I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

[peasweet05]

What a lovely, thoughtful gift. It's not you, your friend is extremely rude and ungrateful!

[Batteriesallgone]

I know someone like this. Eschewed all handmade baby gifts because she only wanted 'professional' and 'new' for her baby.

Try pointing out a made in Bangladesh label means it's unlikely to have been handcrafted from unicorn tears and more likely to be covered in the sweat and tears of labourers barely out of childhood themselves and you get short shrift

Just buy her some tat and reserve your letter painting skills for people with taste and appreciation of hand craft. I think that letter is lovely.

[Eva50]

My pfb has a short name and had been given 4 sets of letters by the time he was a few months old. I have found a place for all of them. Your letter is lovely. Your friend is not.

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

What. A. Bitch.

Yours look good enough to BE professional, apart from anything else!

I would love to receive something so personal and meaningful, something that you had taken so much time and care and attention over. You are a Good Friend and she doesn't deserve you.

[Nanunanu]

Like everyone here says yanbu. A personal gift ffs. You don't just throw that back even if you hate it. You keep it on a cupboard and only bring it out when they come for tea

It is lovely. She sounds Batshit. Yes it is not a machine printed flat design. And the little imperfections are what make it perfect.

What a cow. I just can't get over it

[Evergreen17]

That is a lovely letter you have made!!! And homemade stuff is supposed to have "imperfections" everyone knows that.
I made my brother a pair of cufflinks and matching pendant for his wife. She has not worn that once, fine.

But then I made my friend a beautiful mobile for her son. A month in she was like can you make another one? He broke it
No, I can't! It took me weeks. Lots of people have offered me money so I make them stuff and I always rather just make it for friends.

Your friend was rude and what is more, she is already teaching the wrong values to her children. So there

Dont waste your time, you did a lovely thing

[themorus]

Yanbu, she was very hurtful and probably irrevocably damaged your relationship.

I wouldn't be able to look at her in the same way again. Even if she didn't like them, she shouldn't have given them back. For what its worth I think they are lovely and would have been touched someone had gone to such trouble for me.

[fulltothebrimwithloveliness]

I am always so touched by handmade gifts people create for my children - they are the most special gifts they get and have a story. My mum still reminds me now that my favourite cuddle blanket when I was a child was one made for me by my aunty when I was born.

Your friend was unbelievably rude and I would without question be cooling this friendship. She obviously has no thought for the time and effort you put into crafting something you hoped she would love, and I personally don't have time for inconsiderate (and downright rude!) people like her.

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

YoureAllABunchOfBastards vair funny

[WickedLazy]

That's lovely, you're very talented! Agree you "friend" was probably jealous and wanted a rise out of you. So nasty.

[BurningBridges]

You know what, they could look like shit and if you'd made them for my baby they'd be up in my house for everyone to see, end of. She is outrageously rude - does she have form?

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

I forgot the

[RaggyDoll24]

Wow that's so rude! If one of my friends took the trouble to do this for me, there's no way I'd behave like that. Makes it more special when things are made my a friend. Definitely not BU! Also - those letters are ace!

[forkhandles4candles]

Absolutely unimaginably horrible. That E is lovely.

[hownottofuckup]

Is she always such a bitch?

[OohhItsNotHoxton]

Wow. What a rude ignorant birch.

[LordyMe]

Is this unusual behaviour for her?

Quietly not using your letters would be one thing but to give them back to you and be rude about them is quite another.

[OohhItsNotHoxton]

Bitch not birch. Bloody phone.

[annandale]

Unbelievably rude. If she is fun sometimes, aim to still meet her for a drink or whatever but please never put yourself out for her again.

[TheAntiBoop]

I'm going to guess you have lots of stories about this friend. Which she isn't.

[scaryteacher]

I still have the cross stitch a friend did for my son (and no, it's not perfect), and he is 20, but it was done with love, which is what makes it special.

[FiveShelties]

What a lovely thoughtful gift.

What a horrible ex friend you had.

[MargaretCabbage]

I would love to receive a gift like that. It looks great and is thoughtful. Your friend is rude and ungrateful.

[RuskBaby]

She is unreasonable and rude! If a friend made those for me I would treasure them!