Things not to say to a pregnant woman

[DesignedForLife]

Heavily pregnant, with lively toddler in tow. Put a lot of effort into making DH a lovely made from scratch lasagna for supper, nearly ready when he walked through the door (he's got a lot of extra work on at the moment, thought he'd appreciate it). He said he didn't want dinner as he didn't have time. Which of course, made me burst into tears.

Please share what unhelpful things have been said to you, maybe it will make me feel better.

He's getting fish fingers and chips for dinner for the next few months. (He does do his share of cooking usually).

[Oysterbabe]

"OMG are you only 5 months?! I was still in my skinny jeans until 7 months"

[SchnitzelvonKrummsverylowtum]

FIL

When pregnant with DS - 'we just hope the baby has DH's looks and your brains' - I'm not sure which one of us should have been more offended!

Yesterday, at 23+2 with DC 2 - 'no wonder you have SPD, you're so big!'

[Princesspinkgirl]

You're only pregnant says friend we can walk 2 hours 15 weeks

[Pohara1]

At 8 months pregnant, a friend who had seen me almost every day throughout, said god you're so fat. I responded, 'I'm growing an entire person in there, what's your excuse?'

[MoonriseKingdom]

The opposite to a few people on here but both my parents and ILs keep encouraging me to drink alcohol. I don't have any issue with a woman choosing to have the occasional drink I just don't want to/ have no desire for it. Times of course were different - when my mum had me her midwife sister told her to drink Guiness for the iron. My dad doesn't even drink that often and brought me a bottle of wine when they visited last week. My parents are happy to accept the first no but my ILs (much bigger drinkers) will keep harping on about it being onto have a drink.

Would also like to add my endorsement to never telling a vomiting pregnant woman to eat ginger biscuits. Not if you value your life!

[Batboobs]

Being told how small I look. "Oh you don't look such and such weeks". Well I am (36 weeks), and I feel it.

Not to mention I weigh more than I ever have in my entire lifetime.

[icklekid]

Yes to ginger hatred although obviously well meaning..

Both pregnancies- are you sure theres only one in there? Followed by don't worry bigger babies are easier to get out...yes I'm measuring big however ds1 was only 7lb 2 so not huge!

The worst was a supply teacher looking me up and down and saying "so there's a job going is there?" He was a twat though!

[Fratelli]

Said by a man "the reason women struggle to lose the baby weight is because they eat so much. If they ate properly they would go back to normal straight away."

[OutOfAces]

"Are you ready to atone for your sins through the pain of childbirth?" Said to me by a bloke who stands in the middle of our town centre shouting about the bible.

[queenmools]

You're massive, are you sure it's not twins. Said by my mother in law. I also got "due in November! I thought you were going to say next week" - it was August. It was just a normal pregnancy bump but I'm fairly small and I carried all up front so I guess I looked huge.

[icklekid]

fratelli if only we had known!!! 😂😡

[Fratelli]

I know! Totally our own fault!

[MyBreadIsEggy]

(Pregnant with DC2 at the moment, 16 month age gap between DC1 and 2)
When discussing the "dry spell" she's recently had with her DH (they don't have DC), a friend said: "oh well at least it's not me, you must have kissed you're sex life goodbye when DC1 was born"
I said "well I'll have two children under the age of two soon...we are clearly finding time to do something in the bedroom"
Not offensive...just a bit dim!!

[BARB060609]

Oh I could write a book about this. My first baby is due today and I have had most of the comments already mentioned here. I am 37 and this baby was much planned and wanted, been married 7 years, together for 12 and the amount of people (many who I hardly know) asked was it a "surprise or planned' hmmm after being together that long if we didn't want kids I think one of us may have had the snip!

Also people kindly informing us it will change our life, babies are expensive, they poo a lot, and other blindingly obvious things. Some are laughable but wasn't impressed with FIL who basically reminded me the first few times he saw me after us announcing the pregnancy that I need to be careful because of my age, and not in so many words said don't get your hopes up cos something might go wrong! I could go on!

[NeedACleverNN]

"Are you ready to atone for your sins through the pain of childbirth?" Said to me by a bloke who stands in the middle of our town centre shouting about the bible

Funnily enough, I read this being in the bible somewhere. Our punishment for being kicked out of the garden of Eden. Funny. Adams punishment was just being kicked out but noooooo we have to suffered the pain

(Christians do feel free to correct me. I'm pretty sure I read that somewhere but I could be wrong)

[claraschu]

Because Eve tempted Adam with the apple LOL.

[Mermaid36]

The number of times I got "ooh, your absolutely huge" when I said I was having twins....Well d'uh, there's two babies in there!!

[2ManySweets]

Pinkheart am craving self for this. Back to work in Aug and I think I'll be showing with #2 within a fortnight (I'll be 3mo preg by then...DC1 was born Feb THIS YEAR).

Getting ready for the flabbers to be ghasted and stares of astonishment as they work out the tiny gap between pregnancy 1 and pregnancy 2 before I get asked if it was a mistake/if it's wanted/if I'll be wanting the opposite sex etc etc.

My workplace has a special kind of interfering prat when it comes to pregnancy. My first one was plagued with this shit. No.2 will be worse I'm sure. Argh.

[2ManySweets]

Craving?

bracing

[2yummymummy2]

Mermaid at least you had 2 babies
I've gotten the you're so huge/massive comments and it's only been the one baby

This thread is my fav so far

[Ningnoise]

Anyone who says 'you won't want to do that' in relation to anything later in pregnancy that they couldn't do, failing to acknowledge that we are all individuals and that different people find pregnancy difficult.

People who I tell I plan on breastfeeding but I know a lot of people struggle and get stressed out by it so I'm trying to stay quite chilled out and see how it goes (especially as I suffer from anxiety and don't want to heighten that), and then they respond with a lecture about how breast is best and I must breastfeed and nearly everyone can breastfeed unless there's a medical reason not to, thus piling on the pressure I'm tying to avoid in order not to induce my anxiety!

People who say:

'Wait until you've given birth. You won't be able to do that any more/you'll be so much more tired'.

Oh and the usual 'were you trying?' comments. I feel like responding saying:

'Do you realise you are basically asking me if we were having sex around the same time each month in order to maximise our chances of my husband's sperm meeting my egg'? It is such a personal question!

[2ManySweets]

At the end of my last pregnancy I actually would go "err, nosey much?" Or "hashtag inapropriate" to still "keep it light" but also to give the BACK OFF message loud and clear.

Note: this was only for the gits. Well meaning but annoying advice like ginger biscuits for sickness/raspberry leaf tea for labour I just wanly smiled and reassured people I was "totally on it already" and it's done eff all and gave a Hollywood grin.

[Beebacoff]

My FIL - "I think childbirth is as easy as falling off a log"...

[Beebacoff]

My dad - "All these guidelines about what can or cannot be eaten during pregnancy are complete nonsense"... Said as he served me bleeding undercooked chicken.

He can be a know it all.

[NeedACleverNN]

My FIL - "I think childbirth is as easy as falling off a log

He should talk to my dh. My dh has a bit of PTSD(lighthearted)from my first birth. Can't talk about it without shuddering. He saw my skin split and it really freaked him out