I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

[Idliketobeabutterfly]

She's a spoilt little madam IMO

[Monkeybug]

I would be over the moon and so touched if a friend did this for my baby, not only are they a one off and very beautiful they have been made by a friend with love. I can completely understand why you are upset and with her actions sadly I would say that is exactly what she wanted, not nice at all, sorry that happened to you, they really look gorgeous.

[chunkymum1]

I think whether or not they were an unusual design for a baby girl is irrelevant- whatever the friend privately thinks of this gift it is unbelievably rude to give it back.

I can entirely understand why someone would comment on how nice something was in someone else's house (especially if they knew that it had been hand made) but not want to put them in their own house. Some parents do want baby's bedroom to be precisely themed (can't say I've ever been one, unless you count 'covered in sick' as a theme at times, but I know plenty that are). I can understand that if the friend feels this way then she would not want to have letters in the 'wrong' theme taking price of place.

However, couldn't the friend have been more tactful- maybe making up something about saving them until baby is a bit older/putting them in a room at grannys for her etc. To say that she prefers the professional version 'obviously' and hand them back is beyond rude and shows no understanding of the love that has gone in to a hand made gift.

[DoloresVanCartier]

Thank you Tandia!!! At last!! A voice of sense!!

[Tandia]

I'm with you Dolores. It is an odd gift for a girl, unless based on a request/prior knowledge of a family partiality to superheroes. I think it would be an odd gift for a baby boy's room too, as it's a bit old for a baby (although not in the OPs case as the room had a superhero theme). Based on the nursery stuff that was about when mine were babies it was all Winnie the pooh, teddies, jungle animals, etc. Fine for parents to choose something less traditional, but a bit rude as a gift to impose a different choice on them when they are supposed to be stuck on the wall!

[DoloresVanCartier]

ODFOD. It wasn't in general, as I have explained three times I think now. And to be honest I would not give that type of gift to an unborn child unless it was specifically asked for by the parent/child. So no, it's not the type of gift you give a girl if you don't know the baby or the parents haven't suggested a theme.
WHEN THE POINT WAS THE OP HAD ASKED FOR WHITE FOR HER UNBORN BABY GIRL! SO THEREFORE NOT THE TYPE OF GIFT YOU WOULD GIVE IF YOU HAD BEEN ASKED FOR WHITE FOR A BABY GIRL!
But you continue going on about how I should be challenged over my comment.

Disclaimer...... It is my personal opinion that you can give or receive whatever gift you like to a child/soon to be parents according to your whim, whether superheroes, fairies, tractors or cow pats!! Fill your boots!

[branofthemist]

What I won't have are the  faces because I wrote "not the type of gift you give to a girl".

Won't have? Really?

They are the type of gifts you would give to a girl. Depending on the girl or parents. Which is the same as if the child was a boy. So if you are going to post stuff like 'not the type of gist you give a girl', it's going to be challenged. Because it's wrong.

[DoloresVanCartier]

Onion she could have, but she said she's posting a pic of the letters...

[DoloresVanCartier]

That's entirely true.... But not my point which was to suggest that this post was unrelated to deleted one.
You can give or receive gifts for babies in whatever theme you like, I don't care and I don't think anyone else does. What I won't have are the faces because I wrote "not the type of gift you give to a girl".

[OnionKnight]

The OP of this thread could have used the Captain America letters as an example to stop her from potentially being outed...

[branofthemist]

But if the maker of the letters knows the parents, they may also know their taste and plans.

[DoloresVanCartier]

Bran. I'm quite sure that's what you would do and you are absolutely entitled to do it, however, this was a present for a babies nursery that hadn't been born yet, a girl who hadn't been born yet, that struck me as odd.
My point again was.... The OP on the deleted thread asked for plain white letters for her daughters wall, THIS OP had painted letters of superheroes or whatever on them, unlikely to be linked as not the type of GIFT you would give to an unborn girl.
Or am I completely obtuse ?

[branofthemist]

Nurseries are decorated to the parents taste. My entire stairs has marvel memorabilia on it. My Dd loves captain America et al.

If I were doing a nursery, the sex of the child wouldn't put me off doing captain America. If that's what I wanted, that's what i would do.

[DoloresVanCartier]

I understand that fitfatty, it's the underlying tone of "oh my god, she's said you can't give a boys gift to a girl, let's burn her" attitude that has absolutely pissed me right off this morning!!

[Thefitfatty]

I'm a comic book geek so I totally would have Captain America and Spider Man in my DD's nursery (if we'd bothered with a nursery)...

[DoloresVanCartier]

Fitfatty and Bran. Captain America and Spider-Man.... For a baby girls nursery?
Fair enough my DS loved his Barbie when he was a toddler but I would have thought it a bit strange if he was given Barbie inspired letters to hang on his nursery wall when he was born! But of course it's mumsnet and every little thing that you say offends someone or someone is just waiting to hand your Arse to for a perceived slight.
My point was that the other thread did not ring true and had nothing to do with the OP in the other thread.

[PartyPopper2009]

They said because they can't be sure who the OP is... It was kind of expected, tbh

[Evergreen17]

The other thread was deleted, WHY??

[x2boys]

How do mumsnet know if any threads are real, the other thread was kind of plausible and the op did admit there were some big discrepancies.

[PartyPopper2009]

I think that other one was real, after all, Mumsnet wouldn't know, would they? As I've found them up for sale... Or it's all a load of shit.

[trashbags]

I believed it all. But then I always do, and then end up feeling niaive and silly.

[FuzzyOwl]

SemiNormal MNHQ just said they weren't sure the OP was who they claimed to be.

[branofthemist]

but they aren't the style you would give to a girl are they?

Why not?

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

She claimed to have paid her friend to get her some white letters but as someone pointed out, why wouldn't you just go to Hobby craft?

[ArmySal]

OP claimed their baby's middle name was 'Nedra' (anagram of Arden from this thread).
They claimed the letters were originally white, then OP of this thread painted them elaborately, possibly to remain more anonymous, or to sell on
Was very vague, and a load of bollocks.