly later

Are you sure this person is a friend? Whatever - she is exceptionally rude and insensitive and I would give her a wide berth.
PS - You should go into business with your letters - they are great.

YANBU - she was rude.

Teenage DD loves the one one from your picture!

Op made something that her 'friend' would have liked, but it was not good enough according to her. They look absolutely wonderful, yes you should go into business. Yes if my friend gave me a nice big candle (i am not keen on candles), I would never tell her I did not like it, and give it back to her, rude rude rude, I have then lost a friend. It would go in a draw and be given away later.

Your letters are brilliant. Your so called friend is a really ungrateful cow. Forget her she isn't worth your time or effort. Find someone who has more respect for you and doesn't cause stress and upset for you.

Because it was handmade with effort and time, its that much more special than the shop bought ones.

They look awsome, its not like they look like a 2 year old had done them!

Rude!
However, I do think that, if the recipient doesn't hand make things themselves, then they don't understand the time and effort that goes into making things- they just don't 'get' it.

I think these are beautiful.

However - I have been the ungrateful friend recently, and felt fucking terrible about it.

A friend bought round some very tall perfumy lillies dipped in blue and orange dye. I hated them (person taste) but saw the label and she'd spent over a tenner - and she's out of work.

I put them in a vase on the night as was all 'Thank you!'

I then threw them away a few days later - the smell was making me feel nauseous and I found them really ugly. She then popped round, and saw a bunch of fresh wild flowers on the table which a friend had picked that day. I had to make something up about the lillies dieing and saying how gorgeous they were, etc, but I got the idea she saw through it and went away and was sad.

*Personal taste, that should have said.

That's amazing. I would have loved something like that for my lo! I cant believe she would do that. That is really insensitive, you clearly but thought and effort into them. I don't think YBU I would be heartbroken of someone did that to me. I really cant imagine any "professional" ones being any better than them, your friend is clearly just a snob tbh.

YANBU! she was as really rude & ungrateful. I would view this friendship very differently after that if she was my friend.
I would be so chuffed with the letters you made.

I would also echo what a previous poster said about her possibly being envious of your skills.

Travelling oh dear, but you were not rude to your friend and you did display them, but the smell was making you feel ill. Its not like you told her you did not like them, and to take them back. Don't worry.

YANBU... She is ungracious and unkind . I understand that it may not be to your advantage to cut her off if she is part of a group that you belong to but know her for what she is and save your time, effort and good heart for others more deserving.

Ditch the bitch

How bloody rude. I'd far prefer ones made by my friend than shop bought ones. Even if I didn't, I'd still use your ones because they would mean so much more. I'd be bloody furious!

They are fab, my son (6) would love those type of letters. She is one fucking bitch!

They are awesome and what a lovely friend you are! If she didn't like them she just had to keep them in a flipping cupboard, not give them back to you. I hate to be rude but she's not your friend, she's what is commonly known as a bitch! Don't let her get to you. Ungrateful cow. Xxx

Wow! Thank you all so much. I really appreciate all these comments x